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To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

363 replies

Exaltedmalteaser · 21/05/2025 16:26

My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

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Lmnop22 · 21/05/2025 16:32

Something tells me there’s more to this because that’s bonkers behaviour!

Just1712 · 21/05/2025 16:31

Wow, just wow. The other parent is so rude. What did you say back to that message??

DancingHippos · 21/05/2025 16:31

Have you asked her why he was uninvited? Have you called her out on it saying how your child was looking forward to the party?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 21/05/2025 16:31

That's really bad.

If it was me I'd book a day out that day abd tell my child I was really sorry but I'd made a mistake and we already had plans that day so they can't go to the party but you'd see if you could arrange for someone to come for a play date another day.

I'd rather be the bad guy than have to explain they were not wanted at the party.

Rosebush1245 · 21/05/2025 16:29

Extremely rude especially as it’s a party at home. It’s not like she got the wrong name by accident to take the child on a 3 day camping trip.

Talipesmum · 21/05/2025 16:29

Yes it’s rude, but did they do it quickly? I can imagine fat finger typing adding the wrong person by mistake. I suspect I’d just keep them invited if I’d done that. But maybe they have a mental limit on how many kids they can cope with at home? I’d work on quickly correcting with my child, saying “oh sorry it was a mistake, we can’t make that party after all”. White lie but one that is likely to cause least upset to child.

BerniesAuntie · 21/05/2025 16:29

The other parent is an absolute dick.

Gemmawemma9 · 21/05/2025 16:28

What an absolute twat that parent is. Horrible, cruel, nasty.

SummerInSun · 21/05/2025 16:28

Agree. Unless there is a massive backstory about your child bullying the birthday child or similar, that’s not on. If I’d made that sort of mistake I’d go through with having the other child there. You can’t possibly rescind an invite to a seven year old without a really, really good reason.

wizzywig · 21/05/2025 16:27

God that's rude. That parent would be blacklisted from my mind forever.
And I've never seen anyone but Mr Kipling use the word exceedingly. I like your use of it

Comedycook · 21/05/2025 16:27

So rude!

FrenchandSaunders · 21/05/2025 16:27

Wow that's awful OP, the cheek of it. How rude.

RampantIvy · 21/05/2025 16:27

How rude of the parent.

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