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Where there’s a seat you sit in it? / ‘Sit yo ass down!’

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noodlebugz · 20/05/2025 11:46

Firstly this is not life changing and a minor gripe in the scheme of things but I’m currently on a train and am getting increasingly (and irrationally) annoyed.

It’s a cross country train, it’s actually a long one with 8 carriages, though 2x 4 stuck together so you can’t walk the full length of the train.

The train is NOT full. Running 7 minutes late, so not too bad.

My gripe is that despite there being plenty of seats, there is a grown men sat in the wheelchair space on the floor in 1st - why? And 2 teenagers that have been a full hour into the journey sat on the floor outside the toilet, so you have to climb over them if you need to go.These trains are NOT clean and the toilet smells!

I do have autism so may just not get it - but WHY? Why would you not sit in a proper seat!

YABU - ‘If I fits I sits’ - people who’ve bought a ticket can sit anywhere on the train.

YANBU - ‘Sit yo ass down’ - if there are proper seats people should use them to be considerate to others.

Opinions also welcome on whether cross country is the absolute toilet of the long distance train services - I would say yes!

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 20/05/2025 13:14

@noodlebugz oh I understand you totally.
It happens on nearly every bus I go on.
London buses so there's two doors (on at the front, off in the middle) but people all just huddle by the middle doors so you can't get to the EMPTY seats at the back.
Just SIT DOWN people. Or at least move out my way so I can sit down.
I see it on the Tube/commuter trains too.
Empty train carriage but people stand by the door clinging on to the rail or leaning against the side giving a performative "look at me.... I'm a suffering commuter" 😂
Just SIT DOWN.

(Those with leg/body problems where sitting down will be painful are excused obviously but the amount of people that insist on standing up - they seriously can't all be not able to bend their knees or whatever)

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noodlebugz · 20/05/2025 13:11

OMG so I am now going back again! Opened the door of the train to a pair of legs!

A couple lying on the floor - surrounded by sainsbury’s bags - about 10!!!

@EleanorReally until the supermarket bags point no visible luggage!

And my reserved seat has someone’s bag in it - at present I’m sitting somewhere else but won’t hesitate to have them move it to sit down!

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outerspacepotato · 20/05/2025 12:59

Just rude and selfish.

I've seen people who sit in the seats that flip up for wheelchair users to be safely secured not want to move when people in a chair get on.

The teens sitting in front of the bathroom on the floor, I would just think they were high because ewwwwwwwww. I hope they do their own laundry.

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noodlebugz · 20/05/2025 12:57

Ablondiebutagoody · 20/05/2025 12:50

I don't think it's any of your business really. Pretty sure that the man would move for a wheelchair user and the teenagers would shuffle out of the way for somebody going to the toilet. If you are bored, you could test that theory. Let us know what happens!

@Ablondiebutagoody The teenagers slightly moved their legs when I got off the train. Not much - more of the shuffle past than an easy exit.
Unsure how I could have tested the wheelchair theory not being a wheelchair user!

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EleanorReally · 20/05/2025 12:55

are they near to their luggage?

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noodlebugz · 20/05/2025 12:54

Talipesmum · 20/05/2025 11:52

Are the seats booked by others later on the route? Were they full before, and now they’ve emptied out but no one has noticed?

@Talipesmum No - I can see available signs around.

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Ablondiebutagoody · 20/05/2025 12:50

I don't think it's any of your business really. Pretty sure that the man would move for a wheelchair user and the teenagers would shuffle out of the way for somebody going to the toilet. If you are bored, you could test that theory. Let us know what happens!

Echobelly · 20/05/2025 11:57

Totally agree - I think sometimes people think they are being helpful by not taking up a seat on a non-full bus or train, whereas they are actually getting in the way of people who need to get to seats. I noticed this particularly before I learned to drive when my oldest was a baby and toddler.

Ever since then I have always gone upstairs on buses, even when not busy because I think you should if you are able so people who can't can access seats downstairs. So often the lower deck is full of standing people, making it hard for pushchairs, wheelchairs and elderly people- and the upper deck is empty.

Talipesmum · 20/05/2025 11:52

Are the seats booked by others later on the route? Were they full before, and now they’ve emptied out but no one has noticed?