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Aibu to bet you cannot help me think of gifts for the most impossible person in the world?

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Extremegiftgame · 23/05/2025 21:03

NCed for this as it’s outing

my DH is the hardest person in the world to buy gifts for!! But it’s his birthday coming up and I need to think of something

So - he is vegan, tee total, doesn’t eat sugar or high fat foods, doesn’t drink caffeine, doesn’t like cars, cycling or sports, doesn’t read books, doesn’t listen to music. Doesn’t like gardening, not into fashion, would never let me buy any tech for him, not into ‘self care’ or ‘pampering’ of any kind. Doesn’t do DIY. Doesn’t collect anything.

His interests are fitness and cinema - but he has all relevant subscriptions and equipment already.

To add insult to injury, I’m immobile temporarily but it means we can’t go out together: no meals, events, holidays, etc. He doesn’t like doing things on his own. I’ve tentatively suggested buying him tickets to things with friends but his mates are mostly gym buddies and they don’t socialise otherwise.

WHAT can I get him?!?! Aibu to think nobody can think of anything and it’s completely impossible?

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JaceLancs · 23/05/2025 23:22

DP likes Lego, a Swiss Army knife or leather man tool for his collection
Adult DC paid for a VR experience for last birthday as we’ve exhausted most of the local escape rooms,

PinkArt · 23/05/2025 23:13

Budget permitting, if you can't take him out for a meal could the meal come to you? Private chef if the budget is very healthy or delivered meals if not.

Stepfordian · 23/05/2025 22:49

Things I have bought my husband that he liked: Nice pyjamas, a Swiss Army Knife, a massage chair, some sun glasses, a spud gun.

FrangipaniBlue · 23/05/2025 22:25

Tickets for one of the Worlds Strongest Man Giants Live events?

wafflesmgee · 23/05/2025 22:24

Donation to a charity that means something to you all

name a star after him

Birch101 · 23/05/2025 22:16

I said yesterday I would love to hire out a cinema screen and watch my favourite old movies - so a carry on marathon or something

Perhaps you could a projector and screen for you garden?

ThinWomansBrain · 23/05/2025 22:12

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 23/05/2025 21:40

@Extremegiftgame his very own cemetery plot?? seriously!

When my Dad died, lots of kerfuffle over coffins - my sister and I both like willow coffins it turns out.
There was a willow coffin making course in a village near her. For some reason she turned down my suggestion that I'd get it for her as a birthday present.

thismummyslife · 23/05/2025 22:12

A massage? A spa day?

Momstermash94 · 23/05/2025 22:10

My partner is really tough to buy for, I bought him a blacksmith "forge your own dagger or small sword" experience day and all his guy friends were really envious of that gift and thought it sounded like the coolest thing ever. We haven't done it yet but he's looking forward to it. They have all different forging options too

KumquatHigh · 23/05/2025 22:04

Kittkats · 23/05/2025 21:14

Can I hijack?
DH is harder. He’s currently immobile, can’t leave the house without significant pain. Has an audible subscription. Can’t wear socks. On a diet. Doesn’t read. Can’t stand for long.
Need inspiration for Father’s Day and birthday.
likes online chess and Pokemon go as he can’t do much else atm.

Has he got a Pokédex?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Deluxe-Essential-Handbook-Pokémon-Pokemon/dp/1339028018/ref=sr_1_3?crid=9WFVM1E3AENQ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.JgVXy1D30Ys1Sjvksn0BXUwXf_K9amZ69GL4lqvYuoDKmFsuOiNis7r6BNumsirGUJ6nRw24gXFEtbnXWWD_bt3mXSCBzJwYuAb1UUONnGl9IUJjaqckYorAbk4xdomwmpWfFUpYWRw-pEEmM95kE5CXrNINsg0IlGiB2MVCT4zeGD7SYYLEOFTu7RsGVGmwwTxXx_IByoss_pzYz09XDtQvYe3xGJhH5VwlPwq0ALSMxu8UgSv5QxJ-ht_vDJST-CA0DE0H9khZhIE4g3lEuLqkOThoLD4eY66F_Zya5Ys.IkNuQGsUva6MEjTc-JiFpjh5SXRSFLx5YEiLXBvGgvw&dib_tag=se&keywords=pokedex&qid=1748034247&sprefix=Pokedex%2Caps%2C84&sr=8-3

Ophy83 · 23/05/2025 21:52

Kittkats · 23/05/2025 21:14

Can I hijack?
DH is harder. He’s currently immobile, can’t leave the house without significant pain. Has an audible subscription. Can’t wear socks. On a diet. Doesn’t read. Can’t stand for long.
Need inspiration for Father’s Day and birthday.
likes online chess and Pokemon go as he can’t do much else atm.

