Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

Go and get the man.

Cut her off, and chalk it up to experience.

You used the word friend, I don't think this girl is your friend, even if you did want the same man there's no reason to go to this level of anger and disrespect. A real friend would stop and realise you have absolutely no control over what this man wants because its ok you both saying you liked him but end of the day its his choice if he liked one of you back.

She's clearly felt threatened by you, and sees you not as a friend but as competition and someone in the way of what she wants. To me no friends worth losing over a man , but they are worth losing for this level of disrespect for your property.

You caused it by your joke , that was not ok to say not even in jest , I hope you understand you crossed a line with your friend and you caused her reaction and you must hold accountability for that, but it doesn't justify how she reacted.

You both need to find new friends, because you both are toxic to each other.

This type of behaviour if she has done it is unhinged vindictive and spiteful and you most definitely do not need a friend like this... keep well away from her and end the friendship.

wow , you should have told his wife

She sounds unhinged!

I'd make it my mission to hook up with the bloke she fancies and plaster pics all over socials after that, but I'm a petty motherflipper.

Yes. check the house.. and replace toothbrush heads... if she's mad enough to do that to your jewellery, she's unhinged enough to have attacked some other of your possessions. It's quite creepy to think that you were having a night out with someone you thought of as a friend, who was harbouring such crazy resentment against you - for something you had no intention of ever doing.. She must be quite an actress.
How drunk/high was she when it happened?

Anyway, to use the oft quoted MN advice - Get a ring doorbell, in case she goes full nut job. I expect she's pretty annoyed about the text.

If you get no response to your text, and you feel you won't ever get the money back, tell her you are making her a present of the money she owes you for the damage so that she can spend it on the therapy she so clearly needs ( a bit on the meow side but satisfying) then Block and NC.

I'd also put a pic of the damage on social media, without naming names, and ask your circle if it could have been done by falling on it or does it look like someone deliberately broke it and say if its the latter that you are so disappointed that someone you trusted would do that. Anyone who is interested will ask who it was and you can tell them privately. So that at least you've warned others (and you may find they know exactly who you were talking about because I'm guessing this isn't the first time she's done wierd stuff like this).

What are you talking about @Worryabouteverything ? @Bunnyboilerfriend is the OP and she posted the post you quoted.

You can’t use more than one name on a thread anymore.

Definitely locks change.
Keep us updated.

Please tell me you’re not still friends with them? Bob sounds like an absolute sociopath!

Why? We know "boiler" means her psycho friend, who has not yet responded to the text. What is the name fail???

I think @Bunnyboilerfriend had a name fail here.

If she is unhinged enough to damage the jewellery and deny it, there’s no way she going to put cash through your letterbox.

She is not your friend OP. That is awful behaviour.

I'm interested to see what happens next!

The police probably won’t be interested at all, but, I would also do this, and add that ‘they are going to take fingerprints, because it wasn’t you, and if she says it wasn’t her then ‘someone’ must have broken in somehow, which is quite serious’ 😂

I agree, she’s dangerous and capable of worse, get a door bell cam & dash cam for your car.

Agree. What I've learnt is that people like her like to control the narrative so you have to do it before she does. She will shit herself and will think twice before she does it again or tries to cause you falling with other friends because of her lies. Make sure that in your text you mention exactly what she's done so she can't show it to somebody else without thm realising what she's done.

Very dangerous person. Change locks, block when you sorted this. Can't believe anyone do this. It's so past normal. Huge red flag. Not a friend

What man is worth this?!

I was wondering this, most of my jewellery can’t be bent, and I don’t keep it in a hallway! No way is this real.

Tell her that then. And add that you will then consider the matter closed, -that is you won’t feel the need to warn others including your friend/her love interest.
If she’s as unintelligent as you say she is, that’s a perfect way out for her.

I wouldn’t want that though. I’d want nothing more from her again, and I would definitely warn my friend/her love interest that she’s sly, deceitful, angry and bitter….warning him not to get involved.

Hopefully people are just joking about that. OP already stated she doesn’t like him like that and it’s a bit gross to use him in that way, but hope she does warn him off, as this woman could clearly get very jealous & controlling if she ends up with him.

I can think of plenty of jewellery items that could be bent beyond repair. Are you the friend?