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Reported guy to his workplace

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 19:56

So in the last house I lived in, the streets were VERY narrow. If anyone parked opposite the house, the entire turning circle space for our driveway was obstructed. Extremely annoying and I had no problem telling people to move if needed
Anyway, a guy on the next street over (not even a resident on our cul de sac!!!) And his wife had a HUGE drive. Could fit 6 vehicles easily. He chose to park his big ass work van in the very place it was an obstruction to 3 separate households. Selfish little man that he was. This was every night for 6 months of the year.
I approached the wife and the man in question who was an extremely aggressive - despite me being polite in the first instance said there were camera pointing at it etc etc - directly into all 3 gardens and 1 family had kids. I told her that I was going to be reporting the cameras to the relevant authorities and if he didn't move his van I would do the same with that. I bought a little camera immediately do I could get any footage as I knew the type of people they were with that interaction.
He then later that night aggressively revved his engine for over an hour......it was caught on my brand new camera that also had audio

The following day, I rang his workplace as did 5 separate neighbours all with footage and informed them that he was being a nuisance and blocking everyone in etc etc - told them of his aggressive behaviour when told to move etc
The next night, no van. The next 6 months it was parked on his drive. I kept the camera and actually got 3 more just in case I had any more issues.
I spoke directly to his boss who said any more issues email immediately- of course he didn't learn his lesson and started getting aggressive again and I then told him 5 sets of neighbours had footage of his behaviour and his employer would be informed. He lost his van after the last incident and his cameras moved.
My question is, was it a dick move considering how rude and disrespectful.he was to half the street?

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IButtleSir · 24/05/2025 21:27

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 21:13

If he had simply said "oh I'm sorry ill park further up where it's wider" that would have been the end of it and it wouldn't have been in the way.....instead he chose to be aggressive and smug. Not just with me, but my elderly neighbours! So yes I did go to his employer.

I think you meant to quote @outingouting. I'm in total agreement with you!

TheGreyQuail · 24/05/2025 21:24

There are some real twats on this thread as well as the prat and his works van.
good for you OP, I can only guess that the posters being rude, would be fine with someone 'ruling' their road or being anti social. Or they are like it themselves.

S0j0urn4r · 24/05/2025 21:20

You gave him every opportunity to resolve the issue. FAFO

ButItWasNotYourFaultButMine · 24/05/2025 21:20

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Jeopardised his own employment

Franklyyes · 24/05/2025 21:18

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

You are reporting him for inappropriate parking of a works vehicle which affects the company’s reputation. It’s up to the company what they do. If the person has previous then they may sack him but that’s up to the company not OP

nomas · 24/05/2025 21:18

Cursory · 24/05/2025 20:49

Nope. I’m the first to congratulate people on not being wet lettuces. I just think it’s a bit pathetic to exaggerate a story from years ago to win internet points.

Is there a statute of limitations on how old a story can be?

Maybe you should tell us the rules so we can abide by them.

Calling a woman pathetic for taking action is what’s sad here.

Americano75 · 24/05/2025 21:14

CareerChange24 · 24/05/2025 20:44

What a sad indictment of the modern world

I don't follow? His anti social behaviour or someone calling him out?

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 21:13

IButtleSir · 24/05/2025 21:07

Er, what? He jeopardised his own employment.

If he had simply said "oh I'm sorry ill park further up where it's wider" that would have been the end of it and it wouldn't have been in the way.....instead he chose to be aggressive and smug. Not just with me, but my elderly neighbours! So yes I did go to his employer.

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HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:12

No! I do not think what you and your neighbours did was appropriate.
We have a police service who deal with harrassment and any complaints you have that are an illegal activity.

I could never agree to what you did as appropriate. Where does it stop

We stopped dishing out punishments and witch hunts en masse centuries ago for a very good reason .

IButtleSir · 24/05/2025 21:07

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Er, what? He jeopardised his own employment.

Fyreheart · 24/05/2025 21:03

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Maybe he should have thought of that eh?

Act like a twat, there are consequences.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:57

BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:56

Thank you, sorry if I misconstrued it x

Absolutely no problem. I realised how it sounded reading it back. Apologies x

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:57

SusanLittle76 · 24/05/2025 20:54

Maybe you could submit some evidence to the council that double yellows are needed and supported by all households due to the turning circle requirement?

We had a councillor look into permit only

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BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:56

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:51

Not at all. I call my closest friends it so it slips out now and again lol

Thank you, sorry if I misconstrued it x

SusanLittle76 · 24/05/2025 20:54

Maybe you could submit some evidence to the council that double yellows are needed and supported by all households due to the turning circle requirement?

PinkyFlamingo · 24/05/2025 20:54

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

The only person jeopardising his employment is him in his works van!

LoveTheLake525 · 24/05/2025 20:54

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

Then don't behave in a dickish aggressive way, parking your company vehicle where it instructs others 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Hannah55r you didn't do anything wrong. You gave him fair warning.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:51

BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:50

Fair enough. I hope he stops doing it.

Not sure about 'boo' though? I'm not used to being called that by anyone? Hoping it's not meant to be condescending.

Not at all. I call my closest friends it so it slips out now and again lol

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:51

Cursory · 24/05/2025 20:49

Nope. I’m the first to congratulate people on not being wet lettuces. I just think it’s a bit pathetic to exaggerate a story from years ago to win internet points.

Exaggerate??? How bold of you to make that assumption...... 🤣

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BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:50

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:47

I wish I had that Influence boo.
I chose to do it for my own reasons. My neighbours followed suit because they were sick of it too. Not my fault that he's alienated everyone is it?? 🤣🤣 Karma

Fair enough. I hope he stops doing it.

Not sure about 'boo' though? I'm not used to being called that by anyone? Hoping it's not meant to be condescending.

Cursory · 24/05/2025 20:49

nomas · 24/05/2025 20:43

It covers OP in lots of glory. She’s a god damn hero.

MNers only like wet lettuces.

Nope. I’m the first to congratulate people on not being wet lettuces. I just think it’s a bit pathetic to exaggerate a story from years ago to win internet points.

Menopausalmum43 · 24/05/2025 20:48

I thinks it's bloody weird how people report people to their employer. They are not teachers in school you are not children. How supremely odd.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:47

BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:45

If five others all did the same then I'd say you couldn't be singled out.

But I'd say it's a little OTT over a private parking issue to have five people calling your employer in the space of a couple of days. It's not related to his workplace.

If I was his employer I'd be thinking you lot were a bit weird, rather than disciplining my staff member.

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I wish I had that Influence boo.
I chose to do it for my own reasons. My neighbours followed suit because they were sick of it too. Not my fault that he's alienated everyone is it?? 🤣🤣 Karma

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BobbyBiscuits · 24/05/2025 20:45

If five others all did the same then I'd say you couldn't be singled out.

But I'd say it's a little OTT over a private parking issue to have five people calling your employer in the space of a couple of days. It's not related to his workplace.

If I was his employer I'd be thinking you lot were a bit weird, rather than disciplining my staff member.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 20:45

Itdidnttakelong · 24/05/2025 20:44

You’re memorable Op

Put it like that

Thankyou!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

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