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To think that no one is really who they seem?

29 replies

YourPoisedGreyRobin · 21/05/2025 11:09

It feels like so many people present a version of themselves that isn’t quite real - whether it’s on social media, at work, or even in friendships. Everyone has a hidden side, and sometimes, you only find out who they really are when things go wrong.

Have you ever been surprised by someone’s true nature? Or do you think most people are exactly who they appear to be?

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ComtesseDeSpair · 21/05/2025 11:12

Most people code switch, which is perfectly normal: there are parts of us all that our colleagues don’t need to know about and which we’d prefer our mums never found out.

I don’t, personally, have any experience of people having immensely complex hidden sides beyond that. I have very healthy friendships with very straightforward people.

davidtennantstattoo · 21/05/2025 11:11

People are who they want you to see.

Mareleine · 21/05/2025 11:10

You first OP.

MyKingdomForACat · 21/05/2025 11:10

Lots of hidden agendas, I find