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What is your situation and what are you doing right now?

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Aintthatjustthewaythatlifegoesdown · 24/05/2025 20:17

Just being nosey and quite bored 😅

So..me, mid 40’s, live abroad, sat on balcony drinking a Somersby, Dd, 7 will come up to bed in a minute and we’ll do bedtime story. I’ll probably come back on the balcony when she’s asleep. Dh going out

Anyone else? Vague age, area, plans? Sm shows me everyone is out and my road is very quiet

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CurlewKate · 27/05/2025 04:26

Sitting in my kitchen in the UK waiting for it to get light so I can go for a walk. Drinking tea. I have just done Wordle and Connections and I found them really easy today which is sad-usually they take me at least a cup of tea! On my own-children have moved out and dp is away for work.

echt · 27/05/2025 03:53

70, widowed and in Melbourne. It's early afternoon, cold and windy but at last some rain - NSW has had all our rain for months now, poor beggars. I'm grappling with trading in my old phone online. This morning I weeded in the garden, planted lettuce and some hyacinth bulbs.

abracadabra1980 · 27/05/2025 03:07

Loving this thread OP. We need to make it regular 😊

Cheener · 26/05/2025 21:23

@pestowithwalnuts sending a hug. x

eldermillenialmum · 26/05/2025 21:18

I'm in my early 40s, have young DC (in bed) and a DH who is not in my good books right now downstairs. I'm thinking of how to best avoid him and not talk to him without another argument while watching Made in Chelsea and eating ice cream. I work in a professional role and back to work tomorrow but have some work issues that I'm also dealing with however I'm good.

ZeldaFighter · 26/05/2025 21:16

Daysgo · 25/05/2025 02:47

Early 60s, just woke, fell asleep on couch, live on own, now watching altered carbon

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If you're watching Altered Carbon, you might need to go for a cold shower soon, early 60s or not!

AliTheMinx · 26/05/2025 21:15

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/05/2025 20:55

@AliTheMinx sounds like you're ready to sit exams! 😂 It's amazing all the info kids are taught at once, isn't it? Enjoy your reward!

Awww. Thank you! Yes - he has 15 exams in one week... plus the Msths Olymipiad. Absolutely bonkers! Will be definitely stocking up.on Aperol for the next few weeks :-)

liquoricetorpedoes · 26/05/2025 21:15

Early 50’s. Sat in our new caravan in Northumberland, have been out for a lovely meal, now relaxing, listening to the rain on the roof, watching last week’s race around the world and marking assessments whilst DH is searching for the light panel in the van for some reason (he always has to know how everything works!)

ZeldaFighter · 26/05/2025 21:11

51, reading AIBU on the loo 😀

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/05/2025 20:55

@AliTheMinx sounds like you're ready to sit exams! 😂 It's amazing all the info kids are taught at once, isn't it? Enjoy your reward!

abracadabra1980 · 26/05/2025 20:54

Mid 50's, pleased myself all day as I now live alone. Fab walk this morning and little scent training for DD2, few household jobs then a nana nap at around 2pm with Ddogs beside me. Walk #2 5pm then eaten total shit all evening, including Jack Daniels's and Coke, Marmite crisps, salted peanuts and about 3 ice creams in waffle cones. Now in bed scrolling and living the dream 😊

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2025 20:49

Early 50s, South London. Doing a bit of pre-work prep before going back to work tomorrow. DD 14 is revising for exams, DP is doing the washing up/feeding the cats.

AliTheMinx · 26/05/2025 20:46

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/05/2025 20:36

@NewShoesForSpring your Saturday sounded glorious! 🩷
@EveryDayisFriday how have you fared the rain past two days? ☔️. Does your user name reflect retirement or frame of mind? 🤔
@AliTheMinx what did you end up learning while helping with revision? You might as well share so it's not wSted! 😂

SO much! Just today, I've learnt all about:

RS: Sikhism, Buhhism, Hinduism - rituals, beliefs and views on reincarnation
History: 20 key dates memorised, plus extensive research on Empires and the Industrial Revolution
Biology: Food and digestion, DNA, Nutrition
DT: Design briefs, the 6 Rs, physical and working properties of woods, fabrics and metals, CAD, CAM
In addition to that, I think I know know his drama script and answers to French and German speaking questions off by heart...

