Full Bush or Shaven Haven?

I understand that - I’m in my 40s! But that’s ridiculous! And a feminist we should not be be “imposing” what we think is right. I shave and always have. Don’t do it for my husband do it for myself - as I don’t like it as it makes me feel unclean - specially on my period. Intention matters in feminism there shouldn’t be a blanket “doing this or that is anti-feminism” in my view. Again, in my opinion feminism is about educating all and make them aware but ultimately it’s about women’s choice.

I've been in a relationship for 12 years so at this point I'm not militant about shaving. If it's not shaven DH doesn't care.
The only time I absolutely make sure it's shaved now is if I'm going to be wearing a swimming costume.

I feel it's a bit harsh to say it's peadophile adjacent.. if someone is a grown adult woman then the sexual partner is not a peadophile, bush or no bush. Also, children can have pubic hair from a relatively young age anyway.

What is it with people who have to make everything a problem?

I prefer a waxed Brazilian - not because of porn or a man’s preference but because I like the clean fresh feeling.

Your colleague is just trying to justify the fact she likes a hairy beaver! Each to their own, I say.

This is entirely subjective. Some of us love the look of labias / cocks etc… The idea that only men are visual sexual beings who enjoy looking at genitals is quite naive and un-feminist, IMO.

All off here. It’s for me, my husband doesn’t care what I do with it. It feels cleaner and oral/sex is better. But a big fuck no to shaving, the regrowth would be horrendous. I get waxed every few weeks.

YABU to think everyone has the same body image and sexual preferences. Many many men prefer a full bush on a woman and some of them describe a shaven one as being too young which they are sexually averse to. Nothing wrong with that it's simply their way of describing their preferences or non preferences. Nobody else needs to get offended by it.

Just because you don't see these full bushes at the pool doesn't mean they don't exist. In fact many women change their grooming habits throughout their lives and even seasons.

Newsflash!

Some shave armpits, some don't
Some apply fake nails, some bite theirs
Some thread their eyebrows, some wipe them with a facecloth.
Some have long head of hair, some cut into a style, some are bald
Some wear make up, some don't.
Some women shave panty area, some don't

Our bodies are all different both the parts you can see and the parts you can't

I've worked in settings that had plenty of gallows humour and banal conversation, some of which was filthy. Never felt the need to discuss pubic hair in a work setting.

I wonder what age all the removers stop doing it, do old women do it?

No I don't discuss it when I meet friends for lunch either.

I think this is an established poster but I wouldn't dream of telling her or anyone else.
And I wouldn't have wanted to discuss it at a professional training event either.

Genitals are not aesthetically pleasing, let’s face it. Camouflage definitely helps.

I can't get over the fact that you are all going back to work knowing about each others pubic hair styles! To me, that's way TMI about work colleagues!

I’m not going to argue with you because you’re right, I just personally think that having hair there is more womanly and being bald is more like a girl. It’s preference which is ok! I’m a hair person - would rather have hair than not, both on a woman and a man (I’m married to a man but I’m firmly bi)

But a young child’s labia looks nothing like that of a woman. Hair or no hair.

Hard choice. I think Beckham - as long as he doesn’t speak.

Yes you’re right. It is a bit of a bug bear for me - I would never remove my pubes, it feels weird to look like a girl there and not a woman. Young girls have hair on their legs but not pits… I grew my pit hair for 3 months because my teenage son caught me shaving there and said he had no idea that women had armpit hair. So I grew it to show him. As for men, give me a bear over bare any day!

I use Veet. I'm not brave enough to get it waxed and shaving causes itchy regrowth. I do this every few weeks, if the hair gets too long I find it uncomfortable.

”Hairy” is quite a big thing in porn.

My own hair removal from late teens onwards was inspired by blood from heavy periods, a sweaty crotch, hairs poking out of swimwear or knickers and receiving better oral, not porn.

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1. All porn inspired. Epilation was a feature offered in Ancient Rome and Ancient Greek bathhouses, it’s nothing new.
3. It may be nothing new, but just because they painted porn scenes on the walls and had phallic amulets and wrote some dodgy poetry and so on doesn't mean we have to follow suit with everything they did. Slavery was normal, too.

Before I had kids and when I had an astonishing amount of free time I used to shave it into a star… damn motherhood robs us of so much.

When I was a teen I used to shave it but when I met DP he said “can you not shave it bald it makes feel like a nonce” And I jumped at the opportunity. Then I found out you could make it crazy shapes and an iconic bush was born.

To be honest I get why he feels like that because if he shaved all his pubes off I would think that was weird and probably wouldn’t like it.