Silky eye mask with inbuilt headphones so he can listen to audible or a podcast in bed (musicozy on amazon are good ones, cost approx £20-£25)

Mobile podiatrist appointment if he's struggling with foot care

Board game or puzzle. Or a games console/VR headset if you want to push the boat out

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Extremegiftgame · 23/05/2025 21:45

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 23/05/2025 21:40

@Extremegiftgame his very own cemetery plot?? seriously!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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RebeccaRedhat · 23/05/2025 21:43

Do you have lots of photos you could display? My husband bought me an Aura picture frame and I love it!

Flyhighlittlepigeon · 23/05/2025 21:43

Any Irish or Scottish heritage? I got my husband (who has Irish grandparents) a plot of land in Ireland. The company is called Celtic titles and they have Scottish or Irish land. It was a while ago but I think around £30?

was good fun and comes with a nice gift pack etc.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 23/05/2025 21:40

@Extremegiftgame his very own cemetery plot?? seriously!

CoastalCalm · 23/05/2025 21:40

Things I’ve bought similar DH that he loved were a personalised Swiss Army knife with appropriate tools for the allotment and a personalised brass propelling pencil from wingback

Squirrelblanket · 23/05/2025 21:36

My husband can be hard to buy for too. At Christmas I bought him one of the 'Cryptic Killers' games from Amazon, other places sell them. It's like a murder mystery game you play at home using the pack they send you, and you are investigating the crime. I wasn't sure how it would go down but he loved it!

Tooty78 · 23/05/2025 21:32

The DNA test is great gift, I bought my sister one for her 60th as she is into genealogy.
We found out we were 98% English and 2% Scandinavian ( thanks to the Vikings invading Yorkshire I guess!)
Several far flung relatives as well.

FavouriteShirts · 23/05/2025 21:30

Kittkats · 23/05/2025 21:14

Can I hijack?
DH is harder. He’s currently immobile, can’t leave the house without significant pain. Has an audible subscription. Can’t wear socks. On a diet. Doesn’t read. Can’t stand for long.
Need inspiration for Father’s Day and birthday.
likes online chess and Pokemon go as he can’t do much else atm.

Lego!

And for the OP’s husband - also Lego!

The answer is always Lego…

Cantwaituntiltheyareover · 23/05/2025 21:30

Magazine subscription
Tickets to outdoor theatre events in the summer

thatswhatsheshed · 23/05/2025 21:28

Kittkats · 23/05/2025 21:14

Can I hijack?
DH is harder. He’s currently immobile, can’t leave the house without significant pain. Has an audible subscription. Can’t wear socks. On a diet. Doesn’t read. Can’t stand for long.
Need inspiration for Father’s Day and birthday.
likes online chess and Pokemon go as he can’t do much else atm.

Does he read? I used to have audible but was spending a fortune as I was also buying tons of books on my kindle, I now have kindle unlimited and a lot of the books are also available to listen to! I’d be lost without my kindle esp when immobile so that could potentially be a present?

curiouscat1987 · 23/05/2025 21:28

Bamboo socks. Very comfy!

Or a ticket to a live event - stand up comedy or music or something, maybe with a nice hotel room for after!

CrackingOn50 · 23/05/2025 21:27

Kittkats · 23/05/2025 21:20

Ooh, this works sleep spray would be good!

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There's a really useful paid app called Calm that we use as a family. Loads of meditations, sleep stories (love the train journey ones), kids' ones and sleep sounds. It's been worth every penny of the yearly £40 and we all have it on our phones.

thatswhatsheshed · 23/05/2025 21:26

My husband got me a sweaty betty voucher for my birthday, I love their stuff but it’s so expensive so hard to justify, could you get gum a voucher to a sporting brand he likes?

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