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Petty neighbour

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:41

So I’ve been living in my flat with my family for just over 3 years now, everyone has been lovely never had an issue with anyone, we have 1 allocated parking space for each flat and the parking is really tight, I always be careful to not hit anyone’s car door with my door but sometimes I have to lean my door on there’s to get in and out as I won’t fit otherwise and I think it’s gotten harder now as I’m 37 weeks pregnant!
so in my post box today I found a handwritten note from the neighbour who parks next to me and she’s said she’s noticed some paint marks of my car on her car and if we could call her to look into it together 😐 its just transferred paint and will come off even if you lick your finger I’m so shocked she’s actually said something like this as she knows I’m pregnant and we’re also moving out in 2 days!
Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her I’m literally waddling around in so much pain moving house and heavily pregnant I thought she’d be more considerate

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pinkstripeycat · 24/05/2025 22:04

HappiestSleeping · 24/05/2025 22:01

Paint doesn't "just transfer". Cars have layers of paint, and then layers of lacquer, so if paint has "just transferred" it was a pretty hefty rub.

This

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:03

@HappiestSleepingIt can because it’s happened to mine, my car is white and once I saw some red marks on my car from someone parked next to me I thought it was damaged also till I just tried to wipe it off with a wet wipe and it came off there was nothing there after end off not the end of the world 🤣

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KaToby · 24/05/2025 22:03

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:57

@KaTobyWell how am I supposed to get out of my car if I have no space to fit through my door and heavily pregnant I have to lean my door on hers I don’t slam my door because I don’t want to damage my door too I’m not an idiot lol

I’ve had 3 babies, I know what being heavily pregnant is like. You could park somewhere else, get out and get someone else to park for you, speak to your neighbour and explain so they can potentially move their car to help you (probably too late for this option)
Plenty of pregnant woman manage to park and not hit other cars with their door.

HappiestSleeping · 24/05/2025 22:01

Paint doesn't "just transfer". Cars have layers of paint, and then layers of lacquer, so if paint has "just transferred" it was a pretty hefty rub.

BurningMrs · 24/05/2025 22:00

YABU

Azandme · 24/05/2025 21:59

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:57

@KaTobyWell how am I supposed to get out of my car if I have no space to fit through my door and heavily pregnant I have to lean my door on hers I don’t slam my door because I don’t want to damage my door too I’m not an idiot lol

That's not her problem, and it doesn't excuse you marking her car.

Don't be a dick.

MrBlobbyScaresMe · 24/05/2025 21:58

You're making a lot of assumptions, the morally correct thing to do would be to go over and look at the damage with her, if it's paint and you can wipe it off then job done surely?

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:57

@KaTobyWell how am I supposed to get out of my car if I have no space to fit through my door and heavily pregnant I have to lean my door on hers I don’t slam my door because I don’t want to damage my door too I’m not an idiot lol

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:56

@JojimojiI don’t think she’s realised it’s just paint because she probably hasn’t even tried to get it off maybe if she tried and then realised it was more than paint I’d understand I could literally wipe it off in front of her to prove it I don’t understand why she’s going so far to write a note to us about it and thank you!

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Linked · 24/05/2025 21:55

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:46

@BallerinaRadioIts just transferred paint somebody’s done it to mine it comes of if you wipe it it’s not a scratch or dent she probably hasn’t even tried to take it off herself Jesus

How do you know if you haven’t looked at it?

KaToby · 24/05/2025 21:53

Your neighbour isn’t petty. I’d be furious if someone was leaning their car door on none regularly and enough to transfer paint!

Jojimoji · 24/05/2025 21:47

If it's just "transferred paint that comes off with a lick of the finger" from your car, then why didn't you clean it off?

If she's gone to the trouble of writing you a note asking you to look into it, then it doesn't sound as if it's quite as menial as you think it is????

(On a separate note, Good luck with your baby and your move🤗)

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:46

@BallerinaRadioIts just transferred paint somebody’s done it to mine it comes of if you wipe it it’s not a scratch or dent she probably hasn’t even tried to take it off herself Jesus

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BallerinaRadio · 24/05/2025 21:44

If you've marked her car you've marked her car, I'm not sure you being pregnant plays into her consideration to be fair. If you've marked it, and it sounds like you're not denying it, then really yes you should sort it.