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Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

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WaterBed · 22/05/2025 15:23

Apart from being desperate to crack the joke

“i really hope so - I only live at 55”

in all seriousness - I personally think it’s fine to be a Dad age 57 when your OH has a newborn. Any thoughts ?

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WaterBed · 22/05/2025 15:36

Redpeach · 22/05/2025 15:31

I dont get the joke about 55

It’s lame I admit

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Sunshineaftertherain1 · 22/05/2025 15:35

I'm 37 and my "partner" is 55, he was 50 when our son was born. I wouldn't recommend it, however that's more due to his personality than his age. His friend married a woman 15 years younger (her 40 and him 55) and she's pregnant. His other child is 27.

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WaterBed · 22/05/2025 15:34

Pandasandelephants · 22/05/2025 15:32

selfish! nothing else. why would you think it's ok? Can you elaborate?

Because most 57 year olds who looks after themselves healthwise would be almost certain to see child to adulthood and bring wealth of experience

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/05/2025 15:34

Horrific idea. If we'd done that (physical impossibility for me, but let that pass) our child would now be nearly 13. The idea of being responsible for someone that young at our ages is dreadful. If we had grandchildren, I'd be delighted to help out here and there, but full responsibility for a child is a very different matter. I think it's selfish, especially when the man already has children from an earlier relationship.

FavouriteShirts · 22/05/2025 15:34

No - I think it’s gross, actually

SilviaSnuffleBum · 22/05/2025 15:34

My ex was 53 when our twins were born. I was 38.5.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but with now 7 year old twins? He's 60.
It's too old.

Pandasandelephants · 22/05/2025 15:32

selfish! nothing else. why would you think it's ok? Can you elaborate?

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WaterBed · 22/05/2025 15:32

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/05/2025 15:30

OH has a newborn.

That wording is odd. She gave birth but surely you both have a newborn.

Ok - I admit I used OH deliberately and not another term for the sake of today’s inclusive society - so yes both have a newborn

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Katemax82 · 22/05/2025 15:32

Motomum23 · 22/05/2025 15:29

My husband was 58 when our 4th was born.

Mine is 53 we just had our 4th (I'm 42)

Redpeach · 22/05/2025 15:31

I dont get the joke about 55

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/05/2025 15:31

Oh and OH? Not marrying her?

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/05/2025 15:30

OH has a newborn.

That wording is odd. She gave birth but surely you both have a newborn.

Motomum23 · 22/05/2025 15:29

My husband was 58 when our 4th was born.

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/05/2025 15:29

I know a man whose dad was a lot older. He's deeply unhappy. He's an only and ended up doing a fair amount of caring.

Plus, old men with young women give me the ick. I'm in my early 50s and wouldn't date a 30-something (or 20-something?).

handpaintedperiwinkles · 22/05/2025 15:28

nope far too old

TheWisePlumDuck · 22/05/2025 15:27

It's selfish to have a child when you will probably be dead/incapable of supporting your child long before they reach adulthood.

Yes, anything can happen, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow. But that doesn't make it any less selfish to knowingly do that to a child.

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