Petty neighbour

I'm not quite sure what your AIBU is as the note is quite polite saying she's seen paint marks rather than you've scratched it.
But if I were you I would go or send DH to go and wipe the paint off then send a message/text to the neighbour saying you're sorry and you've wiped it off now.
I understand your space is small and you are heavily pregnant but if this happens to another neighbour's car they might not be so polite about it so you might have to come up with a way to get out without marking other cars

…and I bet I know just what kind…

“Mrs Hyacinth Bucket, is that you?!”

you left paint on/scratched her car. She wrote you a polite note - she didn’t stop you in the street to screech at you (you attitude though makes it seem like that’s the case :D Waaaaay over the top) You’re in the wrong.
Even if you’re pregnant
Even if you’re moving
Even if she has complained about others at some point in her life

You certainly don’t seem to come across as the “nice person” you claim somewhere to be.
Sort the damage/wipe the paint you left. Pack, move (literally) on.

Go and meet her with a cloth and wipe it off then. You sound like you think she should be ok with it ?

You are being utterly unreasonable.

Yabvvu. Your pregnancy isn't her problem and doesn't give you permission to be cavalier about valid concerns that you're damaging her car. It's inconvenient for you, but that's life.

Yes. Yet to tight to pay for damages caused by her reckless actions, pregnant or not.

Put something between the edge of your door and hers OP, for the next 2 days. Do this any where you park, if you doubt you can avoid touching their door with yours. Keep a cloth or an old hat or something in the car.

You should do as she asks and agree to go down with her and take a look. Because that's the reasonable thing to do. Take a wet wipe with you and see if it wipes off. Tell her you are sorry for the paint transfer.
If it doesn't wipe off you ask her what she wants to do, you can pay for Chips Away or similar or see if she wants to go through the insurance.
You don't just move away and not speak with her!!

Maybe it is just a wipeable mark but you are astonishingly blasé and arrogant about routinely leaning your car door on someone else's car and expecting them to be cool with any damage "because it's a trivial matter".

(Sniggers at the pretentious stone bath!)

Sorry OP, as you were.

She’s pregnant. She’s allowed to be a dick ..

If you are convinced that it’s just a paint transfer that will come off, it means you saw it when it happened. So YABmassivelyU for not addressing it at the time it happened. Let alone now questioning your neighbour.

She isn’t being petty, she’s asked to resolve it together, because sometimes when you wipe paint a scratch can reveal itself, and then she wouldn’t have proof it was you if she cleaned off the colour. So she wants to do it together. She would be petty if she kicked off and told you to pay straight away, but instead she politely asked you to have a look with her. You are being petty by questioning her.

Yes, you’re definitely coming across as too nice on your posts

I bet the neighbours have bought the bunting already!

@KaToby 100% agree, I have a new car I work hard for and would be furious if I saw anyone pregnant or otherwise putting there door on to mine. I’ve been heavily pregnant in tight spaces I put my hand over my door so the door doesn’t touch the other car just my hand

So your problems are huge but hers is petty?

“Obviously”? Not remotely obvious from the original post where you planned to move without speaking to her.

What you touch their car when getting out of yours? And as a result damaged their property? And you think YOU are the victim and they’re the problem. Come on, it’s common sense that you ensure you don’t touch other people’s cars, let alone damage them and being pregnant doesn’t excuse it at all. I have allocated parking spaces, I’m disabled with an autistic child and guess what - we have never even touched our neighbours car and if we ever damaged it you bet I would realise I’m in the wrong.

has your victim act got you far?

YABU. If you'd added a poll then I'm pretty sure it would have been around 99% YABU.

You put your hand over the edge of the car door so the metal doesn't touch their car.

If it's just paint that can be wiped off then why didn't you?! That's do lazy and rude!

Contact the neighbour and go and clean the paint off. If there is any further damage then pay for a repair.

When the Daily Mail gets hold of this and finds out OP is the first pregnant woman in history, all hell is going to break loose. Follow-up story: AND she’s moving house, history is being made here.

Waddle down, sort it out. Move house in peace.

Good luck.

There will be scratches from the paint transfer.
A wet wipe won't remove scratch marks.
I would be mortified, apologetic, requesting a quotation for buffing off the scratch marks.

Your attitude stinks.

Not clear, and not rocket science at all. Bit then OPs posts pretty much are unclear anyway with conflicting info....well done you though for being on the same wave length as her....

So why DIDN'T you lick your finger and wipe it off? You caused the marks. If they're that easy to clean, YOU clean them.

YABU and your subsequent posts prove that you have a shitty, entitled attitude. Likely only to get worse once the baby actually arrives.