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Why are so many men perverts?

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Larna4t · 23/05/2025 18:31

I just got sexually harassed by a tarot card reader. The most bizarre place to be sexually harassed! It was at one of those walk in places near a beach

He was looking at the cards, talking about my relationships and he said "it looks like you are single ". I said ""yeah i am i want to be single i don't want a relationship reallly'
He said "oh yeah you can just go out for a few shags that's just as good".
I was taken aback. He said again "you can go out and have a good shag'
I said "no i dont do that".

He then said "did someone just die. " i said "yes my dad'
He said 'i bet you were a naughty girl for your dad. You naughty naughty girl'.

I said "im leaving". What the fuck!

Last week i was at a poetry group. We all wrote and read out a poem. The women all wrote about families , love , beach walks etc.
The man wrote "a funny poem (his words)" about his testicles and sex. No one found it funny.

In my last workplace two of my male colleagues were "joking" about masturbating. I felt a bit sick

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Zov · 24/05/2025 11:56

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:54

indeed keyboard warriors comes to mind

If people were acting or reacting the way they pretend they do on this forum, there would be physical fights are every corner 😂

The language and absolute horror and disgust at anything remotely masculine is another one.

No need to pretend you haven't seen these posts.

We see you. 👀

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:54

Zov · 24/05/2025 11:46

@thetrumanshow

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

Yeah, especially the ones who come on here and accuse women of being 'shrieky' and 'hysterical.' (Lovely bit of negging and misoginism there by the way!) You just KNOW that the posters spouting these types of comments are quiet and timid, and wouldn't say these things in real life...

Keyboard warriors .. Wink

Edited

indeed keyboard warriors comes to mind

If people were acting or reacting the way they pretend they do on this forum, there would be physical fights are every corner 😂

The language and absolute horror and disgust at anything remotely masculine is another one.

No need to pretend you haven't seen these posts.

mantaraya · 24/05/2025 11:50

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

Yes I would have fit this description aged 13 in my school uniform when a man hung out of his van window and shouted that he wanted me to suck his dick. Or when I was sat on the bus on the way home from school and looked up to see a man stood staring at me with his knob in his hand. Victim blaming much?

If you think women are "just as bad as men" then you have a very naive understanding of men.

Zov · 24/05/2025 11:49

Fair enough @Disturbia81 Smile Thank you.

Disturbia81 · 24/05/2025 11:48

Zov · 24/05/2025 11:13

Women don't generally do this when they're married though. Men do. (Most of them.) When a hetero couple partners up/gets married, the woman generally settles and doesn't want to go chasing after other men. Men aren't like this. They still have a wandering eye, they still flirt with other women, (and make lewd remarks...) And the women still have other men letching at them, making lewd remarks, groping them, and insinuating an affair... even when the women themselves are married.

I had this shit happen to me from my mid teens to my mid 40s. (Even when I was married!) Men hitting on me all the time, and most of them mid 30s or older, and ALL married/in long term relationships, and they often had children too. Some of these men knew I was married; they were neighbours, work colleagues, and even so-called friends of my husband.

I have NEVER gone out hitting on other men, shagging other men, flirting with other men at work, and trying to get a shag out of anyone. Nor have I ever 'discused my labia' or rattled on about how hot this man and that man is, and how they'I'm so horny I could shag anything. And no woman I know/socialise with does this either. I don't know what kind of women @blubbyblub knows, but I'm very glad they're not in MY social circle. They sound fucking grim.

@Larna4t OP, you're right, many men are abolute perverts, and it doesn't stop when they get older either. I'm in my late 50s now, and get men in their 70s hitting on me, making suggestive remarks, and thinking their luck is in. Doesn't happen as much as it used to when I was younger, but it still happens. I had one man (around 70) desperately trying to push a bunch of flowers on me in the high street some months back, saying 'your smile makes my day my love.' Legit following me around for about 10 minutes (around 15 years older he was.) I managed to lose him in a shop. A couple of days later I saw him the the market with his WIFE. Absolute scumbag.

Anyone saying 'oh but women are just the same - or worse- is 100% gaslighting ... No WAY are women like men, just because you get tshe odd hen party marauding through Blackpool. Incredibly nonsensical and ridiculous comment. As has been said, it can only be a man saying this. No way would any women thik like this.

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Agree with everything you say but wasn’t talking about married women. Just saying many women do go out on the pull.

