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Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

532 replies

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 07:49

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

OP posts:
Tandora · 23/05/2025 09:42

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 08:10

Just received a reply:

”You stumbled and fell on the console when you were going upstairs last night, I came to see what happened and you just shrugged your shoulders and went upstairs. I did not brake(sic) your stuff. I have treated you well and I don’t know why you would assume I would brake your stuff.”

I absolutely DID NOT stumble nor fall. Even so, the damage done has nothing to do with that. They are all still neatly on the table but totally damaged.

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This is psychotic!!

Muffinmam · 23/05/2025 09:42

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 09:24

She has no right to do this and I do not see why I should just take it. She’s a criminal and I will make her think twice today.

I have sent this text:
”This is not up for debate.
You have the opportunity to end this matter by refunding me.
You have until midday to clarify whether you intend to do so or not.
Otherwise, I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency.
Regards, “

What does “I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency” even mean? Does it mean you’ll take her to Court via a small claims? Does it mean you’ll file charges with the Police?

Is the jewellery costume jewellery or fine jewellery?

Can you please post a picture?

TY78910 · 23/05/2025 09:41

ExtraOnions · 23/05/2025 09:38

The OP has no evidence whatsoever that her friend did this .. not a shred. Nobody on this thread has… what do you think the police are going to do ? They are going to issue a notice based on “I think that’s probably what happened”

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No, of course not. But some people buckle under police investigation and come clean, maybe under pressure of texts she will admit it to OP - it’s early days. I’m just saying that it’s worth reporting whatever the outcome, and my point about the notice is in response to other posters who say it’s not serious enough to investigate in the first place (it is a crime).

IkeaJesusChrist · 23/05/2025 09:41

I'd shit on her doorstep and fuck the bloke.

AthWat · 23/05/2025 09:39

User27563 · 23/05/2025 09:37

@AthWat because I've been on mn a long time and it's quite far fetched?

Yes, there's lots of threads like that. It's better just not to read or reply to them if you think the OP is lying than to demand photographic evidence of some broken jewellery.

sakuraspring · 23/05/2025 09:39

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 09:24

She has no right to do this and I do not see why I should just take it. She’s a criminal and I will make her think twice today.

I have sent this text:
”This is not up for debate.
You have the opportunity to end this matter by refunding me.
You have until midday to clarify whether you intend to do so or not.
Otherwise, I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency.
Regards, “

Noone writes like that ? Do they?!

babystarsandmoon · 23/05/2025 09:39

Make sure you check around the house for other sabotaged or broken items.

ExtraOnions · 23/05/2025 09:38

TY78910 · 23/05/2025 09:25

Well… I don’t know. If she does something like this, it’s likely she will do something else that is unhinged. It then builds a pattern of behaviour. Nobody in a ‘typical’ state of mind would even think to do that so it would be right to assume that she could go on to do other things in other relationships she feels she needs to take control.

Even if it’s logged with 101 or a web form, and police decide not to investigate, it’s there if anything else happens. And for all we know she could have cut up her ex’s shirts before and put sh*t through someone’s letterbox and suddenly there’s another allegation.

  • From a quick google: ‘For low-value damage (up to £300), the police may issue a penalty notice instead of charging the offender.’

Any police officer will know that ‘a fall’ could not cause every piece of jewellery to snap and bend individually.

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The OP has no evidence whatsoever that her friend did this .. not a shred. Nobody on this thread has… what do you think the police are going to do ? They are going to issue a notice based on “I think that’s probably what happened”

thegirlwithemousyhair · 23/05/2025 09:38

F'kin ell. Bunny boiler alert.

TheBigFactHunt · 23/05/2025 09:38

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 09:24

She has no right to do this and I do not see why I should just take it. She’s a criminal and I will make her think twice today.

I have sent this text:
”This is not up for debate.
You have the opportunity to end this matter by refunding me.
You have until midday to clarify whether you intend to do so or not.
Otherwise, I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency.
Regards, “

”Utmost urgency”. You’ve gone all Rumploe of the Bailey.
You both know the truth. Tell everyone else, shag the bloke, whatever.
Don’t waste your time with idle threats of things that are not going to happen. Never communicate with her again.

