AIBU to think this is bullying?

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cantthinkofausername26 · 24/05/2025 09:40

I was on long term sick for 6 months. My boss didn’t contact me once to ask if I was ok. All communication was through HR.
i am back at work now and have been for 6 weeks. My boss has still not spoken to me, popped down to see if I’m ok, says welcome back. She doesn’t email me, she doesn’t reply to emails, I’ve literally not seen her in 6 weeks. For context there are only 6 people in my department that age manages.
I feel like it’s deliberate. She chats to everyone else, has meetings and catch ups, but I’m invisible.
when someone else went on long term sick a few years ago she did the same to him.
I feel like it’s emotional bullying. AIBU?

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Duvetsse · 24/05/2025 10:37

Awful behaviour.
Ask for a meeting with her and keep careful notes.

KrisAkabusi · 24/05/2025 10:12

How are you doing your job if you're not being managed? Who gives you work, checks on progress, outputs, quality etc?

trousersearch · 24/05/2025 10:07

I don’t think this would constitute bullying, but it’s not good management. Have you gone to try to speak to her?
unfortunately (rightly or wrongly) I think something like this depends on why you were off. It shouldn’t matter if you were sick what the reason was but people can’t help it

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cantthinkofausername26 · 24/05/2025 10:04

ilovesooty · 24/05/2025 10:02

You should have had a return to work meeting and there should be a wellbeing action plan in place.

This was all with HR

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Evaka · 24/05/2025 10:04

Yeah, that's horrible. I'd put a meeting in her diary and say we need to discuss my return, objectives, what's happened while I've been off etc.

ilovesooty · 24/05/2025 10:02

You should have had a return to work meeting and there should be a wellbeing action plan in place.

StasisMom · 24/05/2025 09:55

I would front it and request a meeting with her. Not to challenge her as to why she’s not contacted you, to say that you feel you should have a catch up etc etc…

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cantthinkofausername26 · 24/05/2025 09:54

I don’t think replying to emails would be classed as harassment. No it was nothing to do with stress, or her!

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LikeARacoonOnMeth · 24/05/2025 09:49

Or maybe she’s trying to avoid a complaint of harassing people when they’ve just come back after being on LTS? Depends why you were off really. If it’s due to work place stress and it involved her then it wouldn’t be a surprise she’s keeping her distance, if operation/injury recovery less understandable.

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