Yes most married men are on the lookout, when I became single most of the come ons I got were from married men rather than single ones. Friends husbands messaging, even though they knew I am close to their wife. Men on nights out not even bothering to take their rings off while asking for my number.
Many married women do cheat but not to the extent and not in the same way as men.
They are far, far worse than us

Zov · 24/05/2025 11:46

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:27

I am most definitively female, and I do think that many posters on this forum ARE hysterical.

And yes, I know the history behind the word.

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

@thetrumanshow

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

Yeah, especially the ones who come on here and accuse women of being 'shrieky' and 'hysterical.' (Lovely bit of negging and misoginism there by the way!) You just KNOW that the posters spouting these types of comments are quiet and timid, and wouldn't say these things in real life...

Keyboard warriors .. Wink

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:43

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:37

so you are talking for ALL the posters on here? Interesting, mate.

So you can’t quote any posts that were hysterical? 🤣 Thought not.

Your post makes no sense anyway, you’re just scrambling now. Mate.

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:37

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:34

Can you quote which posts were hysterical?

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

In your dreams, mate.

so you are talking for ALL the posters on here? Interesting, mate.

Gwenhwyfar · 24/05/2025 11:37

There was a comedy sketch where two old women harassed any man who visited e.g. the plumber. They'd start with 'oh young man' and end up attacking him. The reason why it was funny was because it doesn't happen in real life.

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:34

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:27

I am most definitively female, and I do think that many posters on this forum ARE hysterical.

And yes, I know the history behind the word.

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

Can you quote which posts were hysterical?

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

In your dreams, mate.

Gwenhwyfar · 24/05/2025 11:32

thetrumanshow · 23/05/2025 23:52

Again, I am not denying any of this, but what I find puzzling because it's a common occurence on MN, is that these incidents seem to happen to some women A LOT, and to others never.

I don't get pervy comments when I run, at most I get a good morning/ evening and the only ones who don't move away are women. 99% run out ot the side to let me carry on the path where I am.
I have never heard a creepy comment when shopping.

It's only examples to reply to your post, but I am never dealing with pervy men. I am not complaining, it's just odd the difference.

I've never had a pervy comment when running either. However, I didn't do it when I was young and I now live in an area where street harassment isn't common. I can definitely see why it varies.

thetrumanshow · 24/05/2025 11:27

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:09

The generalising is you stereotyping women as ‘screeching’.

Next you’ll tell us we’re being hysterical.

I am most definitively female, and I do think that many posters on this forum ARE hysterical.

And yes, I know the history behind the word.

I suspect same posters are very shy, quiet and totally lacking confidence in real life..

LikeARacoonOnMeth · 24/05/2025 11:18

Saying women can be just as bad (they really aren’t ) doesn’t make men doing it okay.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5313331-to-think-all-men-are-pervy-some-just-hide-it-better-than-others?reply=143488695

Zov · 24/05/2025 11:13

Disturbia81 · 24/05/2025 09:56

I’m on your side on this thread, and hate it when people say women are just as pervy/abusive etc

BUT I do know many women who go out to pull, it’s part of the night out starting from being young and beyond.

Women don't generally do this when they're married though. Men do. (Most of them.) When a hetero couple partners up/gets married, the woman generally settles and doesn't want to go chasing after other men. Men aren't like this. They still have a wandering eye, they still flirt with other women, (and make lewd remarks...) And the women still have other men letching at them, making lewd remarks, groping them, and insinuating an affair... even when the women themselves are married.

I had this shit happen to me from my mid teens to my mid 40s. (Even when I was married!) Men hitting on me all the time, and most of them mid 30s or older, and ALL married/in long term relationships, and they often had children too. Some of these men knew I was married; they were neighbours, work colleagues, and even so-called friends of my husband.

I have NEVER gone out hitting on other men, shagging other men, flirting with other men at work, and trying to get a shag out of anyone. Nor have I ever 'discused my labia' or rattled on about how hot this man and that man is, and how they'I'm so horny I could shag anything. And no woman I know/socialise with does this either. I don't know what kind of women @blubbyblub knows, but I'm very glad they're not in MY social circle. They sound fucking grim.

@Larna4t OP, you're right, many men are abolute perverts, and it doesn't stop when they get older either. I'm in my late 50s now, and get men in their 70s hitting on me, making suggestive remarks, and thinking their luck is in. Doesn't happen as much as it used to when I was younger, but it still happens. I had one man (around 70) desperately trying to push a bunch of flowers on me in the high street some months back, saying 'your smile makes my day my love.' Legit following me around for about 10 minutes (around 15 years older he was.) I managed to lose him in a shop. A couple of days later I saw him the the market with his WIFE. Absolute scumbag.