User27563 · 23/05/2025 09:37

@AthWat because I've been on mn a long time and it's quite far fetched?

TY78910 · 23/05/2025 09:36

Scentedjasmin · 23/05/2025 09:34

You definitely did not fall on it. Metal doesn't just get bent out of shape. If you fell on it, you'd have sent it flying but not broken it. I would be tempted to call her bluff and say that you have a small security camera in the hall facing the door and that picked something up.

Also, if you fall from stairs on top of a console with such impact that it could (somehow 🙄) cause damage to items on top, you’d be bruised black and blue.

Richiewoo · 23/05/2025 09:35

Your friend is a psycho. Stay away.

Railingsst · 23/05/2025 09:35

BaconMassive · 23/05/2025 08:31

Bacon sandwich, cup of tea.

Talk it through in person

Don't be so ridiculous

Scentedjasmin · 23/05/2025 09:34

You definitely did not fall on it. Metal doesn't just get bent out of shape. If you fell on it, you'd have sent it flying but not broken it. I would be tempted to call her bluff and say that you have a small security camera in the hall facing the door and that picked something up.

TheBigFactHunt · 23/05/2025 09:33

Rooroobear · 23/05/2025 08:33

Oh bore off. Always one.

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🙋‍♀️ Two.

ObtuseMoose · 23/05/2025 09:33

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 09:24

She has no right to do this and I do not see why I should just take it. She’s a criminal and I will make her think twice today.

I have sent this text:
”This is not up for debate.
You have the opportunity to end this matter by refunding me.
You have until midday to clarify whether you intend to do so or not.
Otherwise, I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency.
Regards, “

I'm sure she's quaking after reading that!

SuperTrooper14 · 23/05/2025 09:33

People saying it's not a police matter – it's criminal damage of £300 worth of someone else's belongings. That's a chargeable offence. Should we just let everyone off the hook for stuff like this?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/05/2025 09:32

Bunnyboilerfriend · 23/05/2025 09:24

She has no right to do this and I do not see why I should just take it. She’s a criminal and I will make her think twice today.

I have sent this text:
”This is not up for debate.
You have the opportunity to end this matter by refunding me.
You have until midday to clarify whether you intend to do so or not.
Otherwise, I will not hesitate to pursue the matter with the utmost urgency.
Regards, “

I know you've sent the message but I would be clearer about this.

If she doesn't admit it and agree to pay for the damage, you say something like this:

"I don't think you have understood the gravity of the situation. You have deliberately damaged my property. This is a criminal offence.

In my original message I simply asked you what had happened to my jewellery. I didn't mention it being broken. The fact that you know it was broken shows that you know exactly what happened. We both know that I did not drunkenly bump into the console, and that even if I had it would not have caused that kind of damage. My jewellery has been deliberately bent out of shape and you were the only person in my house last night. Your fingerprints will be all over the console.

You have one last opportunity to apologise and agree to pay for the damage, otherwise I will be reporting you to the police for criminal damage and pursuing you separately in the small claims court for my financial loss.

In addition to this, I will tell all our mutual acquaintances, including Steve, what you have done.

So, what's it to be?"

travelallthetime · 23/05/2025 09:32

It will go nowhere with the police, you cannot prove she damaged it, she can simply say she didn’t and you did it yourself

Mulletbelle · 23/05/2025 09:31

Get with the guy she is after - and post it all over SM.

Duvetsse · 23/05/2025 09:31

Photograph the damage.
Absolutely report her to the police.
Let her name be in their system.
Then lodge with the Small Claims Court.

Wilfrida1 · 23/05/2025 09:31

I want to know how you found a jeweller open so early this morning who could tell you how much it was going to cost to repair it ....!

I do hope you get something from her, though. That was downright nasty of her.

ThejoyofNC · 23/05/2025 09:28

She sounds like a psychopath, please warn your friend.

Stripeyanddotty · 23/05/2025 09:26

Do you have receipts for the jewellery ?

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