Woman yelled at me in public toilets

I think the OP is just looking for reassurance that they were entitled to use the hand dryer in a public toilet and shouldn’t be expected to know that a child next to them is afraid of hand dryers.

Just because you wouldn’t use it, doesn’t mean anyone else can’t.

I also don’t think the OP is exaggerating. A family member of mine shouts at anyone in public who doesn’t act like their kids are the second coming of Christ.

Obviously she was being unreasonable.

Don't give it any more thought...maybe she was having a bad day and was stressed to the max and is now thinking what the hell was I doing?!

Anyway OP, of course YANBU and that’s why currently the vote stands at 99% in agreement with you!

The woman sounds like a bully, and clearly thought she can push you around. I hope you told her not to speak to you like that.

If she wanted to make a request that you don’t use the dryer she could’ve asked very politely with the full understanding that it’s up to you if you oblige or not.

Or better still she could’ve quickly taken her child out the toilet or covered their ears.

Her demanding you stop doing that is entitled and also how daft to assume you do or don’t have kids! It’s her who has shown a lack of understanding around children - not all children are the same. Many three year olds are NOT scared of the hand dryer.

And even if you didn’t have kids, why is she belittling you about it then? Surely in her eyes that’s even more reason for you not to have known it scared her daughter.

My kids get distressed by them so it’s in my head to not use them if there are other kids around.
i also have noticed a lot of people say to me that they won’t use them cos the kids are there. It is in a lot of people general awareness but your not BU for not knowing.
she was being awful for shouting at you. Some parents are extremely entitled about their kids but she might have been at the end of her tether.

Why ?????

just in case she comes across another narcissistic entitled parent with her precious child???

Nah…. The sooner the entitled few realise that the world doesn’t revolve around them, the better.

Even so, if your child is upset by a loud noise, how is yelling over that noise at a stranger going to help the matter?

We do?

But I, like that pp, believe this is likely exaggerated

so that is our response

what “help” is the op looking for anyway?

She's clearly completely raving mad.

Maybe this woman was at the end of her tether for some other reason. Her poor DC must have been scared by her.

Wtf???

Unhelpful and unnecessary

My son was terrified of the hand driers….but I would never have considered that no one else was to use them to 'save his soul!!'

In fact, I always used it as a ‘look, they’re using it, and they’re absolutely fine!' Sort of thing.

the entitlement of some people is off the scale….i think I would have just told her that shouting at strangers in a public place is probably scaring her daughter far more than a bloody hand drier!!

I am one of those silly women. I find the hot air dries my skin out and normally let my hands air dry. Wouldn’t use a tissue though.

This exactly.

Utterly irrelevant whether someone else uses hand dryers or find them hygienic or not

They are there to be used if one so chooses. She does not need to use tissue /hand towels if she doesn’t want to.

It’s perfectly ok to use the hand dryer provided.

ETA: I see @Funkeh has responded to this with a laughing emoji. I assume giggling at their own foolishness on show 🤷🏻‍♀️☺️

i never forget these women tutting angrily at dd for using the drier at the loos at gatwick airport
totally unreasonable,
as is the mother in this case!

😘

Because a lot of the older style ones (such as supermarkets) recycle air from the toilets, you are aware of what air in toilets with no ventilation is like right? 💩

I'll wager the child was also equally upset and distressed at her mother shouting. I really dislike a lot of noises (have hyperacusis) and so my childhood was full of distressing sounds until I learned how to avoid or deal with some of them, but a parent shouting would also have made me stick my fingers in my ears and wail, so I think her mother handled it badly.

Get a grip. It's a public toilet with a hand dryer, the OP did nothing wrong. How you dry your hands in public loos is your business.

If the child of the aggressive woman is sensitive to noise then her mum needs to speak up in a civilised manner before allowing a situation to arise which causes her child distress and then shouting at people in public.

Were you there? What a ridiculous post. 'We' are supportive of other women and don't accuse them of making things up.

Sorry OP, this is a stupid post. The woman was clearly being OTT.

And why do you think they are unhygienic? I see so many silly women in public toilets flapping their hands around and not looking at the instructions for the dryer then getting out a couple of tissues from their bags (or even using toilet paper) - this isn't designed to do the job