Men DO NOT have right of way!

Pedestrians (as the most vulnerable road users) have right of way over horses on bridleways so you are in the wrong here.

This happens out riding in the countryside across the edge of fields. Rather than just stand to the side safely they continue heading straight for me and my horse. I just say he kicks watch out. He doesn’t but then they shift. They often have loose dogs which they refuse to put on a lead too.

I will not put my horse in a field of crops to damage them when someone can just stand to the side of the bridle path safely.

I’m in my early 50s. When I was riding in my 20s the amounts of men in cars or walking that would say derogatory comments was unbelievable. I’ve even had a group of men grab my horse’s reins when younger. That was scary. I was really frightened in woods.

I’d love anyone try that now. Confidence is higher and perimenopause means I take no crap. Also, since that incident I carry a whip. It’s not for my horse. It’s in case anything like that happens again.

Oddly women do not do this. We often have lovely chats.

A guy in the supermarket in France went absolutely mental when I didn’t get out of his way. Made my evening. I laughed all the way round.

I have found people of both sexes where I live to be pretty polite overall but I walk at quite a fast pace generally and just pick my path and keep on going with slight adjustments if someone is approaching.

What I have noticed at work at times is people of both sexes stepping aside to let me through a door first at which is very polite but the, ‘after you’ that I have been taught to say seems to have given way to a rather perfunctory and impatient, ‘go on!’ If there is a split second of hesitation on my part!

I like good manners so this irks me a little but I just try and model ‘after you’ next time I see them (staff of about 100 so might not happen again). Small thing but revealing of mindset.

I had this the other day in London. I genuinely didn’t see him so didn’t move and he walked straight into me. He then - someone bizarrely almost tried to keep walking through me - I had stopped still and it really didn’t seem to occur to him that it would be easier to take a step back and for us to walk around each other.

I also think it's entirely possible that a lot of men have got sick of being expected to stand aside and say 'ladies first' so are playing their own version of patriarchy chicken. This would explain why it's often older men that do it. They're saying "well, if you want equality it's not always going to be 'ladies first'."

I'll move aside for prams, wheelchairs, the elderly or people with young children

A lot of people are saying it's old men that do it the most. Does this mean said posters are deliberately barging into elderly people!

My father struggles walking nowadays so I can't see him dodging out the way of people easily. If somebody intentionally bowled into him whilst I was there they'd be getting a muay thai kick to the leg at the very least!

Go patronise somewhere else.

Are they? I work in Oxford, I've never seen a bike on the pavement.

Trouble is the bikes are all over the pavements too. It's a bloody dangerous place to be is Oxford!

Not exactly what the thread is about for this example but I was once going to the shops and it had rained heavily earlier in the day. As I was walking along, I could see part of the pavement had flooded and there was only one point that you could step over and not be in the water. This man was headed to the same point as me but it was clear I would arrive first. I stepped over and all he had was to wait a beat for me to pass him so he could get to step over. For this I got called a 'Fucking bitch'. Charming.

I also had a woman bash into me. It was funnily enough outside Victoria station. They were doing something on the pavements so they put up barriers in the road as a bypass. You could fit one line walking one way and one line walking another. As I got near the end these two women appeared, one a should out from her friend. She clocked me so I assume she'd move behind her friend as we passed each other. She did not so I slammed into her shoulder. I didn't look back or acknowledge her just assumed she was an ignorant cow that expected me to somehow get smaller so she could continue walking as she wanted.

Actually, yes. And young female drivers are the least likely to wave you on when crossing the road, or let you out of a side road.

I stopped and helped a lady at a tube station a while back. It was her with a buggy and her elderly mum who had a walking stick. She was just about to start walking up the stairs backwards, bumping the child in the buggy up the steps when I stepped in and offered to help, then carried the front of the buggy while we all walked up.

Her mum was very grateful and loudly vocal in her thanks saying "thank you so much for helping - we've been standing here ages while plenty of fit and healthy men have just ignored us!" One passing man at least had the courtesy to look a bit sheepish!

Now, I don't agree with the mum that it should have been a man that stopped to help, but it was a shame they'd been standing there a while before I came along so it was indicative of the attitude of many nowadays.

I did put a thread up on why men post on mumsnet. It's a good bun fight. Worth a read if you're bored😅

My phone is not letting me link it.

I remember my mum calling me one day incensed as a man had swum OVER her in a lane

Grrr, humans

Men do have a tendency to assume everyone will make way for them but couples/groups are also good at pavement hogging. Oh and children obviously.

And those cars are quite annoying too

🤣 there are a lot of bikes and scooters in Oxford, stick to the pavements is my advice.

In Oxford they just run you over with their bicycle's.

Your comment has zero value when it's women discussing their experience as a woman. I'm not sure how that's such a difficult concept to grasp.

I am too old now to take a hit, so I gallop around town with my walking pole making a lot of clattering noise and keeping to a straight line with a thousand yard stare. I don’t get barged any more.

years ago. I was walking with my dog, wall hugging. A young bloke charged round the corner and tried to barge me. Instead, he barged my German shepherd - his fucking face.

It's not "mansplaining" if you are an expert on it any more than it is "femmesplaining"

If you are going to try and mansplain mansplaining to us, at least make sure you have a basic grasp of the concept.

Although I guess we can thank you for demonstrating how it works so perfectly

Amen to that.

YAWN. The clue is in the name.