Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

The thought of a newborn at 57 and then parenting teens in your 70s, well that wouldn’t be something my partner and I would want to do.

The "you might get hit by a bus" argument is and always has been moronic.

A 57yo is just as likely to get hit by a bus tomorrow AND will DEFINITELY be in their 70s when their child turns 18.

Anyone who says age is just a number either never did anything physically active when they were young, or doesn't try and do anything now so don't know how comparatively shit they would be at it.

My DF was 59 when his youngest child was born. He died suddenly when my half DB was 10. Within a year his DW had changed DB’s name to another man’s surname.

Im in my early 50s and the thought of having a newborn fills me with dread! Not only that, but the energy and resources needed to bring up a human being into adulthood is not something a 60 something can find easily.
57 is too old yes.

It depends a lot on the person. Some 50n y.o. are fit, healthy and no longer work the massive hours they did when they were younger, which means having more time and quality time to spend with their children.

57 is not too old for a newborn but 67 is definitely too old for a ten year old. And dealing with teenagers at 70??? Nope. Not good.

Your post does not make a lot of sense, OP.

Are you the 57 year old dad or the mum (and if the mum, is the baby already here and what age are you?)

🤦🏻‍♀️ ok let me put it plainly, she’s now “working” in the adult industry and speciality is “home wrecking” and “cuckolding” so please, do continue to defend a woman who wouldn’t think twice about fucking up any marriage she could for a profit. She’s very active on Twitter wouldn’t take long to find the cam girl who parades her elderly partner like a gimp and retells their story over and over 😂 there’s feminism and women supporting women and then there’s just women who fail to understand that sometimes women are just as bad as men.

The fetus died not the woman.

Here is another case of a "stone baby" (lithopedion), where a fetus was non viable but had not been miscarried or absorbed by the woman's body. The fetus calcifies:

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/rare-40-year-stone-baby-found-elderly-woman/story?id=21206604

My granddad was 57 when my mum was born, my granny was 38. My mum had the most incredible relationship with her dad and he was an amazing granddad to the grandchildren he met. Yes he died when we were all very young and my granny was a widow at 60. But we all adored him.

Omg that’s freaky!

An absolute disgrace. Selfishness beyond belief. And I would judge harshly.

Yes, you did. You said she 'lured him away'.

My dad was 61 when my youngest sister was born 😊 his age didn't bother him much he was still working full time I think age is just a number if your still active why not have a child

No, unless I read it wrong - the mummified ‘stone’ foetus had been there for decades before the woman died at 70 years of age. It somehow didn’t cause an infection and she lived with it in situ. Like an absorbed twin. Sometimes they grow as collections of things like hair and teeth for years before they’re discovered inside people.

What’s amazing to me is how often nature gets gestation right, not how often it goes wrong.

Did I say that? She actively wanted to break up a family and he was a creepy old loser who wanted an 18 year old, they’re both wankers.

Being 57 with a newborn may be fine.....
Being 75 before your child actually reaches adulthood is ridiculous, and the child is potentially going to miss out on a lot.
Not to mention the dad being knackered - who wants to wrangle a teenager in their 70s?!

It’s always the woman’s fault isn’t it

I know what the "joke" is supposed to be but as presented it doesn't make sense.

If we assume that nobody is thinking about ages we get
"Is it ok for a guy who lives at number 57 to be a dad to a newborn?"
"I hope so, I only live at number 55."

What does this mean? Why would the guy at number 55 hope it was ok for the guy who lives next door to be a father? What advantage is there in that for him?

As I say I know what it's supposed to be; the OP just fucked it up massively.

Because she was my closest friend at the time and I got blow by blow accounts from both of them! He’d wanted a divorce for a while, she saw an opportunity to seduce him and thought she’d be getting the big house and a wealthy husband… non of it played out that way!

My husband was 50 when our son was born. I think it’s all dependant on the man! I know some 50 year olds who would not parent well- my other half is very fit, strong, and works mad hours to support us as well as having our son whenever he’s not working and is the most fun dad I’ve known. He’s so patient and doesn’t have that whole ‘I’m missing out on living my life’ thing I’ve seen in some of my friends’ partners, where they want to go out and party like they did before their kids were born.

I’m sure it’s not the case for all older dads, of course. But DH looks after himself better than ever so he is healthy and able to be fun and a wonderful dad for as long as possible. My dad was older when I was adopted, and he had far less energy when I was growing up than my DH does. He was still an excellent dad growing up for me but a bit different to how things are for my son.

My work colleague is 58 and has a 4 year old along with a 6 month old.

He's like an extra from the Walking Dead. He says he comes to work for a rest

My friends dad was a similar age when she was born. She spent most of her teenage years and early 20’s caring for him as he developed Parkinson’s in his 60’s. Her mum had already died before she reached 13.
It’s not something I’d recommend for anyone

"luring the boss away from his wife and family in some exciting affair. "

How do you know she 'lured him away' especially as she was barely an adult and he was a married old man.