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To wonder if there's any actual evidence that's trans women are not safe in male loos?

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Evedence · 24/05/2025 17:40

I feel, as a FWR lurker, that I would have seen linked articles to bank up the fact that trans identifying men aren't safe in men's loos, and therefore that's the rational why women should budge up and accept trans identifying men in their spaces.

I'm pretty sure with a quick Google I could fund evident that trans identity men have made women's spaces unsafe (Kate delowski? The one who worked for a charity and made a masturbation video).

So AIBU to wonder what hard evidence there is?

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Hoppinggreen · 24/05/2025 19:15

Velmy · 24/05/2025 19:13

I read a news story last week about a young lesbian (who presented 'butch') who got knocked out and her head stomped for entering a woman's bathroom in the US.

Did you really?
Funny how nobody talked about this or showed any interest in young butch lesbians (other than to "convert" them) before this High Court ruling

Serencwtch · 24/05/2025 19:14

As women have we been reduced to accepting 'no rape or sexual assault' as the best we can hope for!

How about privacy & dignity away from men & trans identifying males when we are in a vulnerable state eg undressing, using the toilet. We absolutely have a right to single sex spaces - it's about much more than protecting ourselves from serious offences.

I dont know of any research on how much women feel their privacy & dignity is compromised in mixed sex toilets - anecdotally I think it's quite high (and probably through the roof for women who have experienced any type of male violence)

There is research that shows that the male pattern of violence is not decreased by them identifying as Trans.

SloppyThePoodle · 24/05/2025 19:14

LastPostISwear · 24/05/2025 17:59

If they don’t feel safe as a feminine presenting male using a male toilet/changing room/ gendered space, then maybe they shouldn’t transition? Instead of making others uncomfortable instead.

I genuinely think gender dysphoria is like anorexia. The horrible feelings one has about their bodies they way they are need to be examined, the cause for which found, and therapy’ed away. Not indulged.

Also men need to solve their own problems with violence. You think if someone was being beaten up in the women’s restroom, that no one would step in to help? Or at least contact the authorities to help? Why is there that difference between men and women?

I agree. You can't expect to have all these surgeries and then expect the world to bend to your will. To use my spider example from another thread, having 4 (I'm counting the arms!!) legs sewn on to your body doesn't automatically mean I'll let you live in my shed with the other spiders.

Velmy · 24/05/2025 19:13

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:12

Virtually no trans women "pass" (even the ones who took puberty blockers as children), and if you actually believe that masculine presenting women are suddenly being challenged in women's toilets you are incredible gullible.

I read a news story last week about a young lesbian (who presented 'butch') who got knocked out and her head stomped for entering a woman's bathroom in the US.

TeaAndToast8 · 24/05/2025 19:12

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 19:08

Trans women could entirely mitigate any risk by going out wearing gender neutral clothing and no makeup. It wouldn't make them any less women (you can't be any less of a woman than "not a woman" anyway) because lots of women wear jeans and T-shirts and no makeup.

Which rather begs the question, if they can mitigate the risk of being assaulted in public toilets by not dressing like Barbie, why don't they do that?

Wow, how victim blaming do you sound! You are no longer at threat, men are not allowed into female spaces.. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to throw trans people in lions den because they might wear lipstick and a mini skirt.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 19:11

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 24/05/2025 19:10

Oh give us a fucking break from this tedious vitriolic fucking nastiness.
Please, just one day when someone is not posting this utter fucking hatred.
And no, I am not a man, I have never had a penis or balls and no, none of my sons, nobody in family is trans before any of you horrors accuse me of having skin in the game.
Do you all not have enough problems within your own lives.
Enough!!!

It's not vitriolic for women to put themselves first for fucking once.

Butchyrestingface · 24/05/2025 19:11

I'm willing to believe there may be an increased risk to (some) transwomen in male bathroom facilities, just as there will be increased risk to other groups of men/males.

Doesn't follow any of them should be using the women's toilets though.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 24/05/2025 19:10

Oh give us a fucking break from this tedious vitriolic fucking nastiness.
Please, just one day when someone is not posting this utter fucking hatred.
And no, I am not a man, I have never had a penis or balls and no, none of my sons, nobody in family is trans before any of you horrors accuse me of having skin in the game.
Do you all not have enough problems within your own lives.
Enough!!!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 19:10

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 19:10

What ? The trans women I know just dress normally, not “like Barbie”.

Your point is the same as men make about women wearing revealing clothing causing their own rapes - ludicrous and victim blaming.

Edited

Define "normally".

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 19:10

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 19:08

Trans women could entirely mitigate any risk by going out wearing gender neutral clothing and no makeup. It wouldn't make them any less women (you can't be any less of a woman than "not a woman" anyway) because lots of women wear jeans and T-shirts and no makeup.

Which rather begs the question, if they can mitigate the risk of being assaulted in public toilets by not dressing like Barbie, why don't they do that?

What ? The trans women I know just dress normally, not “like Barbie”.

Your point is the same as men make about women wearing revealing clothing causing their own rapes - ludicrous and victim blaming.

Hoppinggreen · 24/05/2025 19:08

Tekknonan · 24/05/2025 18:04

Of course, now we are getting women - women born women - being challenged in women's loos if someone thinks they look 'masculine'.

A lot of trans women, especially those who got puberty blockers, look no different from women born women. I have no issues with the trans women I know in female loos, whether it's me or my granddaughters. The problem is the rare predaotr taking advantage of the laws as they stood. But short of having the genital inspectors out, I'm not sure how these laws can be enforced, especially as many trans women have had surgery. I certainly don't want to have to show my id every time I go into the loo.

