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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 19:56

So in the last house I lived in, the streets were VERY narrow. If anyone parked opposite the house, the entire turning circle space for our driveway was obstructed. Extremely annoying and I had no problem telling people to move if needed
Anyway, a guy on the next street over (not even a resident on our cul de sac!!!) And his wife had a HUGE drive. Could fit 6 vehicles easily. He chose to park his big ass work van in the very place it was an obstruction to 3 separate households. Selfish little man that he was. This was every night for 6 months of the year.
I approached the wife and the man in question who was an extremely aggressive - despite me being polite in the first instance said there were camera pointing at it etc etc - directly into all 3 gardens and 1 family had kids. I told her that I was going to be reporting the cameras to the relevant authorities and if he didn't move his van I would do the same with that. I bought a little camera immediately do I could get any footage as I knew the type of people they were with that interaction.
He then later that night aggressively revved his engine for over an hour......it was caught on my brand new camera that also had audio

The following day, I rang his workplace as did 5 separate neighbours all with footage and informed them that he was being a nuisance and blocking everyone in etc etc - told them of his aggressive behaviour when told to move etc
The next night, no van. The next 6 months it was parked on his drive. I kept the camera and actually got 3 more just in case I had any more issues.
I spoke directly to his boss who said any more issues email immediately- of course he didn't learn his lesson and started getting aggressive again and I then told him 5 sets of neighbours had footage of his behaviour and his employer would be informed. He lost his van after the last incident and his cameras moved.
My question is, was it a dick move considering how rude and disrespectful.he was to half the street?

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 23:00

DontReplyIWillLie · 24/05/2025 22:54

Did the whole bus get up and clap?

Yeah, that’s the vibe I was getting too. It all happened years ago; the OP clearly doesn’t think she was unreasonable… so what was the point of the thread? Just hoping for a bit of cheerleading?

Actually I did at the time. I don't now no. I wanted tonask opinions. Ya know on a forum for this kinda thing?? That ok with you?

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 22:59

DeSoleil · 24/05/2025 22:46

If he has a long drive with room to park it, then why was he parking where he couldn’t see his works van?

Unless it was something embarrassing?

Butt Plugs R Us.

Or did he work for BT?

Because they're the kind of family to try and make other peoples lives hard. They have cameras on the back of their house pointing into people's property. Says it all.really

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DontReplyIWillLie · 24/05/2025 22:54

Did the whole bus get up and clap?

Yeah, that’s the vibe I was getting too. It all happened years ago; the OP clearly doesn’t think she was unreasonable… so what was the point of the thread? Just hoping for a bit of cheerleading?

BellissimoGecko · 24/05/2025 22:51

No. It was a good move. He’s an arsehole. Now he knows the consequences.

DeSoleil · 24/05/2025 22:46

If he has a long drive with room to park it, then why was he parking where he couldn’t see his works van?

Unless it was something embarrassing?

Butt Plugs R Us.

Or did he work for BT?

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 22:42

Oreosareawful · 24/05/2025 22:34

You did exactly the right thing! Only stupid people piss others off with the company details all over their van!
I was once overtaken dangerously on a country road by a twat in a liveried van. I called his employer while I was still behind him and they took my complaint very seriously. They admitted it wasn’t the first time this driver had been reported too.

Plenty of stupid people out there and plenty that think this behaviour is acceptable. Let's hope they never experience it themselves

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 22:37

IButtleSir · 24/05/2025 21:27

I think you meant to quote @outingouting. I'm in total agreement with you!

Oh sorry!! Apologies x

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Oreosareawful · 24/05/2025 22:34

You did exactly the right thing! Only stupid people piss others off with the company details all over their van!
I was once overtaken dangerously on a country road by a twat in a liveried van. I called his employer while I was still behind him and they took my complaint very seriously. They admitted it wasn’t the first time this driver had been reported too.

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 22:30

TheGreyQuail · 24/05/2025 21:24

There are some real twats on this thread as well as the prat and his works van.
good for you OP, I can only guess that the posters being rude, would be fine with someone 'ruling' their road or being anti social. Or they are like it themselves.

Exactly this! I also noticed how someone piped down when they stopped getting replies. Probably a man who hates a woman standing up to people like him

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Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 22:27

AndImBrit · 24/05/2025 22:16

Where were his cameras if he didn’t live on your street??

On the back if the house facing directly over my neighbours gardens and straight into my property!!! Looking at his precious van

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Matronic6 · 24/05/2025 22:26

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

She didn't jeopardise his employment. He jeopardised it by using company property to purposefully cause a noise nuisance out of spite.

