To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

Similar thing happened to my son when he was about the same age.
He had been sent home with a paper invite addressed to him and I accepted. A few days later we sent out his birthday party invites and it was for the same place (it was the place all the boys were picking). The mum then texts me to say he had been uninvited as her son was angry that my sons party was at the same place and therefore he didn’t want him to come.
I just text back ‘fair enough’ and left it.
Didn’t retract her sons invite to my sons party, and she had the brass neck to bring him as well!

Sorry, I disagree with you all. She explained it was a mistake, her house, her decision, she owes you nothing. Who knows the backstory or reasons for this?! I bet there are some! There's very few people who would do this without good reason. Explain to your son the invite was a mistake and this time he wasnt invited, encourage some resilience, unless he is literally the only child not going from a whole class this is a ridiculous post.

It's not just rude, it's cruel to do to a child.

Do you know many 7 year olds? This is absolutely the sort of thing they understand, and are impacted by.

Perhaps you were fortunate enough to never be excluded in this way growing up. But this is something that does impact children of this age.

How can someome be so nasty to a child? it is beyond me. I feel for your son

Happened to us last week, sort of. DS2 has got two "Alex" in his class (y7) and he wanted to invite one of them. One of his friends saw his invites and yelled to Axel 2 that "cool, you're invited as well" and Alex2 was so happy and said "thanks, that's really nice". I'm really proud of how DS2 handled it. He gave Alex2 the invite and told Alex1 he forgot his invite at home.
Even an 11 year old has enough empathy to understand that it's hurtful to disinvite even if it's a mistake so a for a mum to do this it's really unforgiveable!!

I find some responses a bit weird. No you are not obliged to explain/apologise/ do anything for anyone else ever. But it is normal and polite to do so and grease the wheels of social interaction a bit when you've made a gaffe.

That is to say, explain 'im so sorry, that was meant for Harry S and we're a bit limited on numbers'. Doesn't have to be strictly true, simply that they are limited for Harry B. Or if they all get on roughly and it's an informal party, just absorb another party bag and slice of cake.

Is it worth asking if there's an issue between the kids?

That’s awful . Not so much around the manners aspect of it but how upsetting for a child to think they were invited to something and then to be told they weren’t.

No, this is just lousy.

Let’s not get dramatic. Small social disaster? 😂 kids at 7 don’t even know what day it is. He’s hardly going to remember a date of the birthday. Not everyone will be invited to parties quicker he learns that the better.

I cannot believe these people walk amongst us. Has that parent no shame???

I'd make up some excuse and do something else with DS instead. I'd also make a note to never invite her child to a party.

This is because you're clearly a decent person. I am aghast at how many people think what this mum has done is ok!

Agree. When does this judging stop? Lot of parents are here are sounding like children.

To a young child that's not a small thing, fair enough the mum made a mistake no big deal for the adults, but a small social disaster for a 7 year old. I know he needs to toughen up, worse things happen, etc, but not nice.

I think this is the approach. Ask her if she is going to explain to a 7 year old why she uninvited him.

Sounds awkward. But maybe there is only so many children she wants coming to the house and/or maybe has a specific activity booked at home for a set number of children, therefore including your child would mean there would be too many. It sounds a bit embarrassing that she then uninvited your child without giving any more detail than saying it was a mistake and I would have hoped she said more (e.g. sorry wrong Harry or sorry the boys don't play together that much anymore and I can only invite 5 friends).

Nah, the other parent was cruel to a kid. Damned straight I would be petty (not the person who posted first). You have to be a real dick to uninvite a 7-year-old. Especially as there is no background/ conflict and the party is clearly somewhere without strict limits.

Did you say I had told him and he's really upset at being uninvited?

Yeah the kids are only 7! You’ve got 4 years of pickups/ drop offs still to do. Plus sods law you’ll end up with the kids wanting to be best friends with someone where you’ve had a go at the mum or obviously bitched about them. It’s a probably tedious kids party and a bag of sweets not a garden party at Buck House or tickets to Wimbledon!

I once sent a save the date to the parent of a child by mistake. they had got got ointo the wrong class WhatsApp group and then moved over to the right one after the invite had been sent. The mum sent me a message on the day asking what had happened to the invite and what time should they arrive.

On the one hand it was inconvenient because I didn't have the right number of party bags et cetera but there was no way that he was uninvited. In fact I bent over backwards to make sure that they were welcome to come, having explained why they didn't receive the final invitation.

Always two sides to every story

You don’t get uninvited for no reason

which is so pretty bloody petty, imagine being that self righteous they are openly judging a parent for making a mistake

I think it’s better not to but what if the party is strictly limited in numbers? My kids have had craft parties, nerf parties and trampolines/ inflateables in the garden where the numbers were really strictly constrained. It might be the case that keeping your invite meant not inviting someone who the birthday child really wanted there. Either that or there has been a recent personality clash at school and the mum can’t face it seeping into the party.

Either way, best thing is just to move on and perhaps give the child and the mum a bit of a wide berth.