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Petty neighbour

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 21:41

So I’ve been living in my flat with my family for just over 3 years now, everyone has been lovely never had an issue with anyone, we have 1 allocated parking space for each flat and the parking is really tight, I always be careful to not hit anyone’s car door with my door but sometimes I have to lean my door on there’s to get in and out as I won’t fit otherwise and I think it’s gotten harder now as I’m 37 weeks pregnant!
so in my post box today I found a handwritten note from the neighbour who parks next to me and she’s said she’s noticed some paint marks of my car on her car and if we could call her to look into it together 😐 its just transferred paint and will come off even if you lick your finger I’m so shocked she’s actually said something like this as she knows I’m pregnant and we’re also moving out in 2 days!
Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her I’m literally waddling around in so much pain moving house and heavily pregnant I thought she’d be more considerate

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MathsMagpie · 24/05/2025 22:35

“You don’t sound like you’ve been pregnant before” is really rude and insensitive when this forum is a safe space for alot of women with fertility issues. You sound like you think you’re the first pregnant woman in the world and everyone should be inconvenienced or allow their property to be damaged to accommodate. If your pregnancy is preventing you from safely getting in and out of your car without causing damage or paint transfer to others’ vehicles then you need to park elsewhere or find another solution.

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:35

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevonHonestly if there was any other way I would but the parking is so tight everyone has to reverse into their parking space there’s no space to even turn in the car park it’s a nightmare thank god I’m leaving in 2 days and my new house will have its own driveway 🥵

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VivX · 24/05/2025 22:34

"Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her"

You call her, of course.

MathsMagpie · 24/05/2025 22:33

Christ Biscuit

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:32

@mrskittenpiewell how do you expect to fit out of your car door if someone is parked so tight to you pregnant or not but being heavily pregnant makes it much harder? You don’t sound like you’ve been pregnant before 😂 I’m sure there’s been times you’ve had to lean your door on someone else to get out so stop it please be realistic I know what Mumsnet is like anyway don’t know why I bother tbh😂

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Lovemycat2023 · 24/05/2025 22:31

I know what you mean by it wipes off - I have coloured wax for my car (it’s white, so skies other paint easily) and any paint transfer polishes out. You could offer to buy some of that for her to keep the peace?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/05/2025 22:31

If you can't fit out of the car, then you need to park differently i.e. if you are driving it in frontwards then you need to reverse in as that way your door will be on the opposite side to her car.

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:30

@NominativeI will try to wipe it off if it doesn’t come off then I’ll obviously let her know it’s really not that deep

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Linked · 24/05/2025 22:28

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:23

@NominativeYes of course! My husband is really big on stuff like that but I know for a fact it’s just a bit of paint

I keep asking this, but how do you know if you haven’t gone and spoken them?

mrskittenpie · 24/05/2025 22:28

Are you the world’s first pregnant woman? Because you’re acting like it

Nominative · 24/05/2025 22:26

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:23

@NominativeYes of course! My husband is really big on stuff like that but I know for a fact it’s just a bit of paint

Then I don't understand why you suggested that you might leave without dealing with this. Surely it's a no-brainer, you call your neighbour and sort it out?

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:23

@NominativeYes of course! My husband is really big on stuff like that but I know for a fact it’s just a bit of paint

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:21

@KaTobyHoneslty I have been through soo so much worse in these last 6 months of renovating my new house it’s nowhere near as bad as getting paint on someone’s car I’ve had lots and lots of brand new items damaged and parts of my house ruined by cowboys and dealt with so much and wasted soo much money whilst being pregnant it’s been hell! I know it’s not her problem but I’ve been through it so when I see something soo so minor like this I just think wow wish that’s all I had to worry about

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Nominative · 24/05/2025 22:20

If you try to wipe the paint off and it won't go, will you agree to pay for her door to be resprayed? It's not her fault you're pregnant, is it?

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:17

@ReadingSoManyThreadsI don’t know why I haven’t actually I should, then she’ll be wondering oh where’s it gone 😂

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KaToby · 24/05/2025 22:17

I’m genuinely shocked that people can be this selfish and believe the neighbour is in the wrong!

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/05/2025 22:15

I'd just go out and wipe the paint off. Job done.

LaMarschallin · 24/05/2025 22:14

Do I act like I’ve never seen the note and just leave or do I actually call her

Since this seems to be your question, the consensus would appear to be "call her".
Unfortunately, pregnancy doesn't absolve you from damaging someone's property.
If you're right and the mark comes off with a wet wipe, good.
If it doesn't, you're responsible.

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:10

@HappiestSleepingNope it was only a year or two ago, anyways If I see her I will go to her car with her with a wet wipe and wipe it off for her, job done 👍 🤣

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:08

@BurningMrsok yeah should’ve just asked my landlord to magic me a new parking space preferably a large one for parents so I don’t get a bit of paint on someone’s car 🫣

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HappiestSleeping · 24/05/2025 22:07

raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:03

@HappiestSleepingIt can because it’s happened to mine, my car is white and once I saw some red marks on my car from someone parked next to me I thought it was damaged also till I just tried to wipe it off with a wet wipe and it came off there was nothing there after end off not the end of the world 🤣

If that was a long time ago, it's possible, but cars made in the last 20 odd years have lacquered paint, not single stage.

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raisingstars · 24/05/2025 22:06

@KaTobyI’m sorry but there is nowhere else nearby to park where I live outside the car park is a double yellow line I depend on my parking space plus who am I going to randomly find to park my car for me seriously??! And no there is no way I’m fitting through a tiny gap with my huge tummy! Trust me I don’t want to damage my car either not to sound like a snob I don’t drive a cheap car it’s the tiniest bit of paint she needs to chill we’ve always been so kind to her always helped her whenever it was needed that’s why I’m shocked she come out with a note like this

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BurningMrs · 24/05/2025 22:05

Transferring paint onto someone else’s car by leaning your door on it is unreasonable whether you’re pregnant, single, elderly or a teenager.

YABU. If you can’t park safely without knocking your door into another car then you need to park elsewhere.

Redpeach · 24/05/2025 22:05

God people and their cars, get a life

Koazy · 24/05/2025 22:05

It’s been bashed to transfer. You’ll need to go and see if it needs fixing