Anyone saying 'oh but women are just the same - or worse- is 100% gaslighting ... No WAY are women like men, just because you get tshe odd hen party marauding through Blackpool. Incredibly nonsensical and ridiculous comment. As has been said, it can only be a man saying this. No way would any women thik like this.

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:13

RampantIvy · 24/05/2025 10:39

Have you always had cropped hair, no makeup, more masculine clothes? Just trying to think what triggers them into being like this as I assumed it was the same for every woman, and just being near a female makes them feral.

@Disturbia81 I have short, not cropped hair that is styled. I wear very little make up but usually have lipstick and earrings on when I leave the house of I am shopping or going to work. I usually wear jeans or trousers, but wear dresses in warmer weather. I don't look masculine at all.

I am pretty flat chested though and no strange man has ever tried to grab my tiny boobs. I also wear glasses.

So maybe it is the classic glasses and flat chest that keeps me out of trouble?

I am pretty flat chested though and no strange man has ever tried to grab my tiny boobs.

The implication being that a non-strange man has tried to grab your boobs 🤣. Only with your consent obvs!

Disturbia81 · 24/05/2025 11:11

RampantIvy · 24/05/2025 10:39

Have you always had cropped hair, no makeup, more masculine clothes? Just trying to think what triggers them into being like this as I assumed it was the same for every woman, and just being near a female makes them feral.

@Disturbia81 I have short, not cropped hair that is styled. I wear very little make up but usually have lipstick and earrings on when I leave the house of I am shopping or going to work. I usually wear jeans or trousers, but wear dresses in warmer weather. I don't look masculine at all.

I am pretty flat chested though and no strange man has ever tried to grab my tiny boobs. I also wear glasses.

So maybe it is the classic glasses and flat chest that keeps me out of trouble?

Maybe, its really good to hear some women don’t go through it as it’s not a nice feeling. Knowing we’re being so observed and analysed. These men think we like it as they’d love it to happen to them.
Evolution really was having laugh making the sexes so different

nomas · 24/05/2025 11:09

TrishM80 · 24/05/2025 11:05

Oh yeah, that's your go-to response, "spot the manz"...😂

I'll call out hypocrisy and stupid generalisations wherever I see it.

The generalising is you stereotyping women as ‘screeching’.

Next you’ll tell us we’re being hysterical.

Larna4t · 24/05/2025 11:08

TrishM80 · 24/05/2025 11:05

Oh yeah, that's your go-to response, "spot the manz"...😂

I'll call out hypocrisy and stupid generalisations wherever I see it.

Three people have said it to you now

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3678194b · 24/05/2025 11:07

It's no coincidence that in this country we have whole male prisons that house only male sex offenders. In total that's thousands of men jailed for these offences.

There are no female prisons just for sex offenders, then again I read that of all prisoners, females only make up 3%.

TrishM80 · 24/05/2025 11:05

Oh yeah, that's your go-to response, "spot the manz"...😂

I'll call out hypocrisy and stupid generalisations wherever I see it.

teksquad · 24/05/2025 11:01

Trish. LOL.

Hen parties are vulgar, not perverted. Its men that hire prostitutes, use OF, dress up as young girls, rape children etc. Some men definitely are perverts, not all of course, but it is definitely a male sexuality issue.

We see you.

nomas · 24/05/2025 10:57

Larna4t · 24/05/2025 10:53

Spot the man

Yep, ‘Trish’ my arse.

nomas · 24/05/2025 10:56

YellowOrangePink · 23/05/2025 18:36

Women can be just as bad. You're just sexist

I swear these MRAs are paid or volunteer to just sit there waiting for new threads so they can post a NAMALT comment as soon the thread is posted.

Larna4t · 24/05/2025 10:53

TrishM80 · 24/05/2025 10:48

Ridiculous thread. Every weekend in every town in Britain, we see gangs of screeching hen parties marauding through the streets with an assortment of penis-themed paraphernalia, and sexually harassing young male waiters, bartenders etc. That's pretty perverted, no?!

Spot the man

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TrishM80 · 24/05/2025 10:48

Ridiculous thread. Every weekend in every town in Britain, we see gangs of screeching hen parties marauding through the streets with an assortment of penis-themed paraphernalia, and sexually harassing young male waiters, bartenders etc. That's pretty perverted, no?!