Double barrelling surnames?

Why didn’t you just drop part of your name if you found it a pain?

Or give your kids one half of your name plus their Dad’s?

So now people who don't want their child to have just one last name shouldn't get married or have kids? 😂

We didn't want to pick a random name because our last names mean something to us and we didn't want to ditch one either because we would've never agreed which one gets ditched so double barrelled it was.

As someone with a double barrelled surname please don't. It was such a pain in the arse and left me in the situation I couldn't have the same name as my kids as I wasnt married and I couldn't give them triple barrelled could I?
Just agree on a name and share it with your future kids. If you can't agree on a name maybe don't get married or have kids?
If you don't want to take his and he doesnt want yours then have something new together?

I double barrelled on official documents (two long names I have to say) but generally use my previous name at work and for anything else. Wish I hadn't bothered and kept my own name to be honest now!

I think pressure from other people (not my husband) made me think this was a fair compromise but it’s actually just a pain now 🙈🤣

It’s a funny thing that when you ask for opinions and people give them to you based on their experience your response is this.

Do what you want because clearly if we don’t agree you dont want to hear it. Why bother starting a thread anyway.

I wish I’d double barrelled my name - too late now.

re your question, lots of female doctors take dh’s surname but keep their maiden name as their professional name. It’s the name they qualified with and got their GMC reg with. It’s quite common to do that. Slightly different to you but similar premise.

The sheer TEDIUM of the endless posts on all these threads from posters who think they have the original ‘gotcha’ by assuming that in 4 generations people will have 64 hyphenated surnames.

Just like they do in Spain.

Don’t they? No? So there is actually a centuries old tradition in some countries for incorporating mothers and fathers names and not sounding like a telephone directory???

Or… or offspring might just make their own free choice about what to do with their own names if they marry / have children etc, free of patriarchal tradition , free of the dreadful snobby judgmentalism of MN Matrons…

I know a kid whose parents gave their kid the surname Smith-Jones.
The parents then split up and the mum married a new bloke and they tagged his surname onto the kid’s name. The kid is now Smith-Jones-Bloggs.

@iliketheradio ok fair enough... I know it's not just Spain, but thank you for enlightening me ☺️. I assumed that you didn't understand how it worked, hence you wondering what happens when someone with a double barrelled name gets married. There aren't set rules but I'm sure people can work it out and don't just keep adding names on forever!

@Cloudy718 your posts have been extremely offensive and unpleasant (quite a few people have thought so)
Its interesting that you can call people stupid/ridiculous/woefully chavvy but are unable to answer any of the very simple questions I've put to you... Just resort to insults because you can't answer.

Which means it's very unlikely that someone would decide to give their child 2 double barrelled last names in England.

No but they have set cultural rules/norms around names (and it isn't just Spain).. in the UK there aren't any set rules. I am from a country where double barrel is actually the norm so I know how it works in other countries but thanks for enlightening me

What offensive nonsense. You should be ashamed to have written that post.

I honestly think on every double barrelled name thread there should be a pinned post telling people how it works when people have children 🤣🤣🤣 do you genuinely think people in Spain are walking around with an exponentially growing list of surnames?

sure you can find one yourself :)

Oh my God.

Does anyone have a brick wall for me to bash my head on?

I'd really avoid double barrelled, it just sounds a bit contrived UNLESS it's a cultural thing, that is different. Say you have a DD and she is, for eg, Alice Smith Jones, what about when she gets married? Alice Smith Jones Harris or potentially Alice Smith Jones Harris Brooke. It's just a bit silly. Keep your name, give your DC your name.

So it's only stupid because it isn't as common in the UK but it suddenly wouldn't be stupid if it was somewhere where it is common?

Surely it is either stupid or it isn't?

Woefully chavy?

Wouldn't you sign your marriage certificate with your original name?

Nope never been a problem. Not even once and my kids have probably flown over 50 times long and short haul between them to three continents. Sorry but that’s just conjecture. I’ve had absolutely no other problems at all. And teachers do know my kids parents are married and still use our correct surnames.

Yeah my kids are perfectly fine with it. It’s just a name…..

You could just hyphenate legally but never actually use it, so only on legal documents. My cousin changed it, but never actually uses it, I only realised when I saw her plane ticket. I kept my maiden name, no issue when travelling with DC. So many people don't change their names now, but if you think it's important just hyphenate. Why don't you wanlot until you actually have children to do this