To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

Good to hear other people see her for what she is too. I doubt she’ll see it though. In my experience people like this are incapable of believing they’ve done anything wrong. Be prepared for her to try to paint herself as a victim and start telling people how you’ve massively overreacted and are making her look bad when all she did was as make one tiny innocent mistake 🙄

As expected.
Any decent person would be appalled at this.
I would 100% judge her and her card would be marked ...to be avoided.
Those mothers know that could have been their child and how they would feel.

Well they are right. It was rude. Mistakes happen but no way would I ever uninvited a child after I accidentally invited them. I’d suck it up as my mistake, even if the party was at a venue where you paid per head.

Having said this, if I were in your position OP I don’t think I would have said anything to her but don’t let that cloud your judgement- I am known for being a pushover 😂

This is normal.

My DS was invited late to a party with the mum saying sorry the invite was given to another child. Another kid with the same name (different shortening) was at the party, presumably in error. But the mum just got in with it.

This is quite funny to read today as yesterday I invited someone to my sons 7th birthday in error. When they replied to say their child would love to come I realised my error and just added their name to the list. It is only a small gathering at our house but one more won't make any difference. I would never take that invite back and say wrong person, I would feel that is too rude

Why would the kids stop playing together in the playground just because the mums have blocked each other? It won’t affect them

Honestly parents and parties just continue to astound me - I once invited all the children in my then 3 year olds nursery group to a party and 2 of the Mum’s just didn’t reply - anyway I saw one of them in the car park at pick up and said ‘oh hi, I’m DS’s Mum, did you get the invite?’ she looked me up and down and said ‘yes but we don’t really know who you or your DS are so we didn’t reply as it’s such an odd thing to do to invite us’ her DD had been in the same nursery group all year and I wasn’t sure who her daughter was either but I just invited the whole class. I never bothered speaking to her again. People are just unbelievably rude and oblivious to social niceties it would seem. I’m sorry she’s done this - she would be dead to me forever. She should have stood by the invite. She’s an AH.

'Not quite forgiven' - goodness you're a better person than me, I would be livid

Maybe you could arrange to do something special when the party is happening..? Maybe tell your child that you had completely forgotten about your arrangements. It's only a little white lie to save your child from the spite of others. Because that's what it is by the other parent...spite.

Me too!
Just Wow.

I do think that's rude and of course if a mistake was made, I would expect the child still to be invited as basic etiquette - as you say one more doesn't make a difference and final numbers to be confirmed. Definitely agree with just saying to your child - Ah I forgot we're doing that other exciting activity on that day and couldn't even have gone anyway!
Glad you have blocked, life's too short to deal with people who are prepared to disappoint a child when there is no need!

@PaperSnowAGhost89 you took your child anyway? You’re still friends with the parent who uninvited your child, despite knowing the exact reasons leading to the invite being rescinded?

I’m astonished at your lack of dignity and pride here.

Yeaaaah, no you weren’t 🤣🙈

I had a close friend of 20+ years uninvite my child from her child's party recently. We went anyway after refusing the 'uninvitation' 🤣
Found out on the day that it had been to make space for some child in the kids class that they aren't even friends with. She invited the kid to get friendly with the mum as she's queen bee of the mum clique my friend so desperately wants to be part of.
They didn't turn up 🤷🏼‍♀️
Was pretty furious my friend jepardised the friendship, both ours and our children's for something so petty.
People are bonkers. Still not quite forgiven that.

Rude AND mean. How would they feel if that happened to their child?

It’s so rude to do that and I would rather invite a random child that my kid didn’t want there than upset a child and uninvite them.

But please don’t jump through hoops to entertain your son on party day or make up a weird story, just be robust and tell the truth “so and so’s mum asked you but then realised the party was full. Never mind!”

I’m a teacher ( I had this pesky English degree that I didn’t know what to do with …and I love slagging parents off so it was the ultimate career choice) and when there are party invites I always model acceptance - I remind the children that venues and houses are finite spaces and not everyone can go to everything. It doesn’t mean you’re no longer friends. I show them that they are to be generous about being invited and NOT being invited.

Unbelievably rude.
I have never heard the like of it.
So rude.

She would be the talk of the place if she did that in my childrens schools.

Of course she shouldn't have said a word and past it off.

Even more so as the play together.
I would avoid her completely going forward and I absolutely wouldn't keep quiet about it either.

Nah I prefer free style posting thanks. I'm starting to think you fancy me following me around the boards.

Put people like that in your (mental) bin, close the lid. At least she red flagged herself early.

Of course all teachers do this. I bet they just hate their job and love to slag all the parents off. You should maybe get your cousin to teach you punctuation?

These parents gossips w.e need to personal develop and get an actual life.

Agree. A lot of people posting sound like one

You don't do this to a child. I'd ask the parent involved how your child was invited "by mistake" and point out how disappointed he is. She should have a credible reason for this. If her answer is unsatisfactory, it's up to you, if you want to make it known to the other parents. I wouldn't blame you.