In laws and partners family visiting to see new baby 👶

Put yourself and the baby first OP. You’re talking a lot about not wanting to upset them all. Balls to that- your own wellbeing is the priority here.

Contrary to popular opinion I think I would just suck it up, but I'm probably older than the average poster and tend to be more relaxed about this type of thing, though I do say do not give up your bedroom, if this is going to work you will need a bolt hole, and I would be making it very clear to DH that you will expect him to be running around after everyone, not you. I also think should you stay at your parents, your are giving signals that you don't want their company. As PP suggested, have your parents on stand by to host the sisters family should the need arise. Good luck op.

My first was two weeks overdue, then I had a three-day labour, then we were kept in for a week with various complications. Best of British, OP.

Well this isn’t going to end well… look forward to your post in early August 😂

not sure why you posted. You aren't interested in people's opinions. Your partner has decided that they will stay with you and you just have accepted that. What's your Aibu? 🤷

No way! They need to book into a hotel. At one month you're still finding your feet and recovering from the birth. The last thing you will need is 5 extra people.

I had a fast (3 hour) first labour and recovered quickly, however, I still found visitors tiring and limited time they came around.

Don’t give up your room! You will need a place to escape to!

Honestly it sounds awful, overcrowded you will likely be tired maybe overwhelmed and your body will still be recovering.
I agree your mums would be an easy solution but it sounds like that would be offensive so you may have to suck it up. I do agree thry should all stay in a hotel I fear you have set a precedent here.
Make sure your partner is there for cooking/ cleaning /drinks duty and that he takes them out often to give you a break.

Jesus Christ.

You're going to be in the trenches at one month old, the sleep deprivation is kicking in hard, you're still trying to figure things out a bit... You'll be super emotional, exhausted...

Last thing you need is 5 extra people and the work that involves.

Tell them to fuck off and stay in a hotel.

Eh? Why on earth should the op leave her home to accommodate disorganised idiots?

You and baby stay at your parents and visit daily and your husband can stay at your home with his family. Anything else would be madness and too stressful for you so early on with a new baby. How long are they staying? Stand your ground. You do not have to accommodate anything you do not want to regardless if they are family or not. You and baby’s needs are priority and guilt tripping you because they left it too late to book accommodation is not on you.

Their failure to plan is not a reason for you to be subjected to this ridiculous nonsense.

They are rude for even thinking of crashing at yours.

Let them be offended, if that’s what it takes. You can’t accommodate that number of people in such a small space when you have just given birth.

so if they can’t afford accommodation, they either don’t come, or they accept that you will not be bunking in with so many people and that you and the baby need space and peace and quiet

Completely batshit for all the reasons PPs have said. It’s giving me anxiety even thinking about it and my kids are teens now and were relatively easy babies… the first few weeks is TOUGH!!!! Tough shit that SIL didn’t get her arse in gear and book accommodation in time… not your problem to solve. I would be de-camping to parents and let your DH sort out his family.

Explain to your dh that its not practical, and you'll need more space - they should be accommodating you and the baby

This is completely daft. Either they go to your parents house or stay in a hotel.

DS2 and DDIL have a spare room that we used to stay in until DGS was born, but since then we’ve stayed in an Air bnb. The last thing they want is for us to be under their feet when they’re up in the night with him, and we don’t want to disturb him if we get up for a wee or something. They, also, don’t need the added work of washing sheets and towels etc.

It honestly amazes me how short grandparents memories are when it comes to having a baby and coping with visitors.

Do not agree to this. With a one month old you need privacy and rest. Stay at your parents.

This is an absolutely barmy idea OP! No way will you want to share your small space with this many people so soon after giving birth! They all need to book hotel rooms or they shouldn’t be coming. They need to suck up the cost of leaving it too late

OP, don't let this be too stressful for you. You need your space and your sleep. Start them all off in the spare bedroom and living room if that's what they want, and ask your parents to be on standby to offer a room in case they find it too much; perhaps you could take them all to visit your parents so they can see what it would be like staying there. But they may not find camping with you a problem at all, it depends what they are used to. They might be so excited to be in a different country with a new baby that they don't care at all about being squashed.

Everyone’s experience postpartum is different but I think you’re being very optimistic with any of the options you’re proposing. Firstly having that many people stay in your home while you’re there might be awful. You could still be bleeding, you could be struggling with feeding, your hormones and emotions might be all over the place etc. I think it’s highly unlikely you’ll want to be hosting or giving up your private space. I also think you’ll probably want to be at home, especially since you don’t know how your baby might be, if they’ll sleep, if they will hate travel etc, and you’ll have to make sure you’ve got all you need for both the day and night and transport this stuff between two locations.

His sister and BIL speak English. So they go to your parents. Surely it's obvious?

you will want your space once the baby is here, I would absolutely think about either staying at your parents or getting them all to get an Airbnb. You won’t want people there 24/7 it’s so overwhelming and unfair on you.

Are there any caravan parks with static caravans nearby?

Your partner thinks it's rude to send his family to your parents' house. Everyone else thinks it's rude (and insane) to expect a new mother to have to put up with having her house taken over.

That's too many guests for a 2 bedroom property OP.

We have a two bed flat and thought we'd be up for visitors after a few days (all our family live at least 4 hours away by train).

Well, we were in hospital over a week as DS was in SCBU with hypothermia and being treated for suspected sepsis. I developed PPD in hospital. In the end DS was almost a month old when we had our first visitors.

We did one visitor at a time due to lack of space and 1 night only. Even with that, it's a lot having just one extra person in a 2 bed. I couldn't bf so needed space to pump privately. That would have been so much harder with 4 extra people in our small space! We were up most of the night at that stage to feed and pump and needed the living room to do so comfortably, especially if tag teaming so the other could sleep. We couldn't have done that if someone was sleeping in there.

You just don't know how the birth will go. Hopefully it will all go smoothly and you'll be back home the next day. But you could go overdue. You could have a c section. You could have PPD.

Either way, your own space is a God send. Even if just some of them stay elsewhere, it will help. If they're coming from abroad they will be bringing quite a lot of extra stuff into a 2 bed which will already be full of new baby things. You just don't need the stress.

You are more accommodating than I would be even with no new born, with the greatest of respect that is a lot of adults in 2 bed house where are you all going to sit in the evenings what about cooking etc. but in the nis sleep deprivation and a new born absolutely no way this will be a enjoyable experience.

I really feel for you as you as I don’t what the answer is but I think this has disaster written all over it

Is there an air b&b local that either they can stay in on their own or you could all stay in. If nothing else it might be a nice change of scenery for you. We lived in Australia when dd was born and folks came over for a month. It was great to have the help because after a month of parenting (a relatively easy newborn) we were shattered. Mum would offer to have her over night and wow I felt so much better for that