Women are not being challenged in womens toilets and even if they were I think they would survive it.
And no, a lot of Trans women do not look "no different" to women. No genital inspections are required to know who is a man and who is a woman

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 19:08

TeaAndToast8 · 24/05/2025 19:03

But the question wasn’t, Are trans women at more of a risk than biological women, it was are trans women put at more of a risk than biological men in a man’s space.

Trans women could entirely mitigate any risk by going out wearing gender neutral clothing and no makeup. It wouldn't make them any less women (you can't be any less of a woman than "not a woman" anyway) because lots of women wear jeans and T-shirts and no makeup.

Which rather begs the question, if they can mitigate the risk of being assaulted in public toilets by not dressing like Barbie, why don't they do that?

HouseOfGoldandBones · 24/05/2025 19:07

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:42

Evidence ?

Sure.

That's a self-selecting survey 😂

HouseOfGoldandBones · 24/05/2025 19:06

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 17:50

I think it’s up to the trans person to decide which option is safer for them, depending on the situation, venue, context and risk.

It's not, no.

TeaAndToast8 · 24/05/2025 19:03

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:57

I mean, "crime" is a bit vague, isn't it? This article doesn't actually link to the statistics so we can't dig down into what is actually underpinning this claim.

We know that trans people are less likely to be murdered than any other group.

We also know that hate crime statistics aren't worth the paper they are written on because they don't cover all protected characteristics equally.

(This is appalling because it means someone can get more jail time for murdering a trans woman than for murdering a woman. Theoretically, of course, given that trans people are almost never murdered.)

We also know that 100% of rapes and 98% of sexual assaults are committed by male people, with around 90% of victims being female.

Why do you think trans people should be allowed to "mitigate the risks they face" but women should not?

Because there is a fuck tonne more evidence to suggest that women are at risk from sharing toilets with male people than there is to suggest that trans women are at risk from sharing toilets with other male people.

But the question wasn’t, Are trans women at more of a risk than biological women, it was are trans women put at more of a risk than biological men in a man’s space.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:57

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:46

In the uk transgender people are twice as likely to experience violence than non transgender people.

Let them mitigate the significant risks they face.

I mean, "crime" is a bit vague, isn't it? This article doesn't actually link to the statistics so we can't dig down into what is actually underpinning this claim.

We know that trans people are less likely to be murdered than any other group.

We also know that hate crime statistics aren't worth the paper they are written on because they don't cover all protected characteristics equally.

(This is appalling because it means someone can get more jail time for murdering a trans woman than for murdering a woman. Theoretically, of course, given that trans people are almost never murdered.)

We also know that 100% of rapes and 98% of sexual assaults are committed by male people, with around 90% of victims being female.

Why do you think trans people should be allowed to "mitigate the risks they face" but women should not?

Because there is a fuck tonne more evidence to suggest that women are at risk from sharing toilets with male people than there is to suggest that trans women are at risk from sharing toilets with other male people.

TeaAndToast8 · 24/05/2025 18:48

Chose the most famous trans woman I could think of.. Is CaitlynJenner put at more of a risk than Bruce Jenner In a man’s bathroom, of course she is for obvious reasons. The same reasons why women don’t want Caitlyn in there restrooms. There needs to be a third space.

To wonder if there's any actual evidence that's trans women are not safe in male loos?
To wonder if there's any actual evidence that's trans women are not safe in male loos?
AngelinaFibres · 24/05/2025 18:47

Brefugee · 24/05/2025 18:07

Yes. They can use the toilettjat matches their actual sex.

Or stay home.

Or pee in a bottle in an alley. It's what they do when they want to protest about something . The vast majority still have the appropriate plumbing for it.

ElidaGibbs · 24/05/2025 18:47

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:18

Trans people are far more likely to be victims than perpetrators of violence.

Cobalt was assaulted by a man

Two women assaulted a transgender person in a womens toilet

Trans man attacked by men for using women’s bathroom

As I said, trans people should use whatever they feel comfortable with given the risk / venue / context.

Interesting. A Swedish study in 2020 found that male-to-female trans people had rates of violent crime that were the same as cis-men (for want of a better term). Sorry, can't link, but here's a screenshot:

To wonder if there's any actual evidence that's trans women are not safe in male loos?
HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:46

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:43

We are in the UK.

In the uk transgender people are twice as likely to experience violence than non transgender people.

Let them mitigate the significant risks they face.

Trans people twice as likely to be victims of crime in England and Wales

ONS figures show 28% trans people experienced crime compared with 14% of cis people

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/jul/17/trans-people-twice-as-likely-to-be-victims-of-in-england-and-wales?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:43

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:42

Evidence ?

Sure.

We are in the UK.

JKRismyPatronus · 24/05/2025 18:43

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:39

But in the meantime ?

The 0.55% of the British population 4x at risk of violence than everyone else should have the freedom to mitigate the significant risks they face.

Evidence, please?

If third spaces had been campaigned for years ago, instead of expecting women to budge up, we wouldn't need to have this conversation.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:42

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:41

And transgender people are managing their own risk exactly like those women, especially important given that they’re 4x more likely to be a victim of violence that people who are not transgender.

You keep saying this without providing any evidence.

And no, it's not equivalent because when women use men's spaces they are choosing to put themselves at risk, whereas when trans identifying males use women's spaces they are choosing to put other people at risk. It's profoundly selfish.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 24/05/2025 18:41

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/05/2025 18:36

Women using men's toilets are doing so at their own risk.

Trans identifying males using women's toilets are doing so at women's risk.

And transgender people are managing their own risk exactly like those women, especially important given that they’re 4x more likely to be a victim of violence that people who are not transgender.

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