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Full Bush or Shaven Haven?

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Lardychops · 24/05/2025 00:07

Been on a work training /away day today.
Largely female dominated professional (children’s social care)
As usual in the down time amidst all the doom n gloom of the days agenda me and colleagues get into the really important, off the record team bonding stuff - OLD, step kids, menopause, weightloss jabs, difficult teens , GcSEs, holidays, moaning about the management etc etc .
Two colleagues got into the subject of pubic hair removal (as you do in market town village hall on a Friday afternoon) as one felt strongly that the act of removing pubic hair is deeply anti- feminist. Fair point I guess.

She got lots of push back from the shaven havens, landing strippers, and trim triangle havers. Only one other person said they are au natural but caveated that with not currently in a relationship nor looking.
She went onto suggest that while for young males this is probably a natural expectation in a partner due to socialisation via pornograpgy, any man of ‘our age’ ( 40s/50s) who wouldn’t be averse to a hairless minge is virtually paedophile adjacent!!
I thought that was a bit strong to be honest.
Did get me thinking though.
I’m completely in the shaven haven camp, personally - Much prefer it. I believe I’m still a feminist though.
I go swimming most mornings and in the open changing room it occurred to me that not seen a full bush in years.

OP posts:
KimberleyClark · 24/05/2025 07:42

EleanorReally · 24/05/2025 07:11

i think underarm hair looks empowering

I think men with bare armpits look odd. Bit of a turn off for me.

DaisyFayBuchanan · 24/05/2025 07:31

I’m firmly in the no hair camp but rather than waxing I have had laser to remove all of mine.

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 07:31

MadamTeapot · 24/05/2025 07:30

My adult daughters keep all of their body hair. I shave my legs/underarms in the summer, that’s it. I did neaten things a couple of times when I was in my twenties (a long time ago) and insecure about pleasing men…but found it incredibly itchy within hours and felt very uncomfortable with why I was doing it.
I’ve no idea what my 70 year old DH would “prefer” as he’s courteous, also feminist and very definitely fancies me all year round. We both find the modern porn industry repugnant.

You know what your adult daughters have their intimate body hair like? WTAF
this thread is so fucking disturbing

MadamTeapot · 24/05/2025 07:30

My adult daughters keep all of their body hair. I shave my legs/underarms in the summer, that’s it. I did neaten things a couple of times when I was in my twenties (a long time ago) and insecure about pleasing men…but found it incredibly itchy within hours and felt very uncomfortable with why I was doing it.
I’ve no idea what my 70 year old DH would “prefer” as he’s courteous, also feminist and very definitely fancies me all year round. We both find the modern porn industry repugnant.

dontcomeatme · 24/05/2025 07:28

Full bush here. I trim around the edges to keep her in line, especially if I have appointments that require other people to see the horror.

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 07:24

SillyOP · 24/05/2025 07:21

Stand around and waffle shit all day?

Still not making any sense here, lad

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 07:23

OnyourbarksGSG · 24/05/2025 07:15

I don’t care what he does. Have you honestly never discussed your pubic hair? I did just last week when I went out with friends and I’ve asked for waning recommendations 🤷🏼‍♀️. Unclutch your pearls love

Not really no, can’t say I sit around with my friends and discuss pubes 🤷‍♀️

ArtTheClown · 24/05/2025 07:22

yeh both myself and husband shave under arms. again hygiene reasons. living in middle east in 50 degree heat, hair will just trap sweat and stink.

My armpits smell more if I shave. The hair seems to perform some sort of sweat wicking function.

SillyOP · 24/05/2025 07:21

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 07:05

That makes no sense

Stand around and waffle shit all day?

PaulKnickerless · 24/05/2025 07:21

Your body your choice, and this applies to women and men.

OnyourbarksGSG · 24/05/2025 07:15

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 06:59

I can’t believe so many people are answering this obvious man who wants wank fodder :(

I don’t care what he does. Have you honestly never discussed your pubic hair? I did just last week when I went out with friends and I’ve asked for waning recommendations 🤷🏼‍♀️. Unclutch your pearls love

Chellybelle · 24/05/2025 07:13

YankSplaining · 24/05/2025 01:11

I’m a bisexual woman who’s not in a relationship with a woman, but yeah, I agree. Hairless vulvas make me flash back to changing my daughters’ diapers. 😱

Edited

Sorry but that's disgusting. A shaved adult woman is nothing at all like a prepubescent child and you know it. As a gay woman I've seen lots of vulvas and I've never even compared the two.

