Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

Quite honestly if I was a woman in my 20s or 30s there is no way I would want to tie myself down with a man in his 50s.
Apart from him being old when I was in my 'prime' as per Jean Brodie, most men in their seventies are just ...old men. There's no getting away from it (unless you're Bruce Springsteen, of course.)
Then there's the prospect of early widowhood. It's all highly unappealing.

It's not ideal imo

You know parenting doesn't stop when your kid hits 18 right @WaterBed ?

I lost my Mum in her early 60s, I was in my mid 30s at the time. I'm in my 40s now and still wish she was around so I could ask her advice sometimes.

Yes, you may be in great health now, but there's a very good chance you won't be by the time your child hits adulthood. Personally I think having a kid at your age is selfish as fuck.

My husband was 47 and 49 when our kids were born. If we had another he’d be 52/53 possibly. I think it depends on age of mother, health and financial situation.

I think it’s too old even if your health is ok for now, that can suddenly change at anytime and more so the older you get, my dad died after a short illness at 61, I was 23 I still felt too young to lose him but at least I can my childhood with him.

Fine, as long as you have plenty of money to pay for your care home while your partner raises a child...

Your whole post is lame, some older fellow has a newborn who really gives a f&@“.
It’s not ideal if the newborn is an only.
Close friends are having to parent their grandchildren at 70, it’s no picnic. Although healthy physically, it’s not the same. The other 40 yr old dads aren’t exactly inviting him over to join the dad gang, mountain biking with his son is hard, does one even own a mountain bike at 70…no, black diamond runs no way. The grandson and granddaughter are loosing out in a lot of ways by having senior parents.

I would assume that it was the younger parent that wanted to have a child and that the older parent will envy their peers getting to retire and chill. So I think it's too old but if the child is here I'm sure it will be plenty loved by both parents and sn older parent could be a great mum or dad.

My uncle’s friend had twins after fertility treatment with his younger wife when he was in his early sixties, he died when they were toddlers. Nobody has any guarantee of living to see their children grow up, but you are drastically lowering the odds by fathering children at that sort of age.

The thought of having a newborn at 57 .makes. me faint with horror personally. Luckily it's impossible as I'm a woman.
Depends whether you really want one or not.
My first husband only ever remembered his father as an old man because he was a similar age when he was born. They were never close. He lived to 100.

I think that's too old really. My husband was 42 when our first was born and if we have another in a year or two he will be around 44/45 when our second is born and I think that is too old realistically but I can't make him any younger so we will just go with it. Same as you will, just hope and pray it turns out okay.

@WaterBed My DF was a bit younger when I was born but older for my 2 siblings. Ok for me but not for them I think. Keeping young matters! I liked being with DF and we did lots together. DM wanted more DC. It wasn’t him who didn’t think of consequences. Yes, DF might not be around forever but DF can be a brilliant one, if they want to be.

Too old. You would get no retirement basically

I don't understand the joke (lame or not I just don't get it).
Becoming a new Dad at 57 is not one of the best ideas out there - but it's also not the worse.
No one will care.

No its too old. I'm in my mid 50s. All ly friends of a similar age are winding down, reducing hours at work etc with a view to retiring. The only babies they're interested in are grandchildren. The idea of starting again at this age is crazy.

You'll be at a different point in life to your friends and your childs friends parents

Too old

If your OH is also an older Mum, perhaps in her early to mid 40s, I think it looks ok (or at least better than if she was 20-30 years younger.)
If she's a lot younger it might appear that she's wife No.2/ 'trophy wife' etc, hence looks a bit icky and some people might judge. 😇

My husband was 58 when our youngest was born. All our kids are gainfully employed and self supporting and my husband is still working part time.

Maybe it's not ideal but there are no exams for who can be a parent and age is only one parameter to take into account. Unlike so many of the men on MN, he was present in our kids' lives, supported us, spent time with us (never went cycling or played golf; never disappeared for a stag fest) and has never been unfaithful, incapable or obnoxious. He played football and cricket with them, talked about history and world events with them, and was as good a dad with our kids as he was to the family he had in his 30s. He is who he is and that hasn't changed with age.

Whether "old men give [you] the ick" or not, i fancied him enough to have a family and love him enough to have been married for over a quarter of a century.

There go your retirement years! 😂

It really depends on the man doesn't it? Some men are useless fathers in their 20s, 30s & 40s. Some older men are more chilled and patient. I imagine it would be very challenging to parent teenagers in your 70s but if you have the energy to do it...

How old are you, OP? I'm in my mid 60s and my husband is nearly 70. He is as fit as a flea and far more active than most men of his age. He's still far too old to be father to a teenager, and would have been too old to deal with a baby and toddler 10/12 years ago, when he was in fact recovering from a heart attack. Just not fair on the child.

Nah, way too old, the kid will get the mickey taken out of him for his grandad picking him up from school.

It's a bit late to ask, if you and your parent already have a newborn. It's not like you can just put it back where it came from.

What are you actually looking for by posting here? Validation? An argument?

I had a good friend growing up whose Dad at about that age when she was born, it was totally fine and he lived into his 80s

And I also had a friend's whose Dad when we had just finished primary school and was probably in his 40s

Neither of those anecdotes proves anything at all or is relevant to your situation.

If the baby is already here or on the way what's the point of your question? If it isn't make your own mind up