DisabledDemon · 24/05/2025 22:18

Sounds reasonable to me - I don't think that you're odd at all!

I once phoned a scaffolding company because their vans were using all the disabled spaces whilst they were putting up some scaffolding, which took several days. And I phoned and I phoned until they got the message. If that makes me odd, well, I really don't care! Inconsiderate parkers deserve bad karma.

AndImBrit · 24/05/2025 22:16

Where were his cameras if he didn’t live on your street??

MaidOfSteel · 24/05/2025 22:03

Good for you, OP! Well done for standing up against a thuggish bully.

pinkstripeycat · 24/05/2025 22:00

outingouting · 24/05/2025 20:03

He’s a dick but I think it’s pretty poor to jeopardise someone’s employment.

I can’t help but think how awful it would be to lose your job right now.

So don’t make other people’s lives a misery then.

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:59

nomas · 24/05/2025 21:51

If it was bullying his employers wouldn’t have disciplined him.

I don’t need the actions of an employer ( actions stated by OP btw) to help me work out what bullying is.

Some people can recognise it very easily. Bullies often can’t so perhaps the employer ( if they did what OP said ) is 🫤

Changmeagainname2025 · 24/05/2025 21:58

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:55

Bored
OP is actually the perp
Who knows 🤣

I reckon she's been drinking and has set herself off on a rant 🤣

TheGreyQuail · 24/05/2025 21:56

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:48

So witch hunting is the only response these days is it.
I really think people need to get a grip on this insanity.

Gather evidence, report to the police.
Thats how these issues are dealt with. There is a legal process.
The alternative a bullying tactics and no one is in the playground anymore.

Hardly witch hunting😀The laq doesn't appwar to have been broken but it's good that some people have such faith in the police to sort these things out.
The van driver was actting in a selfish manner and the OP and her neighbours made their complaints to the company after speaking to the van driver failed.
No one has been bullied by anyone else.

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:55

AthWat · 24/05/2025 21:46

What's odd is posting this story, that apparently happened a long time ago, and which the OP is clearly in no doubt at all she is right about, in this place. What's she doing it for?

Bored
OP is actually the perp
Who knows 🤣

nomas · 24/05/2025 21:51

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:48

So witch hunting is the only response these days is it.
I really think people need to get a grip on this insanity.

Gather evidence, report to the police.
Thats how these issues are dealt with. There is a legal process.
The alternative a bullying tactics and no one is in the playground anymore.

If it was bullying his employers wouldn’t have disciplined him.

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:48

TheGreyQuail · 24/05/2025 21:28

FFS have a word with yourself, if a vrime isn't being commited I doubt the police are going to get involved unless the situation became worse with threats of violence.

So witch hunting is the only response these days is it.
I really think people need to get a grip on this insanity.

Gather evidence, report to the police.
Thats how these issues are dealt with. There is a legal process.
The alternative a bullying tactics and no one is in the playground anymore.

AthWat · 24/05/2025 21:46

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 24/05/2025 20:31

YANBU @Hannah55r Good for you. And you are not ODD, ignore people saying you are. What a rude thing to say to you!

What's odd is posting this story, that apparently happened a long time ago, and which the OP is clearly in no doubt at all she is right about, in this place. What's she doing it for?

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:44

Hannah55r · 24/05/2025 21:13

If he had simply said "oh I'm sorry ill park further up where it's wider" that would have been the end of it and it wouldn't have been in the way.....instead he chose to be aggressive and smug. Not just with me, but my elderly neighbours! So yes I did go to his employer.

You should have reported him to the police.
So the matter could be dealt with appropriately and given that he was being aggressive towards you
I’m afraid being smug isn’t against the law so you can’t report that

Changmeagainname2025 · 24/05/2025 21:40

Do you usually ruminate over things that have happened in the past? You say last house you lived in, implying you've moved. Yet you still seem very angry about it.....

TheGreyQuail · 24/05/2025 21:28

HereComesAnUnpopularPoster · 24/05/2025 21:12

No! I do not think what you and your neighbours did was appropriate.
We have a police service who deal with harrassment and any complaints you have that are an illegal activity.

I could never agree to what you did as appropriate. Where does it stop

We stopped dishing out punishments and witch hunts en masse centuries ago for a very good reason .

FFS have a word with yourself, if a vrime isn't being commited I doubt the police are going to get involved unless the situation became worse with threats of violence.