EleanorReally · 24/05/2025 07:11

i think underarm hair looks empowering

Toootss · 24/05/2025 07:07

Isn’t it itchy when it grows in? Maybe I just have a lot of hair -was shaved once before birth of my first -itched like mad growing in.

MightAsWellBeGretel · 24/05/2025 07:06

WaltzingWaters · 24/05/2025 06:54

My fiancé does trim, yes. As do I. Neither of us want to be constantly plucking stray hairs from our mouth whilst giving oral.

Also, it’s itchy and hot when I do get lazy about things!

Exactly what I was going to say! Plenty of men shave to spare their partner a faceful of pubes during oral.

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 07:05

SillyOP · 24/05/2025 07:03

This is exactly what the patriarchy thinks is the problem with women in the workplace

That makes no sense

SillyOP · 24/05/2025 07:03

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 06:47

Call me old fashioned but I’d rather those working in ‘children’s social care’ maybe not be spending hours discussing their pubic hair? Bit fucking weird.

This is exactly what the patriarchy thinks is the problem with women in the workplace

SillyOP · 24/05/2025 07:01

Bitchesbelike · 24/05/2025 00:51

None of your fucking business (or
anyone elses for that matter)

does anyone expect men to carry out topiary on their bodies?!

Yes

PermanentTemporary · 24/05/2025 07:00

I can analyse my own choices from.a feminist pov, but I still make them from my own culture (brit majority). I agree that a lot of women who don't remove hair have remarkably light/invisible pelts... I have said before on here that as a teenager I thought the 'bikini line' meant the chest, because I had hair in my cleavage and nipples. Took some years to sort that out.

Just before I turned 50 I embraced serious hair removal all over and embraced IPL and the salon. Simultaneously dived into casual sex where yes, some men like this and some men like that. But I was interested how many men do go for public hair removal these days though. Its a lot.

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 06:59

I can’t believe so many people are answering this obvious man who wants wank fodder :(

stayathomer · 24/05/2025 06:58

I’d honestly say most people don’t really care- men and women. We have these conversations and actually they’re people getting indignant about things they don’t need to

OnyourbarksGSG · 24/05/2025 06:57

I’m 45 now and when I was younger and could see my bush, I shaved it all off every few days. Then I gained weight and gave up and went back to a glorious full bush. Fast forward 20 years and in Feb I was going on a big holiday with my DH without kids and I got a sudden impulse to get it waxed off, Hollywood style. Found a lovely woman that specialises in it and got it done a week later as a surprise. I was initially a bit worried as after 4 kids I thought she might look like the back end of a processed meat chicken when stripped of her protective coat but tbh I think my lady garden is probably the youngest looking part of me 😂😂😂. My DH was initially in shock as I didn’t warn him, it’s so not like me and totally out of character but to be honest it’s totally rejuvenated our sex life. I love how sensitive she is, how I feel so much more sensation and he can’t seem to keep his hands off me. It’s been 4 months and I think I’ll carry on tbh. I spent. 20 years in “full coat” and I’m enjoying the difference. To me, being a fully developed adult and being allowed to make that choice is what feminism is about. It’s 100% for me and not to fit in or comply with rules etc. Your body your choice

WaltzingWaters · 24/05/2025 06:54

Bitchesbelike · 24/05/2025 00:51

None of your fucking business (or
anyone elses for that matter)

does anyone expect men to carry out topiary on their bodies?!

My fiancé does trim, yes. As do I. Neither of us want to be constantly plucking stray hairs from our mouth whilst giving oral.

Also, it’s itchy and hot when I do get lazy about things!

Swanlame · 24/05/2025 06:47

Call me old fashioned but I’d rather those working in ‘children’s social care’ maybe not be spending hours discussing their pubic hair? Bit fucking weird.

Zanatdy · 24/05/2025 06:45

Well when grey hairs appear in places other than your head, action needs to be taken. So now I shave it off. Its very common now not to have a full bush, I did for years though.