Woman yelled at me in public toilets

bizarre reply

I mean I wouldn’t use hand dryer because they’re woefully unhygienic but yeah the noise is also horrific
maybe just take your own tissues next time
You carry your own tissues to use all the time?

Yes some children are afraid of the hand driers. Others love them and won't stop setting the things off in the school restrooms!

YANBU if she failed to ask you first, she is

I've got 5 children and several nieces and nephews and not a single one of them has been scared of hand dryers. One of my friends kids was scared of them though. So she's ridiculous to say every child is like that, for every child that's scared of them there's 20 more who aren't.

I like them.
I use the minimum needed and dispose of properly.

You should do some research before deriding the “silly women” who won’t use the hand dryers. There’s actually a great deal of research out there concluding that drying by paper towels is more hygiene. And no, I can’t be bothered to give you a link- look it up yourself.

Maybe the child was distresses at her mother’s behaviour rather than the drier! She thinks ‘here we go again, my mother is unhinged!’.

A woman who acts like that in public is not modelling decent behaviour to her daughter.
Hand dryers are there for a reason and we use them.
If he daughter has special needs or has a condition with her ears/hearing and can't handle noise then ear defenders or avoiding public places is better, and that's not your problem.

I'd have told her straight up to get stuffed

I don't have children, but I know it's a 'thing' that some children are scared of them. However, I wouldn't assume that every child is, that's bonkers! If a parent asked I'd be happy not to use the drier, or wait till they'd left depending on whether I was in a hurry and what the weather was like for going out with damp hands.

My daughter was scared of hand dryers when she was little but I would not have shouted at someone for using one.

She’s unreasonable. My son is terrified of hand dryers, but it never occurred to me that anyone else should accommodate that. I’ve taught him to cover his ears and I give him a cuddle and soothe him while it’s going on. He’s gradually getting more used to them.

When I've gone into the toilets overseas where there is someone standing there expecting payment I find my German comes in very handy!

Ah silly me, should’ve read the whole thread, it’s the germ ridden air that’s the problem ! The air you breathe in while you’re in the toilet 🙄

I would have pointed out that maybe her yelling was causing her to be more upset than the dryer noise.

No it legitimately happened. I was subjected to two such gatherings personally. It died a quick death fortunately but it did happen.

The child's anxiety was probably exacerbated by her mother's attitude, one of the 'Yes dear, you ARE scared of the dryer' types, many children are encouraged to be worried about trivial things.

What a nutcase. My toddler is scared of them too but the thought of shouting at a stranger using one is insane. How were you supposed to know? I always just pre warn my dc that it might be loud and reassure her if it goes off.
I would imagine seeing her mother in an altercation with a stranger in a public loo would be more upsetting for a small child anyway.
Don’t give it another thought op. You did nothing wrong.

My daughter looked it up and apparently they blow shit germs all over your hands

Shes an idiot..all my kids hated hand dryer noises but I would never have a go at somone for using them in their presence! How were you to know! She should have took her kids out the bathroom like I do

Wtf. Take some tissues in preparation for drying your hands in public??!! Incase you also upset a child?? Who has time to think this stuff through

How are hand driers unhygienic, you literally don’t touch anything ?

@Koalafan paper towels are generally not great esp in public toilets.
They are bad for the environment in both production and disposal, people leave used ones on the sinks and floors , use them to line toilet seats then flush , leave them on the floor or put them in the sani bins.
Or block the toilets with them.

I have cleaned public toilets in the past and was very glad then they started getting phased out.

She's being ridiculous.

Ds and I are both autistic and hate the noise of hand dryers. We either use the disabled toilet so we dont have to hear it or we wear our ear defenders. You can't control the noise others make.

I'm detest hand dryers, the noise causes me physical pain (I'm autistic and have significant sensory issues); however, that's my problem and not anyone else's responsibility.

You're not a mind reader OP. The woman who yelled at you was in the wrong, not you.

I'd imagine the child was visibly upset because her mad mother was shouting at a stranger in the Tesco jacks.