Am just heading downstairs for a LARGE Aperol Spritz... I think I've earned it! Have a wonderful evening x

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/05/2025 20:36

@NewShoesForSpring your Saturday sounded glorious! 🩷
@EveryDayisFriday how have you fared the rain past two days? ☔️. Does your user name reflect retirement or frame of mind? 🤔
@AliTheMinx what did you end up learning while helping with revision? You might as well share so it's not wSted! 😂

Zippedydodah · 25/05/2025 13:56

Hello everyone, I’m 71 and am currently sitting in my lovely summerhouse aka The Shed with rescue dog number 2 who’s my shadow.
It’s windy outside, the local clay pigeon club are shooting two fields away but it’s sounding awfully loud because of the wind direction.
DH is asleep in the living room with rescue dog 1 who hates shooting and loud noises- usually she’d be here with me.
Dog2 and I did a 2 hour walk this morning, she’s a game little thing, she’s gently snoring in the other chair.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 25/05/2025 13:31

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mondaytosunday · 25/05/2025 13:31

I’m a widow (since kids were little) so on my own sitting at my dining table overlooking the garden in London. Neighbours have guests over and I can hear them chatting and kids playing.
One cat is snoozing on the table and dog is on the armchair. My eldest (21, lives away) is working a stall at a classic moped rally, my DD is at uni up north.
I’m having a lazy day just taking a break from crocheting, about to do a bit of washing up.

Dullmary · 25/05/2025 13:11

What a lovely thread. Bit late to the party here.

Early 50s, West Yorkshire. Currently lounging about in bed with two cats, listening to the wind and rain outside and perusing Vinted. Day 4 of antibiotics for a tooth infection, no longer want to shoot myself in the head but cba with doing much today. Adult DS is upstairs and at some point I’m going to make a lasagne.

FedupofArsenalgame · 25/05/2025 13:03

50s SE England Looking for ideas for a trip to India in a few monhgs

Backinthedress · 25/05/2025 12:46

swissmummy12345 · 24/05/2025 21:16

Um …. He’s 13, with a laptop. He’s not having a shit.

The smell pervading the hallway after would suggest otherwise <grimace>

Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/05/2025 08:49

SherlocksHome · 25/05/2025 08:38

Feeling so sad today.

My DC’s father left just before number 2 was born. He’s had very little to do with them since. New wife, new kids, new wife won’t allow him to see old kids. We did see him several times a year when they were younger (behind new wife’s back) but since covid, hardly any contact.

DD (19) sent me a message last night she wants to send to her Dad. It’s the saddest thing I’ve ever read. She’s so hurt and angry. He never texts or phones. Puts money in their bank account on birthdays and Christmas and that’s really it. No cards, no gifts, no interest.

I always wondered when they were growing up whether it would hit them one day, just what a shit he is. It seems that day is here.

That's so heartbreaking for your children and you as their mum. There just aren't any words. Sending you support though. 🩷

SherlocksHome · 25/05/2025 08:38

Feeling so sad today.

My DC’s father left just before number 2 was born. He’s had very little to do with them since. New wife, new kids, new wife won’t allow him to see old kids. We did see him several times a year when they were younger (behind new wife’s back) but since covid, hardly any contact.

DD (19) sent me a message last night she wants to send to her Dad. It’s the saddest thing I’ve ever read. She’s so hurt and angry. He never texts or phones. Puts money in their bank account on birthdays and Christmas and that’s really it. No cards, no gifts, no interest.

I always wondered when they were growing up whether it would hit them one day, just what a shit he is. It seems that day is here.

NW3Lady · 25/05/2025 06:51

Early 40s. London. Having a morning scroll whilst baby plays on the floor. She’s just learned to clap and is so pleased with herself.

ThatNaiceMember · 25/05/2025 06:28

Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/05/2025 00:06

@ThatNaiceMember that's a lot of dystopia! 😵‍💫
@pestowithwalnuts sending you a hug. 💐
@Sunshineaftertherain1 do you have an exit strategy? 🤞

@Mumtobabyhavoc it really is, might break it up with something a bit lighter 😅

Eminybob · 25/05/2025 03:50

Mid 40’s married with 2 young DC in the north west.

Im lying wide awake as I always am at this time stressing about stuff. Anything and everything really. I really need to go to sleep soon as got a long day tomorrow, got to drive 2 hours away for a wedding, it will be a late night. Yet here I am.

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