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Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

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Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 07:49

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

OP posts:
LegoTherapy · 23/05/2025 07:55

Viviennemary · 23/05/2025 07:53

You simply have no actual proof she did this. But if you are sure she did then end the friendship and have nothing more to do with her. It does seem an odd thing to do when she would be the obvious suspect. She is unhinged.

Did the Borrowers come in and do it? OP states there was no one else who could have done it.

Sunnyday321 · 23/05/2025 07:55

Wait until she replies to you . If it was her then it's unforgivable she did that and continued to spend the night as yours , you'd think you would have had the disagreement and she would have left there and then .
In regard to the jewellery , I'm not sure you can do much as how would you prove it was her ?
Either way your friendship is over .

Shrewsbury247 · 23/05/2025 07:53

Red flag central 🚩 she sounds unhinged. I’d be cutting her out of my social circle entirely!!

Largestlegocollectionever · 23/05/2025 07:53

I’d threaten her with police for criminal damage and small claims court if she doesn’t pay you back for new items.
Id also them delete block her and made sure I told mutual male friend and warned him!

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 23/05/2025 07:53

If the total cost impact is £300, I'm going to assume none of the pieces of jewellery are valuable enough to be individually covered by your home insurance. You can check your policy to see if they will offer you any coverage.

About your friend? No. She's absolutely psychotic, she has 0.0001% chance of ever expressing remorse or paying you back. Your friendship is also over, but you knew that already.

Viviennemary · 23/05/2025 07:53

You simply have no actual proof she did this. But if you are sure she did then end the friendship and have nothing more to do with her. It does seem an odd thing to do when she would be the obvious suspect. She is unhinged.

Iwrotethelyricstoaxlf · 23/05/2025 07:51

That is not a friend. Though I suspect you already realise that.

Hopefully she’ll offer to pay for replacements or repair.

I wouldn’t bank on it though.