To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

I would be sending a message to the mother saying:

Oh no, he was so happy and excited about coming. I can't really bring myself to tell him it was a mistake and he can't go, when all his friends are. He's not really old enough to deal with that. Would you mind if he came please?

I said casual cruelties. This scenario is not a child not getting an invite... This is a child who knows about the invite having that invite rescinded for no clear reason. That's a different situation.

In terms of an example of casual cruelty that stayed with me. I loved singing, like many children I was not very good. One year, instead of a nativity they decided to do a concert. I spent a couple of weeks learning the song along with classmates... To be dragged out of the line up a few days before the performance. Told by a teacher that my voice was ruining everything. And given a triangle to hold at the back of the orchestra very much out of sight with all the severely disabled children (mostly Down's Syndrome or non-verbal autism) from the attached special unit. I stopped singing for pleasure that day, and never really picked it up again. Had I never been with the bigger group singing,it would have hurt a lot less.

Your comment belies a total lack of empathy. For a child. And makes fun of those who have said (as backed by multiple scientific and medical journals) that these sort of actions cause lasting upset.

As an adult I have a successful high-pressure job, a loving husband, and two lovely kids. My oldest little boy is 6 a d he demonstrates more empathy than you do with your comments.

The world would be better if we all exercised a little more kindness for others.

Saying “blimey, there’s two of you” you’ve already made quite derogatory comments about that other PP and then say that. As we speak you’re having ANOTHER argument with someone on this post. So yes, you seem to be the problem here.

Haven't read the full thread but have read all the OP's posts. It does seem a cruel thing to do to a 7 year old especially as there doesn't seem to be a limit on numbers. From what you've said the party boy mum has acted very matter of fact about it, some people do lack empathy and she is clearly one of them.

You knew it was me, your comment was unkind and pointed. At least own it?

Where did I start “beef” with you?

By answering you, when you tagged me? Are you actually saying I can’t respond?

Because that’s what it seems like to me.

I’m pointing it out and so are other posters that you seem to start arguments and leave weird comments regularly.

That's so strange of the other parent. I'd want to know why too. If it is 'just a mistake' and nothing else behind it, then it seems weird to uninvite. If there are friendship issues then I could more understand - and I'd want to know too.

I wouldn't make this a big deal with your son. I wouldn't make it a huge day etc just a change of plans...

And I would have blocked her too. There won't be any playdates. You don't normally converse with her. If there is a class group chat she will still be on it - and that's enough.

That’s horrendous and cruel. We don’t know why he wasn’t invited then uninvited but to suggest punishing a child when the issue is with the parents is 🤯

Sorry, you tagged me and I responded, am I not allowed to? Do I have to just accept your view and not respond?

If so, why do you feel that’s acceptable?

“beef with me” 😀

I didn’t know it was you, I don’t pat attention to usernames, you obviously leave idiotic comments on other threads too. You know what you are & I’m right

I’ve looked through all the thread and it was you that’s been starting arguments with other posters. But you did start the beef with that poster first. So think it’s you that’s the problem. And now you’re starting beef with me because I commented.

You’ve gone on another thread that I’m on, commented a derogatory comment.

That is stalking…… you’ve not just read comments. Come on, own it! You’ve done it!

Because as a teacher, she is more aware of the impacts in a child.

why does being a teacher make a difference? Would it be better if she was a GP, or a librarian?

yanbu to be annoyed and disappointed. I think it was weird to block her though.

I've never heard of someone uninviting to a party, that's horrendously rude of her! Fair enough to tell her so OP, if she comments to others they would tell her the same. Amazing really.

You could book a theme park or another brilliant treat with a favourite outside school friend and tell DS you're so sorry but you double booked. Usually I am up front in telling DS anything, but this is so bizarre and not the little friend's fault at all that I don't think I would.

Oh dear…. 😅

Sorry?

I think you’ve got that wrong! As many posters have said.

And you think stalking my posts is not odd? It’s really over invested.

Blimey, they’re two of you.

We’ll have to agree to disagree.

It was bad enough that your DC got uninvited but when you said she was a teacher I was gobsmacked. I would be as angry and upset as you are OP.

Tbf you did start this first. Seemed like you were unnecessarily rude to begin with. Then carried on and this person has responded. Why can’t we except people’s views and not start fighting over MN?

I suppose I should be a little grateful it wasn’t hun?

But honestly stalking me is so bloody weird!

It’s rude behaviour on her part. I’d just write her off as being a rude, socially inept arse, play it down to your son and give her no further headspace.

She called you babes as well..we both know what type of person that is!