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To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

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Exaltedmalteaser · 21/05/2025 16:26

My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

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TheGiddySeal · 21/05/2025 19:18

A lot of weird comments on here. Can people not just sort it out like grown adults?

GiveDogBone · 21/05/2025 19:17

When it’s his party invite everyone else but that child.

AliBaliBee1234 · 21/05/2025 19:16

That's a horrendous thing for the parent to do

BatchCookBabe · 21/05/2025 19:15

Not nice at all. Your poor little boy. 😢

YANBU @Exaltedmalteaser Really rude, and quite cruel of that woman! I'm so sorry... Flowers

Remove yourself from that WhatsApp group by the way.

Riaanna · 21/05/2025 19:11

Exaltedmalteaser · 21/05/2025 18:15

The venue is their home, so no cap. Most hadn't RSVPed yet either.

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Honestly it suggests to me that there is a peer issue you aren’t aware of in that case.

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 19:10

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 19:04

Nope just calling out bad behaviour. Hopefully you will learn and think twice before you do it again. No one needs to be a doormat to rude behaviour. Funny you’re calling the parent rude but are rude yourself 👀

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Stalking my posts is over invested and unhinged.

you’ve called me rude, immature etc. (whilst stalking me like a teenager).

You need to step away.

Honestly, I think your opinion is wrong, accept it.

But don’t stalk me, life’s too short for that.

Interesting that someone does recognise your username and states that you’re not really someone to take a lot of notice off.

Crushed23 · 21/05/2025 19:08

Exaltedmalteaser · 21/05/2025 18:19

Yes this is exactly it. Before removing me, she also deleted my response (just saying 'X would love to come')

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Ghastly behaviour. I would have blocked her too. Agree with others, take your DC on a really fun day out on the day of the party. 😊

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 21/05/2025 19:07

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 17:07

Agree. When does this judging stop? Lot of parents are here are sounding like children.

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Maybe that's because a lot of people love their children and if their children are hurt, then....
Damn right I'd be petty

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 19:04

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 18:55

Oh dear you’ve now started stalking my other posts, and commenting on them. Now that is most definitely a sign of being way over invested.

Take a step away from MN.

Very very odd behaviour, consider why you’re that bothered.

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Nope just calling out bad behaviour. Hopefully you will learn and think twice before you do it again. No one needs to be a doormat to rude behaviour. Funny you’re calling the parent rude but are rude yourself 👀

Zanzara · 21/05/2025 19:03

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 17:46

She said sorry. What on earth do you expect her to do to put in right other than invite a child she doesn’t want to invite to a party. The kid clearly isn’t wanted there, why on earth would you want him to go? It’s not as if she’s going round killing kittens. She doesn’t have to do anything. She obviously doesn’t care or she wouldn’t have uninvited him. She could say the same thing about the Op, making a huge fuss and not accepting her apology.

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I have noticed in this and other threads that this poster's responses are rarely a solid indicator as to the correct course of action in any given social situation.

TaylorSwish · 21/05/2025 18:59

wizzywig · 21/05/2025 16:27

God that's rude. That parent would be blacklisted from my mind forever.
And I've never seen anyone but Mr Kipling use the word exceedingly. I like your use of it

I will try and use the word exceedingly as much as I can in the next few weeks.

SALaw · 21/05/2025 18:59

Course it’s rude and not great, but just okay it down to the child (oh plans changed) and move on.

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 18:57

AnnaL94 · 21/05/2025 18:53

Send a birthday card that explodes with glitter when you open it.

Nasty cheeky fucker will be hoovering it up for weeks.

Oh yes!!!

thetrumanshow · 21/05/2025 18:57

LauraP32 · 21/05/2025 18:54

You forgot to add 'in your opinion'. Weird you try to make out that your opinion is some sort of fact.

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I haven't witnessed that much drama in Primary school, and I know what many parents thought, and definitively my friends.

So I assure you, people do not expressively tell others what they think of them. Neither do the teachers 😂

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 18:55

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Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Oh dear you’ve now started stalking my other posts, and commenting on them. Now that is most definitely a sign of being way over invested.

Take a step away from MN.

Very very odd behaviour, consider why you’re that bothered.

LauraP32 · 21/05/2025 18:54

AnnaL94 · 21/05/2025 18:53

Send a birthday card that explodes with glitter when you open it.

Nasty cheeky fucker will be hoovering it up for weeks.

😂 best idea yet!

LauraP32 · 21/05/2025 18:54

thetrumanshow · 21/05/2025 18:43

it's not brave, it's childish.

We would all have loved to tell some other parents what we think of them, especially in Primary school, we all could. It's just not necessary, you move on and ignore them.

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You forgot to add 'in your opinion'. Weird you try to make out that your opinion is some sort of fact.

supersop60 · 21/05/2025 18:54

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 18:46

Op said herself she was rude to her. Look back at the comments she made. Can you not read?

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And I have just re-read all the OP's posts to make sure that I was correct.

AnnaL94 · 21/05/2025 18:53

Send a birthday card that explodes with glitter when you open it.

Nasty cheeky fucker will be hoovering it up for weeks.

Blonzer · 21/05/2025 18:53

Her son doesn't want your son at his party in his house. Maybe your son in too popular, bossy, disruptive, destructive wins everything or is mean/ hurts hers. I suspect it's something negative as she's tried to brush it off as a mistake without having to spell it out to you.

Whatever it is we don't know. Would you really want your son to have an invite to somewhere where he isn't wanted, out of politeness?

supersop60 · 21/05/2025 18:50

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 18:46

Op said herself she was rude to her. Look back at the comments she made. Can you not read?

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Are you the other mum?

thetrumanshow · 21/05/2025 18:50

TooGoodToGoto · 21/05/2025 18:45

No, you call out bad behaviour in the hope that they will
learn and think twice before they do it again.

No one needs to be a doormat to that type of behaviour.

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You think the host is bothered? She wouldn't have cancelled the invitation, she didn't have to by the sound of it.

Now everyone will know that someone is reacting very aggressively, blocking and making a big fuss. Well done.

It started by the host being rude, now it's the OP who sounds .. difficult. How does that help?

ChocolateGanache · 21/05/2025 18:50

Arseholes!

BreadInCaptivity · 21/05/2025 18:50

@ExaltedmalteaserYANBU.

Had similar but was the party mum. DS wanted a big unstructured party with him and friends playing football in the garden plus takeaway pizza and cake.

One invite ended up with a child not on his list but with a similar name who accepted (about 4 had similar names). I got an upset text from mum of friend who should have been invited asking why he was excluded.

All easily resolved for the cost of an extra Dominoes pizza and and email to explain to the mum of friend that should have been invited that it was an embarrassing oversight (didn’t mention the other child as I didn’t want them to know via gossip they were never on the guest list) that they were always invited and given the volume of invites Id just missed one by accident given the number of variations of (example) Christopher/Chris/Kris/Kit/Toph.

All was well. Never even occurred I’d disinvite the child who got the invitation by mistake…..and good thing too as they had a fab time at the party, became close friends and now as adults are best friends.

Bustabloodvessel · 21/05/2025 18:49

Depends how quickly she uninvited him

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