To dislike when DH says 'Mummy won't allow Daddy to have those'

I'd buy ten packs. Put one in every cupboard.

He's trying to cut down on bread and he's putting you in charge of it.
I suggest you fill the freezer with them. If he can't control his eating that's his problem.

Dh used to do the same but I have told him quite clearly that I am not taking ownership of his eating. I have enough to do.

Labour? This is taking mental load too far trying to say picking up (or ordering) two packs of brioche instead of one is some kind of labour.

Those things would survive a nuclear winter. Buying two packs a week means enough for child and enough for husband to fail in self restraint. He wouldn't be the first person to lose self discipline in that face of brioche. If he succeeds, the spare ones will still be there the following week.

I'd take the 'Yes, because they are DS's snacks. If you want some, put it on the shopping list' approach, rinse and repeat.

No, not ideal to have to take that approach with a grown man but (1) it avoids you being the overall food/fun police; (2) it establishes to DS that you will protect his treats if necessary; and (3) it establishes DH's responsibility for putting things on the shopping list.

He was talking to their child though not to OP.

Do you refer to eachother as 'first name' when talking to your children?

I can't imagine saying to my child tell 'Dave' we're ready to leave etc..rather than tell dad (daddy).

OP, I agree with pp, just buy 2 packets

I would agree, and have said that she is not the quartermaster and he needs to stop treating her like his mummy beginning with calling her by her name, but given that he IS eating the brioche, despite being asked not to, and that is causing OP stress in the moment when there are not enough brioche left, plus the fact that putting two in the trolley when you're already putting one in there is arguably not more labour than it is arguing with this dipshit manchild about what he should and shouldn't be eating, on this one I'd take the path of least resistance and tell him to stop treating me like his mother in a wider sense, brioche isn't the issue here.

Just buy 2 packs.

I would be extremely annoyed, not only is he childish, doesn’t seem to pull his weight for food shopping but he is not acting as a team in front of your child and involve the kid in the bickering. That is fecking not ok, even for small stuff like a brioche.

I would remind him very clearly you are married to a man and have a child, you don’t have 2 kids, and there is nothing sexually attractive in a 30/40y old man acting like a petulant kid, undermining you in front of your child and unable to be honest about his brioche consumption.

I really wouldn’t let that mindset fester.

You're his wife, not his mother.

But that’s not the OP role to accommodate his greediness and inability to respect the snacks that are for his own child. Why should that labour fall onto her?
If there are no brioche left because he ate them, he can go and buy some. QUICKLY.

He's not being truthful. These are small lies of course and childish ones. He should know better.

Lie 1 - I only want one brioche a week.
Lie 2 - Mummy won't let me have any brioches when I want them.

He's acting like a child and making your life more difficult when he could just have some self control.

But yes I think the only option is to buy two packs as he obviously does want them.

If there are plenty and he eats them when he is trying to avoid bread, that's his problem. If he eats them and there's none for your child, that's not just his problem. Buy another packet and leave him to it.

Aaargh. That’s so annoying.

My exh would be a bit like that. Can’t hear that something is not for him - even if given the opportunity to get his own.

Even before we had children, I remember if we went to a cafe etc, I would get a drink to go with my food and he would say he didn’t want one. Then would try to share mine! No - my drink is not for you, it’s the amount of drink that I want with my food.

Because HE said he didn’t want them?
And the OP followed his lead.

Why should the OP trust him as a child, planning ahead of his needs?
Otherwise, This could easily be seen as the OP not being supportive of her dh trying to reduce the amount of bread he is eating…. Buying treat and ignoring his wish to nit be tempted.

Buy another pack of brioche, they'd survive a nuclear war they're so full of preservatives.

I'd be more bothered by anyone that wants me to want to have sex with them calling me Mummy if I didn't gestate them, and he's putting you in the position of She Who Controls The Food, and that's not sexy either.

Tell him to lean in on the food shopping, you're not the Quartermaster or the boarding school cook.

I’m going to make a wild guess here.

Im pretty sure the OP has already done that!!

I love those brioche rolls. ooo the choc chips ones..

Yes this!! Brioche lasts forever...just buy 2 packs fgs.

Apologies if I have missed this but why is buying 2 packs not an option?

Id respond we only have enough for you wee cherub so daddy doesn't want to eat them

Tell your husband to stop? Explain why?

It would annoy me too. Imagine taking food from your own child. He’s selfish.

The message about you treating him like a child who isn’t allowed to have xyz is extremely off putting.

And as you say Theres the message that somehow you’re controlling him…l

fwiw dh has a similar attitude.
Would you like me to pick up xyz when i do the shopping?
Nope. I’m trying to be good
Goes and eat the stash I bought for MYSELF instead.
Arrggg….
If he was making any comment like the one your dh is making, I’d be furious!

Fwiw it’s worth, if I was hearing say that, I’d remind him ‘Yes because they are ds snacks. If you want some you can add it to the shopping list or go and buy some yourself.
Repeat.