Annoyed at partner for farting next to me

No it doesn't 'do it for me'.. was there any need to be so gross?

Precious - its farting, it isn't the end of the world, tell him to grow the fuck up, or leave.

Petulant/Childish - Being nasty about his Mother. It's not his job to reign her in, speak up and tell her to STFU (politely of course)

If she can't cope with her model of a man farting around her, or stand up to her MIL without claiming she's 'vulnerable & sensitive', she's going to have much bigger problems giving birth and standing up for herself as a parent.

Does he intend to keep farting openly once you have children?
Is this the way his Dad behaved?

I sense whilst the farting is an issue it's more the lack of respect generally.. postpartum is a rollercoaster and you need him in your corner. Time for a serious conversation

I really cannot understand how people can be so precious about a normal physical reflex. No, farts aren't great but everyone does it. Everyone. Just as everyone poos and pees. I grew up in a house where people pretended these kind of things didn't happen - nor did periods, definitely something to be ashamed of! - and it led to crippling anxiety about any normal bodily functions. It was awful and took a lot of work to get over. Until recently I was on medication that gave me really bad wind, there was no way to spare the feelings of anyone precious about it because I generally had no warning. Am I disgusting too?

I still will go far, far out of my way to avoid using a public toilet, even for number one. No way will I let my daughters grow up feeling they need to be ashamed of such things. Farting deliberately next to someone who says they don't like it isn't great, admittedly, but I'd be tempted to think he's probably just fed up with your holier than thou attitude and is metaphorically sticking two fingers up at you every time he farts.

Newsflash: the process of having a baby generally involves losing all kind of personal dignity. Lots of people staring up your vagina, shitting in front of people. If you can't cope with farting I don't know how you're going to manage this. And should you have a little daughter, will you teach her to be ashamed of her natural bodily functions? Shame on you.

once she’d left the kitchen, I had a go at my partner about her and said some nasty things about her and how I wish she’d go home

Wow! You were nasty about his mother?!
I don’t care how pregnant you are, being hormonal does not excuse that kind of behaviour.
Why are you so emotionally vulnerable at the moment, is there something else going on? Women have babies every day, hundreds of thousands are born in the U.K. each year, most don’t feel emotionally vulnerable. Have you spoken to your MW about extra support?

As for the farting, I have a farty husband (medical issues), it’s not great, but it just means I no longer feel the need to go to the bathroom when I need to fart, as I had been brought up to do.

I don't agree that it's petulant, childish or precious not to enjoy your partner forcing out wind next to you. But if that's what does it for you, then I'm sure you'll have no problem finding a man to oblige. OP has one, he might have a brother.

Really? Her partner sounds like the immature one, thinking farts are hilarious and being unable to stand up to his own mother. I don't blame the OP for feeling upset and revolted.

if english isn't your first language, I apologise, but you're coming across as petulant, childish, and precious.

You sound like you're about 19 or so.

Leave him if you don't like him or his family... and grow tf up before that baby gets here.

I'm definitely nearer the 20 times a day, although I think I'm likely intolerant to something!

Although according to a medical guide, lots of those farts are let out without the person even realising as they move around, particularly active people!

I only know such weird stuff as I had a curious bunch of Y7 students who liked strange questions, so I turned it into a science project for them! I think they put most the class off ever eating food with onions in!

13-21 times a day? That’s insane!
I go days without farting and when I do it I take myself off to another room/space.

He sounds very immature. This isn't about your hormones.

As for MIL, you gave your H a chance to stick up for you and he didn't. You are therefore within your right to stand up for yourself next time she oversteps. If H has a problem with it, you can remind him that you gave him the opportunity to handle his own family but that you will not stand for being mistreated by them or him, or anyone for that matter.

If his mum does that again, poison her dinner.
Frankly, the farting thing is vile and disrespectful as fuck. This is a bit gross and embarrassing but whenever I come back from a trip I have horrible gas, so I know sometimes you just can’t help it, but he definitely can. Also if he’s doing it deliberately and forcing it it’s only a matter of time before he follows through. Absolute minger. You’re not hormonal, anyone would find this disgusting. The hormones won’t be helping, but don’t let him tell you it’s your hormones making you angry. This would make most people angry.

YABU about the farting.

Given the average person farts 13 to 21 times a day, when do you fart then if you don't do it when he is nearby? Or are you one of those silent and violent types that blame it on the dog?

As for his mum, then YANBU. That would drive a non-pregnant person nuts, but she was clearly just trying to help. You just needed to be more assertive, thank her for her help, but you've got everything under control so she can go and sit down and relax.

It sounds like he has NO respect for you (as well as being a Neanderthal)! I hope that some of the rest of your relationship is better…

He is deliberately disrespecting you and letting other people do the same, then pathologising your reactions. He doesn't love you or respect you. It's only going to get worse, when you have the kids you will be even more powerless

While I'm not upset by farts, I wouldn't like anyone to deliberately fart next to me. It's childish, and lacks boundaries along with an ability to read a room, which is unattractive. Reading between the lines it looks like he doesn't care if you find him attracttive, you're pregnant with his child, and you're not going anywhere so he can behave however he likes. This is vile.

Re his mother, tell him that you will not let her overwhelm you in your own home and next time if he can't intervene to stop it, you will hand her the chopping board and take yourself out to a friends for a few hours. And do it.

It’s disgusting and disrespectful. You have said you don’t like it yet he is purposely doing it knowing you do not like it. The people who say it’s not a big deal are wrong. It’s not about him farting m, it’s him going out of his way to upset you.

As for his mum, next time tell her to shut the fuck up and get out. She doesn’t care about your feelings so don’t worry about being rude.

Do you have family close?

Your partner will only get worse with his mum and you. And it will get worse when the baby is here.

I would leave him and move out if you are able and have the support.

I find intentional farting and burping repulsive, this is from my childhood if my brother holding me down.
Obviously everyone farts and if they are respectful I have no issue with it, it’s the bullying aspect I can’t stand. Gross.
Next time he does it, look him straight in the eye and tell him that you’ve never been less attracted to someone in your whole life. Then just walk away. If the spare room is comfortable, just move in there every time he does it. I wouldn’t continue to say anything, I’d just get up and leave with a look of disgust on my face.

Start being out when they are due.. In time if that means taking your dc out and they don't get to see them then that's on them for showing you such little respect..
But maybe time to actually consider if he is the man you want to live with and raise a dc together..

I get that your upset but maybe fight fire with fire lentil crisps taste great the farts could power hell they are APPALLING

Kindly OP, this does sound very hormone driven!! But his mum does sound annoying and your partner should be telling her to lay off.

You sound a bit precious, OP. Could t get upset over the farting thing tbh. And why are you incapable of telling his mum to back off yourself? She might not realise you find her interfering.

I think you need to get a grip.

Once you do that, start using your words. Like “excuse you, that’s nasty” and then walk away.

If he doesn’t want to stand up for you to his mother, then you need to stand up for yourself. Tell her to get out of your kitchen and go sit down with the other guests. If he creates an issue tell him he can go home with her if he still needs his mummy.

Stop letting people fuck with you.

Drliberately farting is bad enough.

Did he make you the priority over his mommy before your pregnancy or has he always been a mama's boy? That's unlikely to change.

As to his mother, just tell her stop, Trudy, you do you but I run my kitchen my way. She thinks she's going to boss you around and that's going to be terrible when your baby is born and she's telling you what to do.

Is this your first baby?
you’re not even gonna notice a fart in a few weeks! His and your own! … they’ll happen without you realising or desperately having control.
your babies on the other hand, you’ll discuss with each other, medical professionals and total strangers!!