Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

This. No 57 year old really looks 30s… they just like to tell themselves that.

Both parents selfish IMO for putting the child in that position (Sorry!)

Completey unrelated, but I went to Google this to find out more information only for a load of articles to come up about a mummified stone baby that was found in the womb of a 70 year old. 🤢🤢

But in all honesty why would you want to become pregnant at 70? My mum is 70, manages fine with my toddler for the day and is fab but she admits that she wouldn't have the energy to look after him more never mind a baby full time!

Truthfully I think it’s selfish and far too old.

No it’s far too old. The (presumably) much younger mother will end up doing the bulk of the work whilst the Dad kicks back. I mean really, who the fuck has the energy to parent small kids properly at that age? Not many I would imagine.

There’s no point anyone advising OP he’s too old to father a child when he’s just done it! Congratulations OP! Far better to be a loving and dedicated partner and father in your 50s than all the deadbeat younger men we hear about on here so frequently. If you haven’t done so already, please marry your OH though.

I remember commenting to my bloke when we got together how glad I was that we were too old for babies - he was 41 and I was 45.

Too old no matter how young they believe they look or feel.

Not a freaking chance. Recipe for disaster.

No, not really. Sorry OP.

My dad was 52. I liked having an older dad but somehow 57 seems quite a bit older. Granted he died but everyone’s parents die eventually and I had a mother and adult siblings and sometimes parents die, even young and healthy ones. My mother’s been a long time widowed though - that’s not something I’d want for myself.

A few years ago I would have said that age it but a number. However, my mid 40’s DH is going through the heartache of his DF really deteriorating and will probably pass away in the not too distant future. My DH feels far too young to be losing his DF who is in his late 80’s. They are very close and it’s breaking my DH’s heart.

This baby would be in this situation at just turned 30. Way too young and quite cruel I think.

My FIL was about that when DH was born. As a result DH spent a lot of time in his teens with his DF after he retired (and his DM was at work) and they had a good relationship. Had he had him earlier he would have been much more career focused through his childhood so it worked out well for them, there are pros and cons.

Nope. Still don’t get it. Explain it like we are stupid.

Sperm quality declines increasing the risk of the child having additional needs.

good point

The oldest woman to give birth was 73, so it’s entirely possible.

I remember my mum telling me she would have been fine having a baby at 40 (which she never) but one in her late 40s genuinely would have made her wanted to have stick her head in an oven and would have been her worst nightmare. I can't even imagine wanting one 10 years on top of that.

No. My dc had a friend with a 70 year old dad when she was 3, she had a horrible life because her dad couldn’t deal with the needs of a year old - don’t get me wrong, she had everything materially a child could need plus a live in house keeper/nanny but poor kid was only allowed in the kitchen (where she ate with her nanny), playroom and bedroom (with en suite) and wasn’t allowed anywhere else without being invited in, also friends had to be gone before dad got home. Mum was a bit weird too though enjoyed being a lady who lunched

That is a terrible joke because no one says ‘I live at 55’ to describe how old they are, they say ‘I’m 55’.

Sorry.

I’m 57 and could think of nothing worse,but as a woman this would never happen

Nope, too old. My partner is 61,with a 14 yearold, and even he struggles. A lot.

Way, way too old. Sorry.

It's not ideal.
Sperm quality declines increasing the risk of the child having additional needs.

It's not just having baby at 57... it's a toddler around 60, school runs in your mid-60s, teenagers in your 70s, being in your 80s by the time your child is living independently... assuming you're in good enough health to get that far.

Most people don't have that kind of spare energy to invest in raising a child at those ages.

There's being an older parent and then there is just plain ridiculous. 57 really is too old and more to the point why would you want a newborn at that age? I can't think anything less appealing then bringing up a baby/toddler/teenager in your 60s and 70s. My MIL's dad was about 60 when she was born. He died when she was very young. I think it's such a selfish thing to do to your child.

Because most 57 year olds who looks after themselves healthwise would be almost certain to see child to adulthood and bring wealth of experience

You absolutely cannot guarantee this. Healthy people get cancer, have strokes and heart attacks etc