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Aibu to think not very nice people seem to do well in life

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Springslopes12 · 25/05/2025 07:14

I know this post may come across as jealous/bitter and I guess I am. However I just feel that people who aren't very nice seem to do well in life i.e financial and do well in business. It's probably to do with their personality and that they don't care about who they upset therefore they move higher in the ranks.
I've just seen a girl I used to be friends with pop up and she is married to the guy she was with many years ago. They have the biggest house, nicest things, go to fancy events and places.
However I know she's not a nice person that's why I cut her out of my life. I was bullied badly by another girl on holiday and she joined in. She didn't stick up for me or help me. That holiday was absolutely horrible for me. Cried so much!
She was always trying to compete with me too and better me. I just feel why do these people get what they want. It's just not fair. I did tell her the reasons why I stopped talking to her as she asked why I was being quiet with her. She tried to dismiss her actions but I did not accept it.

OP posts:
Spamtomatoes · 25/05/2025 07:28

Of course there are decent people who do well, but psychopaths are over represented in top leadership positions.

user1476613140 · 25/05/2025 07:26

Oh yes I know what you mean.

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 25/05/2025 07:23

Confirmation bias - try also looking for really nice people who do well - you’ll find them.

Also, nice is an opinion - there will be people who like your bully!

Also it does take certain personality traits to climb certain ladders. So yes sometimes ruthless people make strides.

spring12365 · 25/05/2025 07:22

I feel you on this. My sibling is deeply unpleasant and is, on paper, doing 'very well' in life. Big salary, foreign holidays, car, lifestyle to match. The way they have treated our family has been atrocious. Also school bullies that have gone on to do well. It can feel so demoralising, I work longer hours, plus take time to look out/care for others, yet my earnings and lifestyle pale in comparison. I also am crippled with self-doubt and low confidence due to bullying. Sometimes it feels like being deeply unpleasant gets you 'on' in life because you only care about yourself, while those who look out for others just end up being used, abused and hurt.