Just found a used condom in our bed...

YANBU to be annoyed that he left a used condom on the bed.

YABU to be annoyed that he had a wank while you were out. Nobody should be policing what their partner does with their own body.

As for all the people saying ‘but men don’t like condoms’, here’s a newsflash for you: not all men are the same and not everyone does everything in the way you’d expect. One of the reasons a lot of men don’t like wearing condoms is specifically because they can’t feel their partner’s vagina, not because they can’t feel anything, so it’s actually less of an issue for a wank. Also, most condoms are lubricated, so in the absence of any other lube it’s not inconceivable that a man might experiment with using one to have a wank.

Also there is no way on earth that he’d have left a condom on the bed if he’d been cheating, and the OP has seen via Ring that nobody else went in or out of the house.

Posh wanks are legit. As I understand it a condom is a barrier which reduces sensitivity and 'natural feeling' during piv sex making it less enjoyable and less emotionally intimate but with the barrier between the (tighter grip of the) hand and penis, movement of the latex on shaft and tip and the light lube that doesn't dry out it makes it different and more pleasant. Also negates the need to stop and aim into a tissue or whatever during orgasm.

He should still put it in the bin though. Fucking man-pig 🤣 unless it was a hint of course.

Maybe it’s just me and perhaps condoms have got better but I really don’t understand this “posh wank” concept. I thought men hated condoms?

Ah, but you see, if you don't masturbate into a condom, there's nothing you can leave lying around as a hint to your wife. You may not like condoms normally, but leaving a used one where your wife is guaranteed to find it, is a great way to remind her of your sexual needs. She might even worry you're cheating on her, and be alarmed enough to start giving you more sex!

Why face the awkwardness of a conversation about your sex life, when you could play silly games instead?

Sorry, but I'd bet money his thought process was some variation on the above. Hopefully the child being the one to find the condom will put him off trying this again.

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Posh wanks are don't exist. If men don't like using a condom when they're having sex with another person, why would they use one with themselves? Also why was it in the bed. Wake up.

I always thought a “posh wank” was a myth… you learn something new everyday.

Wind up troll thread.
A man in an empty house

1. searches for a condom...
2. goes back to bed
3. opens packet and applies said item
4. fills it
5. leaves the bed
6. leaves the full condom and wrapper on bed for wife and child to find
7. leaves the house.

How many men apply a condom if in an empty house?!?

It's not ideal but Jesus give the man a break, sounds like an honest mistake! At least he's trying to keep it clean. My ex used to leave dirty socks full of it under bed ffs. Hence the ex part.I can laugh about it now. 😂

Maybe this is a signal that you need to be having sex! When I’m really tired, I ask my partner to give me a massage first. He always says yes because it leads to sex and I get a nice relaxing massage! Win win 🙂

He posh wanked. Let it Go

A posh wank, apparently.

Who mainly controls the Ring account

Apologies for this info -

Yes, it is possible to delete certain parts of Ring history from the app—but only if someone has access to the account and the app on their phone or computer.
Here’s what you need to know:
Deleting videos: Ring allows users to delete recorded videos or snapshots manually. Once deleted, those clips are removed from the app and cloud storage.
Account access: To do this, someone would need the login info for your Ring account or access to the device where the app is logged in.
No partial hiding: You can delete individual clips but can’t selectively “hide” parts of a video while keeping others.
Notifications: The app doesn’t alert if someone deletes videos, so it’s not obvious unless you regularly check the history.
Logs: Ring doesn’t have a detailed “audit log” that shows who deleted what or when.
If you’re worried your husband might have deleted something, check:
If you can still see all expected videos in your app.
If you have multiple users on the account (you can see/manage users in settings).
When you last checked the footage and if anything seems missing now.

My thoughts exactly. Posh wank??? Likely story!!!

No bloke ever chooses to wear a condom for a wank. He’s lying.

You can easily deactivate the Ring app by switching off WiFi.

If that's all it takes to be 'mind boggling' to you, I'm not sure how you cope with life?!

he forgot to throw the condom away, it's not that big a deal.

WTF I find this really weird and not funny. I hope this isn’t true.

It's a normal bodily fluid, not nuclear waste......🙄

I totally agree. I don't think you have a leg to stand on here.

Surely only like accidently leaving a bloody sanitary product out? Grim, but I imagine lots of women have at some point.

I doubt the word condom is in 4 year old's vocabulary unless the OP screamed' Oh look, darling, a CONDOM that daddy's used.'

I would make it clear to him that your 4 yr old found the condom. If he’s flippant about it I would then say - hope she doesn’t mention it to grandma (or whatever name used for his mother)

I do find this strange because he doesn't like wearing a condom particularly during sex.

'particularly during sex'

When else would he wear one?

Cleaning his teeth? Washing the car? Making a coffee?

Is it such a crime to be aroused in his sleep next to his wife . I assume he’s asleep . Snuggling in.
I am all for respect and saying no but some of the comments are extreme.