For thinking my brother and his wife trying to take my Dad's house?

Your neice sounds vile, i'd be sending the video to her parents, as well as a cookery book for teens

This is disgusting. If he has no wider sensible friends or family you could get to have a talk with him, I would have one conversation with your dad raising the topic of financial abuse (past and future) and advising him to get impartial legal advice to protect himself from being forced out of his own house. Then I would tell him I can’t watch him making bad decisions and being treated this way (being made fun of online is repulsive!!) and will be keeping my distance to protect my own peace of mind. Then do that 💐

Then his solicitor, accountant and bank should have intervened at the time, if he was and is being coerced and is vulnerable you can report your brother for financial and emotional abuse, knowing that he was in no fit state to sign over a business while his wife was dying then I'm surprised and disappointed that he's agreed to give the house away too, does he not feel he is being manipulated. I'd just step away.

You think that favourite child was asked ? 😂

Your parents see it as your responsibility as your brother is “so busy”

Absolutely this. I can understand that it's very hard to untangle love for a family member from actions that are hurtful, but this is someone who is too weak to treat his kids fairly.

Well if you can’t speak to your DF about it, then there is nothing you can do. 🤷‍♀️

In that case, you have no grounds for objecting to your brother doing all this. I'm amazed that you still have love for your father when it sounds like you are not the favourite child and are going to get nothing!

If this happened in my family, I'm not sure I could get over it.

Why would they when muggins (you) will do whatever your told to do?

OP you have a great attitude and you're handling this incredibly well. This could have the effect of chewing people up and causing huge resentments but you're not letting it.

I'd be massively hurt if my parents did this to me especially if you have your own children.

If there is no scope to change the result I would step back and just let it be. It has really nothing to do with you.

They all sound absolutely dreadful and I'd just let them all get on with it. Your father has made his bed.

Your parents have treated you abominably in favouring your brother the way they have. You are wasting your emotions and efforts on people who don't feel any concern for you in return.

My honest advice would be to seek some really good quality therapy, to detach from your father and brother beyond very superficial pleasantries (if you feel you want to stay in contact at all) and then just focus all your energy on your own family where you can have positive influence and hopefully you are valued and treasured.

I understand your feelings but our parents are horrible. They basically have completely favoured your brother who is so entitled he doesn't even see how greedy he is and how unfair this is. I know feelings with parents can be complicated but please get some therapy and me, I'd see a lawyer. Fuck them.

I HATE behaviour like this.

Your parents and brother don't deserve your love. I don't care if your mother is dead - she was a bitch to you and did the full golden child thing with your brother.

Go LC and concentrate on those who do value you.

Good God OP, find your back bone. Your parents have both treated you terribly, they're deeply misogynistic, and you don't want to upset HIM? Not only that but then you're hand wringing about your brothers entitlement - they raised him to be entitled, your father can now accept the consequences of that, it's not down to you to save him from his own awful parenting.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but I'm heart broken for you, this is such a disgusting way from them to have treated you. X

If you’re not going to talk to your dad then your only choice is to step back and let your brother’s plans happen. You need to detach and accept that your parents chose your brother over you and know what he’s like yet won’t change their plans. Yes, they will probably move your dad out, do up the house and sell/rent it out but they are clearly ok with their favourite child doing that.

You can’t expect people who have never gone against your brother to do it now. You should be emotionally protecting yourself and repeating the mantra that they chose this path and detach even though deep down you know that their favouritism is unfair.

This. If Dad held any shares in the business still, he should have received some proceeds (and if he gifted shares to DBro rather than sold them at fair value, it's likely that there's a tax implication for DBro)

Well then, fundamentally he isn’t a good parent. So he isn’t worth worrying about. If he gets moved into a bungalow then so be it.
As long as he isn’t properly neglected then don’t get involved. He has shown no care or concern for you or your children when it comes to finances, so don’t so him any.

Sounds like your parents just wanted a boy, they got a boy so he gets everything. You’re the girl… not worth as much. Stop worrying about him when it comes to his finances or his housing. He won’t be homeless.

And don’t give up time with your kids or take days off work to care for him if he becomes unwell in his old age. Your brother can do that. He doesn’t care about you so take a step back.

I know money isn’t everything, but it’s not about the money. It’s about what the money shows; at the end of the day, he isn’t concerned about you and doesn’t care about treating you equally to the man child.

What are you getting? Left to you in the will

It doesn’t matter that it was your mother’s wish - a good father would know that it was morally wrong to disinherit his daughter and wouldn’t go along with it. He sounds like a very weak man.