To report driving instructor to police

REPORT brings back terrible memories of sexual harassment from a 60 year old driving instructor I had . It's all a form of abuse and they think they can get away with it .

Without the videos there is little you can do other than report so they have the complaint on file.

The [[https://www.gov.uk/complain-about-a-driving-instructor#:~:text=Contact%20the%20Driver%20and%20Vehicle,or%20arriving%20late%20for%20lessons DVSA deals with driving instructor complaints].
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You could also try the police. This is disability harassment but without an underlying crime it’s not a hate crime. You may have a crime in that he recorded your DS without his consent in a place where it may be considered he had a right of privacy (and then shared the video). That might be a stretch but because of your DS’s vulnerability they ought to consider it. If they decide it’s probably a crime the police will be able to get his phone to see if they can retrieve the video, though they may have a higher bar for doing so. It’s difficult to know.

If you can get your friend to share the video and, ideally, give a statement, you may be able to get more action.

It’s shocking that someone would do that to your DS. I hope he can move on quickly and it doesn’t have too much lasting impact.

I also would have thought a driving instructor isn’t allowed to use a mobile phone when in charge of a learner driver, this is why cars have dual controls. I would definitely report him to the police and the link above on how to report a driving instructor.

I would be putting severe pressure on the ‘friend’ who was sent the video to hand it over. I would accept no BS about it having bee deleted. If they refused I would be naming them in m retaliations. A fiend would not stand aside and let your son be treated like this.

I have read the thread, thank you. But OP doesn’t have any proof of this, only assumptions and is considering trying to report him to the police for turning seat heaters on (which is easily done by accident). I’m not defending the DI ffs, I’m just trying to get some perspective as from what OP says, there’s absolutely zero proof of any of this. Only hearsay.
However, if the person who says they saw a video and had this DI laughing about it to him, can get hold of a copy of the video then I would definitely put it on a local Facebook group! I wouldn’t care if they tried to make my life difficult, it would destroy his reputation and maybe even make him realise how bad his behaviour was 🤷🏻‍♀️
I have a DC with Autism so I do understand. I just also have had said Autistic child totally misunderstand the nuances & context of a situation before, leading her to believe something which was categorically not as she thought it was! I’m only adding another possibility… If this other person can provide proof of their claims though, then like I said, humiliate the arsehole bully!!!

Read the thread. The toe rag used his mobile phone to film OPs son.

@AntaresAltered Im so sorry for your loss.

Almost all driving instructors have cameras in their car? You haven’t really explained how he was bullying your DS? I don’t see how turning the seat heaters on is bullying? It’s also not a crime

I’d f”ing kill the driving instructor. What a bully!

By pen, tooth or sword I would be ensuring he lived to regret his actions.

I’d try the legal advice route first/ police/ solicitor/ citizen andvide etc. Filming a minor and distributing it for sport must be an offence. Malicious use of communications act?

I’d also use social media posting and sharing on my own phase as well as on every local group telling the full story. Set up an anonymous account if you want to protect your son’s privacy. The driving will know it’s you but so what! We have a local page called Saints and Sinners where people can post about their experiences with local businesses. I’d include names images of business logo etc so no one is in any doubt

My Dad always said when people do you wrong hit them in the pocket.

I’m so sorry that your son had this awful experience. Such a despicable cruel thing to do. I really hope you floor the bollix.

I am so sorry this happened to your son. My son had autism. He passed away as a teenager, and we had many, many incidences like this over his life where people were awful to him. It boiled my blood then, and does more so now he has gone.
We reported some bullying incidents to the police, including when’re a gang of youths who bullied my son were filmed thumping and kicking on our front door in the middle of the night. Investigated a hate crime.
However there are far more good people on the world than bad. This DI deserves reporting and I hope
your son can understand that his neurodiversity is valued by so many of us.

If he was filming him from a mobile while the car is moving then I would definitely report to the police and the organisation that oversees driving instructors. He may not be driving, but I imagine the same rules would apply as he needs to be able to take control of the car at a split second if needed.

I’d smash his fucking car windows in, bullying bastard. Just make sure your face is covered & nothing identifiable as he’s not worth getting into trouble for, but he deserves proper payback.

I wouldn't play games like that. I expect they'd have to pay in advance anyway. ETA I see he takes deposits.

Give him a bad review on Trustpilot or other review site.

I would report it to anyone could report it to, but I fear I also wouldn't be able to resist the urge to go and have it out with the man myself (I also have an autistic DS).

I'd imagine he's just got no desire to get involved on the grounds it's nothing to do with him - he's not responsible for any other person's poor behaviour just because they are a driving instructor.

Get him reported. There must be some code of conduct with the DVLA for instructors and he certainly isn't following it. I hope your son manages to overcome this and gets an instructor who's decent.

What a vile man! I’m not sure what the best course of action is but I’d feel exactly the same as you, his behaviour shouldn’t be minimised. Enjoying causing a vulnerable person or any innocent person distress is absolutely not normal.

There is surely a safeguarding duty here he's breached.

Complain to the police.

Tell them a friend has reported being shown the video.

Frame it as a hate crime - bullying, mocking, filming a distressed disabled young person.

Be clear on how much it has upset him to be treated like this.

If you can include references to the dodgy activities, especially if they were criminal, it may help the police to make that connection.

And there seem to be several driving instructor associations in the UK you could contact.

I wonder if it would be possible for him to eventually start framing it as the driving instructor behaving abnormally - to break down what happened and how absurd and frankly dumb it was.

Your DS was the client, and this driving instructor was just really really bad at his job - the job you were paying him to do. It's part of his job description to help pupils feel safe and comfortable behind the wheel - he couldn't even manage to hit the very baseline of what's expected of him. Perhaps talking these things through with your son could help him to feel less inferior / "abnormal" and instead feel like someone who received piss poor service and deserved much better?

I struggled to learn to drive and worry about how my ASD son will manage - so your post has really hit home with me!

I would report to the police. They can decide if there's a case to answer.

If he was using his phone to video or to text when he was supposed to be supervising your son, then that is illegal and you can report him to the police for that. Personally I would be naming and shaming him all over SM. What an abhorrent cunt of a man. I’m so sorry this has happened to your DS OP.