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ADHD in toddler girl

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ToddlerMum312 · 22/05/2025 12:51

My little girl just turned 27 months

Hi everybody : sorry for the long post but I’d really appreciate an input for me and my little girl .
She just turned 27 months .

3/4 word sentence : I want more crackers please mummy , where’s Daddy gone ?
She can ask

  1. who’s that ?
  2. What’s that?
  3. What happened ?
  4. Do you like it ?
  5. What’s mommy doing ?
  6. Where’s daddy gone ?
  7. Why scared ?
She can use the following pronouns 1 I and me , you , 2 yours and mine 3 she ( sometimes) She can answer the following questions
  1. what’s your name
  2. Yes and no
  3. Some Why’s ?
  4. What’s mommy’s name / dad’s name
  5. What’s your favourite toy / colour
  6. How old are you ?
  7. What do you want to watch / read
  8. How are you
  9. Do you want food ? Etc
  10. Why baby crying ? If she sees a baby crying I ask why is he crying ? She replies he is sad .
  11. She can tell boys from girls
  12. What’s /where’s / who’s that ?
  13. What is mommy doing ? Or describe actions in books

Socially , she tends to initiate playing and interaction other kids her by giving the kid her toy or playing with the ball back and forth but she is very shy if there is a big group and doesn’t tend to partake in activities ( she is not in nursery ) . She loves the grandparents . She tends to hold my hand when outside and never bolts , she walks by the buggy otherwise .
She takes “ no “ in her stride and does self regulate when she is stroppy . No meltdowns so far . When I ask her to tidy up or hold my hand she does all the time and she likes sharing with other kids her toys .

My worry is that she doesn’t tend to sit still for more than a few minutes and she would move on to another activity , she is not keen on circle time . She would , however , sit on the beach and draw stuff on the sand and read a book . she definitely is the child who doesn’t sit still at the restaurant.

I know a lot of you will say it is impossible to discern adhd from standard toddler behaviour but I’d like to see if I come across any parent with a child with a similar personality . I have come across a post here where a mom describe his daughter unable to sit still and do circle time and actives and eventually , she was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD ( she is not disruptive but can’t focus ) .

I know adhd carries a lot of genetic component but I am not sure how spontaneous a gene mutation is .

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 22/05/2025 13:40

Bloody hell OP. I say this as a mum of an AuDHD DD16 please chill out. It’s far too early.

Hankunamatata · 22/05/2025 13:40

Yabu. 3 adhd children here. It's way to early. That's way guidlines are 5/6 years and probably even later diagnosis for inattentive type adhd.

SilviaSnuffleBum · 22/05/2025 13:36

Absolutely nothing, repeat NOTHING, you have written suggests ADHD.
It may be that she does have ADHD, but at just over 2 years of age, there are no flags on what you have written.

Needmorelego · 22/05/2025 13:34

You again.
Lots of us told you last time you posted that your daughter is FINE.
She is developing her personality and she sounds a lovely and normal little girl.
STOP with this obsession.

Ablondiebutagoody · 22/05/2025 13:28

I don't see what the problem is. She sounds fine

Seawolves · 22/05/2025 12:59

You really do need to get help with your anxiety around your daughter, this isn't fair to her or to you. You repeatedly post, looking for signs of autism in your child and receive the same answers over and over again.

Summerhillsquare · 22/05/2025 12:57

Where have you picked up the idea?

Overthebow · 22/05/2025 12:54

She only just 2, my dd wasn’t able to do circle time and sit still for a few mins until she was 3 and a half. She may actually have ADHD as I do, but she 2 is way to early to expect them to be able to do circle time and sit still.

Firebird83 · 22/05/2025 12:53

I think it’s far too early to tell.

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