My partner’s son’s girlfriend stays Fri-Sun every weekend - I’d like a weekend on our own

I would move out.

They are gross OP.

I wouldn't even bother to tell them you are moving out, arrange for your stuff to go into storage and move in with your Dad whilst they are at work/away for the weekend if whatever. Or bide your time, give notice on your tenants and wait until that was available then move back there, again I wouldn't tell your Partner and his Son.

I would just leave a note on the day I left (and I would leave whilst they were at work) telling them how selfish and entitled they are.

OP it's not clear who you're replying to, quoting the message or @ the username will help people reading your replies.

You moved in with them. It’s his Dad’s decision. I can understand why you aren’t happy but you need to move back into your own place.

Sorry Op - I didn’t read the thread. Ignore me x

My son brought a girl home in October and she doesn’t appear to have left yet. There are now six of us to cook for. I’m 60 and still working. But I’m grateful they’re all still with me.

how easy would it be for you to move back in to your place, OP?

Also wanted to ask about your work situation, have kids of your own? How old are you?

it doesn’t seem a very happy situation for you.

Er because she’s been with her dp 4.5 years not 2 weeks and the OP pays for food and lots of costs/bills. You think that doesn’t make a difference?

Tell the gf you are so very happy to hear her healthy sex life. Give her knowing smiles and winks every morning, ” sleep well dear?” She will soon be suggesting to the SS that they spend weekends elsewhere.

This is exactly why I never moved into someone else’s home.
I like my own space.
I like my privacy.
I do not want to hear somebody else “having sex.”
I do not want to witness the excruciating embarrassment of someone cycling through four lovers by the age of 18.
I do not want to argue over “I thought it was my house too.”
Give me my independence.
I can be a happy remote girlfriend just as well as I can be a miserable live in one.
You’re never gonna win, @ThatKindStork— I hope you realise that. And I hope you make the appropriate adjustments for it. ❤️

Its fine for him to look out for his son but its not fine to enable him to become a spoilt brat and disregard you as his partner.

Does his son pay for his keep ?

Regardless i would plan to move out ASAP with out even telling them

Hes not even considered asking his son to give you the weekends (when he does not work) alone.

In the meantime do NOT do a thing for any of them. meals, laundry etc.

I would NOT continue a relationship with him at all either. He is not considering you or your relationship at all.

Looks like you should move, you're not comfortable and need peace and quiet.

Whether you want somewhere close to bf us up to you.

If I had the means or a place to move to, I would be gone in a heartbeat. This kid could stay for years and may go through girlfriends every month. Its gross. If he wants to have loud sex he should move out. I have five sons and it would be the day that one of them would take over our home that way.

You need to find somewhere else to rent. Sounds like a horrid situation

You’re not being unreasonable in the slightest but if both your partner and his son are on the same page then you might have to seriously consider whether you can keep on living like this. I would really struggle to have a stranger in my home for such long periods of time.

Neither of them have a scrap of regard or respect for you.

If you did for yourself you wouldn't be tolerating this.
You are wasting your time.
This won't change.
It is not normal for 18 year olds to have girlfriends staying every weekend.

Stop wasting your life.
Make the decision to move out and move on.
Weak men are so unattractive.
You are a convenience payimg half the bills.
Wake up OP.

I would be packing my things and walking away……….you are not being respected or valued by either your OH or his son. Both are taking the piss and your OH basically appears to see you as a housekeeper for them both.

Seems like you get no respect, move out and leave them to it

OP, it sounds to me as if now you have asked about the weekly GF thing you have realised there’s more and more and more you have been keeping the lid on.

I’m not accusing you of drip feeding us but I think you might have been absorbing marginalisation and disrespect for some time. I hope this thread has helped you get things off your chest and you can take a more objective look at the situation.

It doesn’t sound good to me and depending on the situation with your own house I think I’d be looking to move back there as soon as. You can then see how committed your partner/manfriend is and what sort of relationship you want with him.

I have some understanding of him not wanting to lose his son but his style of parenting isn’t doing anyone any favours. You said his son’s mother wouldn’t allow the GF to stay over so much if son was living with her. He could do worse than follow her lead !

What does the son do? Is he studying, working or what? Is he likely to move out to a place of his own anytime in the near future? Unlikely as he obviously runs the show so has no 'push' factors to make him move out! Which is what I think you need to do. It may not be your house but it is your home and there should be some consideration. Amazed the GF just comes that often and hasn't been introduced or said thanks for having me.