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Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

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Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 07:49

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

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DurinsBane · 24/05/2025 02:48

Following for an update!

Fraaances · 24/05/2025 02:14

Tell her you’re going to take the security footage to the police and see what they have to say about it. (Even if you don’t have any.)

Velmy · 24/05/2025 01:07

I'm still chuckling at the term DESTRUCTION being used to describe £300 quids worth of jewelry getting bent out of shape, like King Kong trashed the place 😅

TheBigFactHunt · 24/05/2025 00:34

AmiablePedant · 23/05/2025 21:09

Actually she's not "literally" stepping on you. (Although she may have stepped on your jewelry.)
Check out the difference between "literally" and "metaphorically."

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Actually. Literally.

DreamTheMoors · 24/05/2025 00:21

SamphiretheTervosaur · 23/05/2025 08:10

Once, when I was about 14, a friend had the same thoughts about me and she scratched every vinyl record I owned. She was the only person other than me who had been in my room that day and she looked me in the eye and told me I couldn't prove it was her

As a 14 year old I was illogic with anger and marched to her house, into her room and trashed it. On the way out she was stood with her mother looking very angry... and you can guess what I said

As an adult I wouldn't do it, obviously, but this shows just how immature your friend is. Whether she admits it or not she won't pay up. But you don't have to be quiet and polite about it. The friendship is done, she burned it. Tell her how disgusted your are, what a childish bitch she is and then forget her... and the loss if you can!

I would probably turn it into a "How odd people can be" story that gets told often, with no names, obviously!

I think you’d need a witness to the crime, wouldn’t you?
Otherwise, it would be your word against hers.
Speaking of record albums though, I had a friend who had a very extensive album collection - his mother was obsessive-compulsive about cleaning, and one day took all his records out of their sleeves one at a time, sprayed them with wax furniture polish, wiped them off, then returned them to the sleeves and to the shelves from where they came.
She was very pleased with herself for doing this for her son.
He just about had a nervous breakdown.

Gemmawemma9 · 23/05/2025 23:58

Police won’t give a shit. I’d text her “You’re a fucking liar, and a jealous, pathetic embarrassment. Don’t ever contact me again, I’ll be telling literally everyone who knows you why we’ve fallen out, too.” And block.

Littlemissfat · 23/05/2025 23:55

I would send another text to say you are getting the police involved.

could you say you have cctv in the house?

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twilightermummy · 23/05/2025 23:39

I've been following this throughout the day and I just wanted to say that I think your message to her was the perfect response. Stick to it.

You need to tell all and sundry about her behaviour though, preferably before she spins a story.

Blossomly · 23/05/2025 23:33

She sounds nuts. Police won’t do anything. Just tell her how weird she is, fuck that guy, warn friends and move on.

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Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 23:31

No response from Boiler. Easiest way out for her would be an unmarked envelope of cash through letterbox, no admission, no guilt, problem solved for good.

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Bitchesbelike · 23/05/2025 23:30

Something about the way this is written makes me think you are being a bit dramatic and probably trying it on re the amount you are quoting .

Negroany · 23/05/2025 23:26

AthWat · 23/05/2025 10:57

Well is she bought it she'll know what she paid for it - that's of course not what it's "worth" now.

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Maybe she will. My point is that I have no idea what I paid for several pieces of non valuable jewellery. It just sounds like a number plucked out of the air to me.

Hulabalu · 23/05/2025 22:50

Tell her if she pays you back you’ll sign something to say you won’t tell people what she’s done .

Hulabalu · 23/05/2025 22:48

beenwhereyouare · 23/05/2025 20:26

You may have evidence; her fingerprints could be all over the jewelry,

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The evidence would be a test revealing no alcohol consumed in past 80 hours

BlackGarlicTonkotsuWith3ExtraHalfEggs · 23/05/2025 22:40

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 10:35

If I had to guess, I know that she would prefer to pay, because she knows if I’ve said I’m going to do something I follow it up, and she won’t want the aggro with her friends finding out, some of who are her colleagues, she’s got a rep to protect and as far as I know she’s never done anything like this, nothing we know about anyway.

BUT she will be afraid that paying up will be an admission of guilt and will be afraid of that coming out. She’s painted herself into a corner. She’s also probably too thick to figure her way out of it, I have only now realised today how thick she is, I am embarrassed for her. She needs to fix this. Can’t just step on people like this literally and go swanning off into the sunset, not today.

With friends like you, who need enemies?

Hulabalu · 23/05/2025 22:18

Try to get an alcohol test :

Alcohol can be detected in the body for varying amounts of time, depending on the testing method used and individual factors. Generally, alcohol remains detectable in blood for up to 12 hours, in breath for 12-24 hours, in urine for 24-48 hours (or up to 80 hours with specific tests), in saliva for 12-24 hours, and in hair for up to 90 days.

Hulabalu · 23/05/2025 22:17

can U send us photos OP

Dangermoo · 23/05/2025 22:11

AmiablePedant · 23/05/2025 21:09

Actually she's not "literally" stepping on you. (Although she may have stepped on your jewelry.)
Check out the difference between "literally" and "metaphorically."

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So many people use that word incorrectly these days. It's just now used to (unnecessarily) emphasise a point.

notatinydancer · 23/05/2025 22:07

LetYouEntertainMe · 23/05/2025 21:51

they are too busy arresting people who are trying to exercise their freedom of expression on Whatsapp or Twitter.

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True

LetYouEntertainMe · 23/05/2025 21:51

notatinydancer · 23/05/2025 21:44

There is no way the police will dust for fingerprints. Two people I know got burgled last year, the police didn’t even come out. Actual door broken , burglaries. One had the car keys taken. They did find the car.

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they are too busy arresting people who are trying to exercise their freedom of expression on Whatsapp or Twitter.

notatinydancer · 23/05/2025 21:44

beenwhereyouare · 23/05/2025 20:26

You may have evidence; her fingerprints could be all over the jewelry,

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There is no way the police will dust for fingerprints. Two people I know got burgled last year, the police didn’t even come out. Actual door broken , burglaries. One had the car keys taken. They did find the car.

AmiablePedant · 23/05/2025 21:09

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 10:35

If I had to guess, I know that she would prefer to pay, because she knows if I’ve said I’m going to do something I follow it up, and she won’t want the aggro with her friends finding out, some of who are her colleagues, she’s got a rep to protect and as far as I know she’s never done anything like this, nothing we know about anyway.

BUT she will be afraid that paying up will be an admission of guilt and will be afraid of that coming out. She’s painted herself into a corner. She’s also probably too thick to figure her way out of it, I have only now realised today how thick she is, I am embarrassed for her. She needs to fix this. Can’t just step on people like this literally and go swanning off into the sunset, not today.

Actually she's not "literally" stepping on you. (Although she may have stepped on your jewelry.)
Check out the difference between "literally" and "metaphorically."

ButtonMoon777 · 23/05/2025 21:09

I’m petty as anything so I’d suddenly be finding the mutual friend a lot more attractive and getting him to play along with it. Sounds like classic narcissistic rage. (Seen this myself before)

LoafofSellotape · 23/05/2025 20:37

You'll have to write it off as there's no way you can prove she did it, no way on God's green earth is anyone going to come and take fingerprints. You say she did, she'll deny it.