Annoyed at partner for farting next to me

I think it’s disgusting, yes everyone does it and I would of course excuse accidental farting but deliberately doing it next to your partner is vile. Would you do it in a client meeting, school assembly, on the train etc? I think some of these men have a fetish for inflicting this on their partner.

Deliberate farting?? I could never find such a man sexually attractive and would definitely consider it serious enough to split. It’s not about the fart, it’s the attitude shins it.

As for his mum, he will ALWAYS take her side, not yours.

The future you want is in your hands. Do not think that you can change him

I even hate the WORD fart!!!!!!

The action - don’t get me started !!!!

I just can’t with this!!

That is always the question!

There's a difference between the behaviour of children and that of adults!. Op's post clearly shows that that he is a man, in his head he's a child. What a turnoff!

It sounds like he doesn’t respect you.

You need to demand change before the baby comes and while you’re in a stronger position. Eg you may have some levage over him, over whether you name him as father on the birth certificate. Use it.

Well, I don't go into people's kitchens and tell them how to manage it. And, as the OP said, she couldn't get a word in edgeways. And he didn't defend his pregnant wife. So he farts (in spite of being asked not to) AND doesn't defend.

I bet some of you ‘everyone farts all the time, it’s normal’ people are like Christine from dinnerladies with her farting that clears the canteen kitchen 😂

Well, he’s got you pregnant and trapped now.
How easily can you leave?
Is there anything good about him?

Why have you decided that this was the man you’d like to create a family with?

Reminds me of Austin Powers.

-How dare you fart before me?
-Sorry love, was it your turn?

The farting would really upset me. DH I know farts in front of our teenage sons and they all find it hilarious but none of them do it near me as they know I would hate it. This is basic stuff in a relationship surely.

and you can hold it in fgs. Or do you think people fart away loudly in offices for eight hours a day??

The farting is a non-issue really, I couldn't get worked up about that and I think you're being a bit precious. Deliberate farting is a bit infantile but you don't have to respond to it.

The issue is his lack of respect for you, him ignoring your boundaries and the lack of respect from his family.

I'd learn to pick your battles though: the family issue is something worth fighting over, the farting isn't. Don't squander your moral capital getting upset over something this trivial: save it for demanding some respect from him and his family.

God, this reminds me of when I was pregnant with my first and suffering from morning sickness. My now ex farted next to me and it was so bad that I ran to the toilet and projectile vomited, he found it utterly hilarious and didn't apologise, utter twat.

Newsflash. Pregnancy is a common time for behaviour to deteriorate if it's going to, and it's clear that this farting on purpose to wind the pregnant OP up is a recent thing. If he'd farted on her on purpose on the first date, or even in the first few dates do you think she'd still be with him?

There are also plenty of people in healthy boundaried relationships who don't like their in laws, it's not mandatory to judge a suitable partner by their parents.

While we're normalising things, possibly we could normalise not blaming women's shit choices for their male partners' behaviour, like it's somehow her fault?

If you're fed up of reading threads to the point you are unable to stop projecting your own painful experience, maybe don't read the threads. Is your intention to make her feel stupid for her partners behaviour? Make it make sense.

Put a stink bomb in his car- see how he likes it.

Is this your first child? Because things are about to get a whole lot worse…..
I’d tell your MIL to get out of your kitchen (if you go over the top at her then blame it on the hormones).

We have separate rooms but farting in same room as me downstairs is not acceptable , same as I don’t burp my stoma bag (which smells like death) in husbands vicinity. I hear him pumping away upstairs when I’m downstairs and it makes me laugh

People will take vastly different views on the farting but it's not relevant what other people think; he should respect your wishes and not fart next to you on purpose.

I'm fine ta.

Fed up of reading threads lately from women who've married or are living with Neanderthals with shitty parents who they clearly don't like.

Normalise not marrying awful men with shitty parents that you don't like.

wtf would you marry someone who thinks this shit is funny, and who has a horrible mother as well, because Newsflash, they won't change, they will get worse, and you're stuck with them until you grow your own balls and leave them.

You should have opened the door and told her to leave.

Personal boundaries - it doesn't matter whether some people here don't care about farting, the fact is that you've told your husband not to deliberately fart near to you and he ignores you. He's not respecting your boundaries and that's unacceptable. I'd be disgusted if anyone farted on purpose close to me. I'd tell him it's a passion killer and if he keeps doing it, your sex life will be over

As for MiL, just tell her! "Please leave my kitchen now because your constant telling me what to do is getting on my nerves."

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I would hate this too. Unless someone is ill, or it’s truly accidental, I find it truly disgusting. I cannot understand how people think it’s funny. It would be a dealbreaker, I’m afraid.

Are you ok? Because you sound so hostile over a fairly benign post that it seems like you are struggling personally