To ask your experience of everything happens for a reason?

I don't believe in "karma" or that if a bad thing happens that you deserve that. I do believe there can be good things that arise indirectly from a bad thing. You can't always see the consequences at the time though.

I had a traumatic university experience in year 1 of my degree many years ago and I was unable to stay there to finish my degree. However it meant I spent year 2 and 3 in a different city which would not have otherwise happened. This lead me to my now DH.

I'm sorry you have had a tough time and I hope things get easier for you.

Everything happens for a reason? Yeah because life's fucking shit sometimes. @echt that made me🤭

'Everything happens for a reason' assumes there is some kind of highly interventionist benevolent intelligence running the universe. Its makes no sense otherwise. As a Christian I think there IS a fairly interventionist benevolent intelligence running the universe and even I think 'Everything happens for a reason' is bollocks! But I do believe that through God there are opportunities to bring good things out of terrible things. I have had some absolutely horrible things happen to me over the years, and the last year or two have been really really hard on my children and I in a number of ways. But I try to look for the 'good thing' which can grow from the bad things - maturity, empathy, perseverance, resilience, wisdom, getting shaken out of your comfort zone, having to each out for help (not easy for me), new knowledge. The bad things are still there and TBH part of me has no idea why they happened. But I'm not sure I'd want to go back to me or us 2 years ago either? In some ways I would happily edit certain events out of my children's lives. But then I see the maturity and resilience and wisdom they've developed and I'm not sure.

It's a completely thoughtless and stupid concept.

To quote from a book whose title I can't remember: "So what's childhood leukaemia for? Not sharing your toys?"

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. I guess the saying is formed on the belief that without something happening, you wouldn’t be in the position or the place or the time for something else to happen. Like the butterfly effect. So in that sense, if I reflect on my life I could say that the turbulent break up I’ve experienced in my early 20s, caused me to move to a different city and take up a different job where I met my now DH and had two wonderful kids. The job I took gave me a boost and levelled up my career, I am now earning a great salary and do something I love. I look at my baby losses as terribly upsetting times and I will always remember them and love them, but if I ended up having those children, I wouldn’t have the ones I have now. It’s all about how you interpret what happens next. Hope you’re ok.