Something strange about mother in law

It usually takes two in life and give and take helps.

No, absolutely. But the little sweet voice she normally uses gives her that persona that she portrays 99% of the time.

Yes, I am obviously hurt by my MIL and it has affected me.

Those of you who are good MILs and have good MILs are very fortunate ❤️

Being 72 doesn't make her a little meek old lady.

Joanna Lumley is in her late 70s and by all accounts a sweet kind family woman - I bet we'd all find it funny and not demonic if she dropped a few f*ucks in the kitchen!

Not just men, women too! I know a couple who are very 'mother obsessed' and never married (we are in our 50s).

Yes. Of course. But the difference in her muttering ‘Oh I do wish they’d hurry up’ and growling in a demonic voice whilst dropping the f word several times is quite an about face. And so very different to her little meek old lady demeanour that she has most of the time. Which shows that she has a side to her personality she keeps well hidden.

Is your boyfriend a bachelor? If so, older single men can be weird when it comes to their mothers. My husband was 41 when we got married and his mum was the most important woman in his life. 20 years later, she still is.

Bloody hell, being nasty is not just like a normal MIL.

Well you sound charming!

Why are people saying MIL is nasty and showing her true personality - she muttered and swore under her breath in an empty room.

Do none of you mutter or swear when exasperated at something?

I would have gone to the kitchen and said: I’m so f’ing sorry you have been waiting a long f’ing time. We better f’ing hurry as I know you are very f’ing hungry.

And I would have walked out.

Sounds just like a normal mother in law. Although I wish my MIL had shown her nasty side earlier in the relationship and I might have made different choices. I can tolerate it now I’m a bit older and don’t give a fuck about her opinions.

OP has said that she left a guest tray for her in her room with snacks her partner said she liked, particular granola bars, fruit snacks etc.

Her boyfriends mother sounds more immature than OP with her ridiculous rant and her constant references to her daughter's slimness and beauty. Why on earth would OP care how beautiful this woman is? It's obviously a dig.

Don't most people put on a pleasant face to others and have a little grumble to themselves? She thought nobody was around. It's not like she was saying terrible things about you. She was probably just hungry, 10.30 is very late to eat breakfast for a lot of people.

You have now seen her for what she is and noone will believe you.

You need to be very very careful. This woman has committed to a character for decades. She has pretended to be sweet and kind to get what she wants - but now you know exactly what she is.

Does she know you heard her??

You need to protect yourself. Maybe have a hidden camera or a voice activated recording device.

You have now seen her for what she is and noone will believe you.

You need to be very very careful. This woman has committed to a character for decades. She has pretended to be sweet and kind to get what she wants - but now you know exactly what she is.

Does she know you heard her??

You need to protect yourself. Maybe have a hidden camera or a voice activated recording device.

Hi everyone,

I had no idea who to voice this to so thought this would be the best option. Basically myself and my partner have been together for one year next week. I’m 27 and he’s 40 and we have a wonderful relationship. He is very close to his mother she’s 72. All of his family adore his mother and constantly say how lovely she is. I agree she is nice but a couple of things have happened that have made me feel a little uneasy and I want to know if I’m overreacting.

for example the weekend just gone she came to stay with us. We treated her all weekend to meals shopping etc and she seemed to have a great time. On Sunday she said she’d planned to leave at 4pm. On Sunday morning I suggested we go to the coffee shop for some breakfast at 10:30 am , anyway so myself and my partner were getting ready and it must’ve been about 10:25 when I got to the kitchen ( we live in a bungalow) and just before I got to the kitchen I heard her say ‘ for f sake hurry the f up all f’ing weekend of waiting around’ in a really annoyed and different voice - she usually sounds really sweet and has a light voice but this was deep and snappy. I came through to the kitchen and she instantly switched to her ‘sweet’ voice. I was just a bit startled ? Like wth ! She wasn’t waiting around at all we were so attentive to her all weekend and did everything she wanted there was no waiting around.

another thing she often does is go on and on about how thin and beautiful her daughter is in front of me when my partners not around . She’ll say things like (insert daughter’s name) ’ is so skinny anything looks good on her because she has that kind of figure. She mentions how beautiful and thin her daughter is every time without fail. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to bother me if it was mentioned once but it’s EVERY SINGLE TIME we see her it’s so strange.

I just feel a bit uneasy around her . I haven’t voiced this to my partner as I don’t want to upset him as he loves his mum so much. I don’t plan on telling him either I just wanted to voice my experience.

am I overeacting ? Or is she just a normal mother in law?

thanks

xx