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Is it selfish that I don’t want to date a man with children?

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Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 03:58

I’m early 30s, single at the minute. I have a professional job, great salary, own house, good looking. I lead a great life. However, I would like to date. Been on the apps and honestly it isn’t great out there. My friends who are married say I’m being too fussy saying that I’m being too picky saying I don’t want to date a man who has kids. I’m understand, some men my age will have children but that isn’t my preference. I can’t see myself having a blended family, or being a stepmother, looking after someone’s else’s children, I’m over that. why is that so hard to get? I’m a being too fussy? Not all men my age have children but I honestly have no interest in raising another child.

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Renabrook · 21/05/2025 04:46

There is nothing wrong with same as nothing wrong with men not wanting to date women with children either

Donthaveacowman45 · 21/05/2025 04:41

HollyBollyBooBoo · 21/05/2025 04:33

Totally agree with you and no it’s not at all selfish. Reality is it will limit the pool a bit but better that than compromising!

I understand it will limit people, but defo not going to compromise.

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garlictwist · 21/05/2025 04:36

Not at all. I’m the same. I don’t want a man with kids quite frankly because it’s a hassle and I don’t want to be a mother or stepmother. I haven’t had any issues finding men without children and who don’t want them either.

curious79 · 21/05/2025 04:35

Why would they even suggest you compromise this as a 30 yr old. If you were 40 the pickings would be slimmer. Stick to your guns here

HollyBollyBooBoo · 21/05/2025 04:33

Totally agree with you and no it’s not at all selfish. Reality is it will limit the pool a bit but better that than compromising!

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