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Woman yelled at me in public toilets

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empee47 · 25/05/2025 07:58

Went to Tesco yesterday and visited the loo. Washed my hands and turned on the hand dryer and another lady started yelling at me that I was upsetting her daughter because of the noise. Daughter looked to be about 3 and was visibly distressed. Had they asked me not to use the dryer until they’d left the sink area and explained why, I wouldn’t have done. Apparently I can’t possibly be a mum myself as everyone knows kids are scared of the noise. Happens that I have 2 kids myself and the noise has never bothered them. It was the aggressive way she was bellowing at me in public that annoyed me and the sense of entitlement that everything had to run her way.

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ProtectTransRights · 25/05/2025 08:44

World doesn't revolve around her kid 🤷🏼‍♀️ don't worry about it

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:43

ShillyShallySherbet · 25/05/2025 08:43

Oh ok thanks for your input, really useful.

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no problem

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WaltzingWaters · 25/05/2025 08:43

She was ridiculous. My toddler is scared of the hand dryer at the moment but I just warn him to cover his ears. I don’t use it myself when with him, but I don’t expect others not to use it.

Outrageistheopiateofthemasses · 25/05/2025 08:43

Nope. Both my kids didn't/ don't like the hand dryer noise. However, she can fuck right off with her rude and entitled behaviour

My19thNervousNameChange · 25/05/2025 08:42

Not the point of the thread but should it not be front page news that the air from hand dryers is directly recycled from the air in the toilet bowl and therefore absolutely bung full of airborne poo particulates?
Does this mean you should wear a gas mask when going for a wee for fear of inhaling the poo drops of a million unwashed shitsprayers?

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EdithBond · 25/05/2025 08:41

It must have shaken you up.

Shouting at people is unacceptable and sets a bad example to her DC. She must’ve been having a stressful day.

Lots of young kids get upset by hand dryers. If they are, you explain to them it’s only a dryer and can’t hurt them. In fact, explain how it works and why it makes a noise. If it still upsets them, keep an eye if someone’s about to use one and get out of the toilets quickly or politely ask them if they can give you a minute to get out.

C152 · 25/05/2025 08:40

That is very odd, although a woman at a public pool changing room did ask me once if it was ok if she blowdried her hair because I was with my child and she knew children could be fightened of the noise. As you say, if would have been better if the woman you encountered had asked you politely to wait until they had left rather than just assuming you'd be psychic and shouting at you.

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:40

Funnywonder · 25/05/2025 08:38

I simply don’t believe the OP was bellowed at

Come to NI. You will be bellowed at regularly. Especially at soft play. Thank Christ those days are over for me.

never in a million years!!!

Helpmeplease2025 · 25/05/2025 08:39

countingdownforseptember · 25/05/2025 08:36

I’ll be honest here under the cloak of anonymity: people are fucking ridiculous with the hand driers, ensuring no drip of water remains on their hands rather than a quick blast.

Its my issue but sometimes I do really want to start shouting at everyone to STFU with them; I hate them!

people can do what they want, you are right, it’s your issue, not theirs

Funnywonder · 25/05/2025 08:38

I simply don’t believe the OP was bellowed at

Come to NI. You will be bellowed at regularly. Especially at soft play. Thank Christ those days are over for me.

ShillyShallySherbet · 25/05/2025 08:38

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:35

You have completely misunderstood my post if you think I think anyone was unreasonable

I simply don’t believe the OP was bellowed at

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Totally understand that you don’t think anyone was unreasonable, I just disagree and think that the mum of the child was unreasonable. Is it ok for me to disagree with you?

ladycarlotta · 25/05/2025 08:37

YANBU. I understand the woman might be anxious and tense about her child's distress and sometimes we externalise this and blame others around us. I sometimes feel utter rage when dogs barking or motorbikes revving or kids shouting wake my baby when we're out - but this is my issue since I've brought her to a shared space where people are living their lives. Unfortunately this woman has lost sight of that.

Obviously it's great to be considerate where we can, but we can't always pre-empt what's going to be unpleasant for a random stranger and we'd all go mad if we tried. Not your fault, OP, the most charitable thing to do is assume she was having a really bad day.

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:37

thepariscrimefiles · 25/05/2025 08:35

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Never have. Never will.

if it’s a troll thread, doesn’t mean not fairly entertaining to watch unfold!

ResidentPorker · 25/05/2025 08:37

If she was shouting at you (rather than just trying to be heard over the sound of the dryer) then she's a dick. The world doesn't revolve around her child.

countingdownforseptember · 25/05/2025 08:36

I’ll be honest here under the cloak of anonymity: people are fucking ridiculous with the hand driers, ensuring no drip of water remains on their hands rather than a quick blast.

Its my issue but sometimes I do really want to start shouting at everyone to STFU with them; I hate them!

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Funnywonder · 25/05/2025 08:35

There are some very strange people in the world. My eldest hated the noise from hand dryers when he was small, so we were usually in and out of the toilets like ninjas! Certainly didn’t expect anyone to be a bloody mind reader. Some women noticed him clamping his hands over his ears and kindly stopped using the dryer, which is what I would do if I became aware of the problem. But you have to be aware that there’s a problem in the first place. My youngest wasn’t in the least bit bothered by dryer noise, so it’s certainly not inevitable that children will be distressed.

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:35

ShillyShallySherbet · 25/05/2025 08:34

True and in this case the OP is correct in thinking they were not in the slightest bit unreasonable.

We’ll have to agree to disagree on your second point. I think the mother of the child was the unreasonable one here even if she calmly reprimanded the OP for using the handryer.

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You have completely misunderstood my post if you think I think anyone was unreasonable

I simply don’t believe the OP was bellowed at

BMW6 · 25/05/2025 08:35

Funkeh · 25/05/2025 08:07

Because a lot of the older style ones (such as supermarkets) recycle air from the toilets, you are aware of what air in toilets with no ventilation is like right? 💩

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The deadly poisonous shit riddled air that you are breathing deep into your lungs all the time you are in the toilet you mean???

PMSL 😂🙄

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ShillyShallySherbet · 25/05/2025 08:34

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:29

Well you should that many many many an OP starts an AIBU when they very very clearly do not think they were even the slightest bit unreasonable

in any event,,, no one was reasonable or unreasonable in this scenario. Because this woman did not “bellow” at the Op

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True and in this case the OP is correct in thinking they were not in the slightest bit unreasonable.

We’ll have to agree to disagree on your second point. I think the mother of the child was the unreasonable one here even if she calmly reprimanded the OP for using the handryer.

WavyRavey · 25/05/2025 08:33

Would have told her to bugger off the silly cow

notprincehamlet · 25/05/2025 08:33

I get a lot of mileage out of the phrase Do I look like Derren Brown?