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Partner has a cold - but he’s not dying !

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bagpuss90 · 22/05/2025 17:37

So he has a cold - yes colds are not nice. But it’s not flu , it’s just a cold . He’s been in bed all day. Already said he won’t be going anywhere this weekend. He’s feeling so sorry for himself. I’ve had colds when the kids were small and had to soldier on. I still do. He’s virtually calling the undertaker ffs. I’m not unsympathetic- I’ve got him paracetamol , strepsils and so on- but bloody hell . This is a light hearted post - but aibu to find him a bit cringy ?

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LadyGillingham · 22/05/2025 19:42

Wow!! For the first time I saw some neutral responses on mumsnet!!

OP, if he feels that poorly, pls get him checked. A new variant of COVID is going around.

WildflowerConstellations · 22/05/2025 19:14

thetrumanshow · 22/05/2025 18:25

I am always laughing inside at people claiming they "can't leave the bed" when they have the flu, so I would just ignore your husband 😂

I know flu can make you extremely ill, I had it, but rarely that bad that you need a bed pan or wouldn't be able to escape the house in case of a fire.

I have a cold, not even flu, and yesterday I bent over to pick something up, my vision went black and I almost collapsed but just managed to right myself in time. It was like I was melting into the floor! I have left the bed but not sure it was a good idea!!

thetrumanshow · 22/05/2025 18:25

I am always laughing inside at people claiming they "can't leave the bed" when they have the flu, so I would just ignore your husband 😂

I know flu can make you extremely ill, I had it, but rarely that bad that you need a bed pan or wouldn't be able to escape the house in case of a fire.

Tireddadplus · 22/05/2025 18:15

Tell him to take his temperature every 10 minutes and tell you about. That’s what i do

ThatDaringEagle · 22/05/2025 18:05

bagpuss90 · 22/05/2025 17:57

Hmmm - now I feel a bit bad…..

Ahh don't worry, just a difference in the immune response of the sexes really. I suspect very few knew of this difference before covid, & the majority are still probably unaware.

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bagpuss90 · 22/05/2025 17:57

Hmmm - now I feel a bit bad…..

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DrummingMousWife · 22/05/2025 17:50

Is he wearing the dressing gown of doom ?

ThatDaringEagle · 22/05/2025 17:49

In general, men suffer from respiratory bugs more than women, it's to do with the effects of inflammatory effects testoserone (&or possibly adrenaline) & also the lack of mitigating effects of estrogen iirc. It was highlighted during covid where men were more likely to suffe & die more frequently due to contracting the corona virus.

Something for ye MNs to consider in future perhaps, before berating your OH for being seemingly 'too much' under the weather due to a cold or flu.
I.e. manflu is actually a medical phenomenon!

https://www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/features/truth-about-man-colds

F1LandoFan · 22/05/2025 17:47

I have voted you are being unreasonable as I had a cold a couple of weeks ago and felt horrific!! So there is a nasty one going round.

WildflowerConstellations · 22/05/2025 17:42

YABU I have a cold too, if there was any way that I could have spent today in bed I 100% would have done! fuck knows how I'm going to do everything I need to do tomorrow!

ProudCat · 22/05/2025 17:41

I used to work in the health service. A woman doctor was annoyed that her husband doctor had 'man-flu'. He died 2 days later. He really was ill.

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