Petty neighbour

Obviously the bath, radiators etc are for the newly renovated house that she's moving to.

It's hardly rocket science 🙄

Just stop and think about what you're saying OP. You say "It's just transferred paint", but for paint to be transferred to car A, it must have left car B. So at least one of the two cars has less paint than it did before. You can't just assume that it's only your car which has lost paint in these little incidents. It's quite possible (indeed probable) that paint has transferred from her car to your car too. And if that's the case, then this is damage, and she's not unreasonable to be irked by it.

Sure you are struggling, and it does sound hard, but your position seems to be that:

(1) because of your own struggles, other people who have no personal connection to you should overlook things you do, and.
(2) because you are more laissez-faire about looking after your own property, anyone who is more careful / concerned than you are is being precious and difficult.

Sorry OP but those two things are red flags for you being a cheeky f**ker (CF).

Acknowledge the note, don't be a dick.
Fgs my children are aware that they cause damage to someone else's property. They must pay for the damage.
Don't be sly.

Glad it came off, but yes you should still call and apologise and let her know it’s sorted

Re all these issues:
”Ive had my brand new stone bath damaged and scratched my brand new brass radiator scratched from top to bottom, my new door frames bashed, my flooring completely ruined after paying so so much for it as well and I’ve said nothing! Because some of them was an accident and accidents happen I don’t go around asking people to go pay for it I know a lot of people would and I probably should’ve”

Yes you absolutely need to say something about all of these things!!
Even if some were accidents, the companies will be insured and should sort them out. Stop being a pushover

If these items are in your new house, you are going to be pissed off every time you notice them

If they are in your current house you need to get them sorted before the new buyers move in and complain!

People have different standards - what’s a small insignificant scratch for 1 person is a dealbreaker for another

Accept that, sort out the issues and move on - you will have plenty to focus on in a few weeks! 👶

You're moving out in 2 days and just recently spent a ton of money on renovations? Something doesn't ring true here....

You've not answered the question. If it comes off with a wet wipe, why didn't you wipe it off? Then, according to you, there would have been nothing to see, and no note. You're coming across as a bit of an idiot here.

I’d be furious too. I would not accept any marks on my car from someone else’s car. The cheek 😱

I’ve no idea why she went to all that expense for a rented flat that she’s moving out of, but here we are 🤔

Absolute mountain out of molehill, anyway. As soon as you read the note, pop round with your trusty wet wipes, apologising as you rub off the paint. Oh and yes £100 for the wardrobe will be great, thanks Sandra. Job done.

Absolutely do this, then call her and tell her you’ve had a look and it’s sorted.

Ugh, massive typos!

Sorry OP but you are being a bit of a that. You posted in AIBU but you are over---defensive. Don't post if you don't like the responses.

Also, I would be massively pissed off if my card got marked. As someone else said you aren't the first person to be pregnant and if it was so easy to remove the stain why didn't you do it the first place?

Have you read any of the replies? I haven't seen a single one as yes that suggests the neighbour is selfish or in the wrong?

being pregnant isnt a get out of jail free card
speak to the neighbour

You are definitely being unreasonable putting your car door against another car door - pregnant or not. Maybe make an excuse this time to your neighbour about being heavily pregnant but don't do it again. That's not ok.

OP when you’ve eventually given birth you’ll have a baby to get out of your car usually in a car seat. Unfortunately many spaces you’ll park will be tight and lots of places won’t have a child and parent parking spaces.

You may want to consider adjusting your method as I don’t imagine it will get the reception to match your attitude.

YABVVU to even ‘rest’ your car door on someone else’s car! If I saw you do that to mine, I’d be pretty pissed off… Oh and if you’ve left paint on hers, that’s not just a transfer. Stop being an entitled dick.

Why have you spent so much money on your house recently if you’re moving in 2 days

I’m sorry you’ve had a lot of life stress at the moment, I can’t imagine renovating, moving and having a baby in a short space of time!

My suggestion is;

• Call or text your neighbour to say that your husband’s managed to wipe the paint off but you are happy to look at the damage together if need be.
• Stop reading this thread as some of the insensitive comments on here are not going to help you.
• Take a deep breath.

Enjoy your new home and new baby!

That is because your car is 15 years old and full of scratch marks and you don’t give a shiny shit about it because you don’t think it matters! 😂

I don’t think you’ve come across well on this thread OP. You’ve obviously got a lot going on.

TBH you have made a mountain out of a mole hill. She only asked to meet with you to discuss the matter. You could have met with her armed with your baby wipes and wiped the marks off- job done! No need to sour relations.

FWIW I understand you need to lean on the car next to you, I’ve done it myself when pregnant. I use my hand between the cars at the widest bit between the doors where they touch to ensure there isn’t any damage- however irrelevant (to you) that maybe.

Good luck with your house move, I’ve renovated- it’s tough! You need to come down harder on your contractors, they are taking the piss causing all that damage for which they will be insured for. I’ve no idea why you aren’t addressing their carelessness and excusing it for accident.

Alright 😂 professional victim.

Strange because you're certainly coming over as one.

NRTFT. No poll but YABU. How the fuck do you think this is OK?

You've marked their car - If its the kind of mark you can wipe off, wipe it off! If it's anything more, pay for it. Your pregnancy is irrelevant.

Wowzers - rude

FFS!!

I cannot fathom the hard time the OP has received on this thread. Utterly pathetic - the lot of you 😅

The paint mark came off !!! Drama over now folks. You'll have to go and clutch your pearls over something else now. Maybe have a gander at my 15 year old car and all its scratch marks that I do not give one shiny shit about because It Doesn't Matter....