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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 19:56

So in the last house I lived in, the streets were VERY narrow. If anyone parked opposite the house, the entire turning circle space for our driveway was obstructed. Extremely annoying and I had no problem telling people to move if needed
Anyway, a guy on the next street over (not even a resident on our cul de sac!!!) And his wife had a HUGE drive. Could fit 6 vehicles easily. He chose to park his big ass work van in the very place it was an obstruction to 3 separate households. Selfish little man that he was. This was every night for 6 months of the year.
I approached the wife and the man in question who was an extremely aggressive - despite me being polite in the first instance said there were camera pointing at it etc etc - directly into all 3 gardens and 1 family had kids. I told her that I was going to be reporting the cameras to the relevant authorities and if he didn't move his van I would do the same with that. I bought a little camera immediately do I could get any footage as I knew the type of people they were with that interaction.
He then later that night aggressively revved his engine for over an hour......it was caught on my brand new camera that also had audio

The following day, I rang his workplace as did 5 separate neighbours all with footage and informed them that he was being a nuisance and blocking everyone in etc etc - told them of his aggressive behaviour when told to move etc
The next night, no van. The next 6 months it was parked on his drive. I kept the camera and actually got 3 more just in case I had any more issues.
I spoke directly to his boss who said any more issues email immediately- of course he didn't learn his lesson and started getting aggressive again and I then told him 5 sets of neighbours had footage of his behaviour and his employer would be informed. He lost his van after the last incident and his cameras moved.
My question is, was it a dick move considering how rude and disrespectful.he was to half the street?

OP posts:
CareerChange24 · 24/05/2025 20:44

Americano75 · 24/05/2025 20:25

He could have lost his employer a lot of business with his shitty behaviour, he's lucky you went directly to them rather than posted the footage on social media.

What a sad indictment of the modern world

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:44

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:43

You seem to be a little obsessed.
#itsoktotalk

You’re memorable Op

Put it like that

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:43

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:40

The op has been pulled up for starting a thread that transpired to be about an event from years ago before. The op doesn’t respond well when it’s pointed that probably best to let it go.

You seem to be a little obsessed.
#itsoktotalk

OP posts:
Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:43

This van incident happened years ago didn’t it op? In a property you no longer live at. Correct?

nomas · 24/05/2025 20:43

Cursory · 24/05/2025 20:42

Did the whole bus get up and clap?

He was a dick, but the relish you’re displaying about getting one over on him by encouraging everyone to phone his employer to lay it on thick doesn’t cover you in glory either.

It covers OP in lots of glory. She’s a god damn hero.

MNers only like wet lettuces.

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:42

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:41

Would you like times and dates???
This is a SNAPSHOT of the shit he's put us through. I'm not writing a novel on it. It's a post on mumsnet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Not odd at all

TequilaNights · 24/05/2025 20:42

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

He did that himself being a dick whilst in his work van on his doorstep.

Cursory · 24/05/2025 20:42

Did the whole bus get up and clap?

He was a dick, but the relish you’re displaying about getting one over on him by encouraging everyone to phone his employer to lay it on thick doesn’t cover you in glory either.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:41

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:38

So you didn’t like his camaras
but then you get 4 in total trained on him?

and I don’t get the timeline… *The next night, no van. The next 6 months it was parked on his drive.*and then there was another incident? Following which his van was completely removed?

Would you like times and dates???
This is a SNAPSHOT of the shit he's put us through. I'm not writing a novel on it. It's a post on mumsnet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP posts:
LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:41

Mareleine · 24/05/2025 20:17

He jeopardised his own employment by leaving his work van in a stupid place and revving it up for over an hour in an idiotic display of anti-social behaviour after being rude to someone asking him to move it. Natural consequences.

But hey let's make a woman responsible for a man's stupidity.

First rule of misogyny isn't it? Wink Women are responsible for what men do.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:40

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:35

Thankyou!

I AM ODD AND PROUD OF IT!!

😆

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:40

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:38

Ahhhh I see you trying to trick me hahaha

This was an ongoing issue for YEARS til we stood up to the bully. I don't have to go into specifics.

Yeah this op isn’t odd at all

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:40

BookWorrum · 24/05/2025 20:37

How long ago was this? You mention it occurring at “the last house” you lived in.

The op has been pulled up for starting a thread that transpired to be about an event from years ago before. The op doesn’t respond well when it’s pointed that probably best to let it go.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:38

OrangeQualityStreetAreTheBest · 24/05/2025 20:34

If he lost his van after the last incident how was it parked on his drive for 6 months?

Ahhhh I see you trying to trick me hahaha

This was an ongoing issue for YEARS til we stood up to the bully. I don't have to go into specifics.

OP posts:
Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:38

So you didn’t like his camaras
but then you get 4 in total trained on him?

and I don’t get the timeline… *The next night, no van. The next 6 months it was parked on his drive.*and then there was another incident? Following which his van was completely removed?

BookWorrum · 24/05/2025 20:37

How long ago was this? You mention it occurring at “the last house” you lived in.

nomas · 24/05/2025 20:36

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Anyone who needs their job doesn’t behave
like a dick after being warned.

Hufflemuff · 24/05/2025 20:36

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Fuck that! He wasn't listening so sometimes people need a little persuading. I presume this is a work van too, so his employer has a right to know that he's burning out tyres, giving the business a bad reputation.

Don't feel bad! He should feel bad, it's frankly pathetic that he needs his boss to tell him off in order to listen.

TY78910 · 24/05/2025 20:36

If he didn’t rev his engine and get aggressive, just said yeah yeah yeah and ignore you, then I’d say OTT. But threatening behaviour is absolutely one to report. So fair play.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:35

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:31

YANBU @Hannah55r Good for you. And you are not ODD, ignore people saying you are. What a rude thing to say to you!

Thankyou!

I AM ODD AND PROUD OF IT!!

OP posts:
OrangeQualityStreetAreTheBest · 24/05/2025 20:34

If he lost his van after the last incident how was it parked on his drive for 6 months?

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:34

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:06

as did 5 separate neighbours

really?

Yeah......really!! Because this idiot kept half the street awake. Duh.

OP posts:
LlynTegid · 24/05/2025 20:32

I support what you did OP. Glad to read others did the same.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:32

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 24/05/2025 20:30

He then later that night aggressively revved his engine for over an hour......it was caught on my brand new camera that also had audio

Imagine having nothing better to do with your sad little life than waste an hour doing this.

Yep this. This 'man' sounds like the odd one, not the OP!

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:31

YANBU @Hannah55r Good for you. And you are not ODD, ignore people saying you are. What a rude thing to say to you!