Have the school done the right thing even though it punishes the wrong set of people ?

Good for that child - standing up against bullying. Seems like the children are being more grown up than the adults. I'm not surprised, as I said before the children in my child's school wouldn't allow this sort of bullying of a classmate, even if it's an adult doing it.

Let's hope more of the children step up and show the adults how to behave.

It seems to be trickling over to effecting leavers prom now as well.
Just seen on one of the other parents SM that there is another student bailing from the prom to go out with the other child instead.
it is a real shame that the children are being so affected.

or pay personally for the reprinting

The original argument well was not much of an argument because rep didn’t really try to communicate with other parent as they have a bad history was that
we were all paying for our own individual hoodies and was giving the cost and chose our sizes.
around 10 maybe a bit less had requested adult size hoodies and then the remaining 20 child size hoodies. The VAT was not included when we were asked to pay but no one knew that.
when it came to it the WhatsApp was messsged to ask us all to pay an additional few pound ( had already paid I think around 30.00 )
parent of child raised that she couldn’t afford the extra few pound right now or something along those lines but then I suppose rightly so said she had paid the full amount for her hoody because she had chosen a child sized one. The Rep decided that the VAT should be split between all 30 rather than those who had ordered adult sizes. So that’s as far as the convo was taken and she was refunded without being asked the full amount she has paid and then name was removed of the list.

It seems to be trickling over to effecting leavers prom now as well.
Just seen on one of the other parents SM that there is another student bailing from the prom to go out with the other child instead.
it is a real shame that the children are being so affected.

Yes. I don’t know the complete reason as to why only snippets but yes.

This is awful ..particularly as deliberate. My son has never liked or been known as his first name and has been known as another name since reception. No teacher or child has ever called him by his actual first name and all his books / pegs were marked up as the name he likes to be known as. When the year 6 leavers hoodies came out he was devastated as he thought he had been left off. It turned out someone had used his legal first name which was repeated on the hoodie twice as another boy is called that. Obviously someone had a list of “ official names” and it had not been noticed. It was not deliberate but we had a week of tears every evening because people had asked why he wasn’t on the hoodies. He then refused to wear it to school, School were really apologetic and put me in touch with the local printer. In the end I paid to have them overprint his hoodie and squeeze his name into a gap. He was happy to wear the hoodie after that. A genuine mistake but it was so heartbreaking at the time. My heart goes out to the parents and child in this particular instance ….

The reps an idiot. What she should have done is leave the child's name on there as a class member (correct) but just refund and not order the hoody for the parent unwilling to pay (although if you order an adults size you should probably pay adult prices). Then give the adult refusing to pay the name and design and let them order theirs separately

If they wanted to make a point.

However, having organised several collections in the last however many years, I know some parents will put in £25 and some will put in none. We always sign the card from everyone but if the argument played out over £2.57 then just, realistically, no one has ever put in equal for everything.

What a mess though. School did the right thing.

Well maybe, maybe not. It isn’t clear cut. It was a bulk purchase of hoodies so could be reasonable for everyone to pay the same regardless of who incurred the VAT. Everyone ends up with a hoody that fits their child. It’s unfortunate that the govt taxes those of us with big kids. My kids were 6ft by the time they were 12. The clothing and shoes that I’ve paid VAT on for them over the years is a fucking disgrace. I do think there should be a reclaim scheme for kids like mine. A leavers hoody for a Y6 is only goign to be worn by a kid, regardless of what adult size they need. Thinking back, my kids both had leavers hoodies in adult sizes, but it was organised by the school and everyone paid the same.

If you don't volunteer, you can't complain. If you know better, then by all means, do volunteer and get involved.

We were aware of the VAT issue, we were that she had questioned it and aware that said parent of adult hoodies had offered to pay the full amount and aware that rep was not happy.
That exact point the child being removed was not aired but it did go around shortly after that in private messaging rep had removed said child. School were emailed when hoodies arrived with name not on it by other parent etc

on the actual WhatsApp no one said much but I’m guessing that is a combination of the mums that are reps friends and therefor also have issues with said mum and then the usual parents being worried scared to say anything in front of rep because of previous instances of playground fights.

We were aware of the VAT issue, we were that she had questioned it and aware that said parent of adult hoodies had offered to pay the full amount and aware that rep was not happy.
That exact point the child being removed was not aired but it did go around shortly after that in private messaging rep had removed said child. School were emailed when hoodies arrived with name not on it by other parent etc

on the actual WhatsApp no one said much but I’m guessing that is a combination of the mums that are reps friends and therefor also have issues with said mum and then the usual parents being worried scared to say anything in front of rep because of previous instances of playground fights.