For thinking my brother and his wife trying to take my Dad's house?

I would warn your dad. You brother sounds like a right entitled piece of shit and his wife does for that matter disgusting. I would want my parents around forever and no amount of money would make me want otherwise. Huge Red flag!

The brother is probably scheming to move father into the cheaper bungalow so that the valuable house is not swallowed up in any care fees.
But.
The local authority is very hot on winkling out deprivation of assets and will bill accordingly.
Ie ignoring the transfer.
Especially if it can be shown that there was reason to believe care would be needed maybe in the future at the time the asset was transferred.
So.
Keep those postings re how incapable father is at cooking etc.
Brother likely coached his daughter.
Hoist on his own petard.

@SadANDupsetGirlI know you’d never do that but that’s because your parents have failed you and your brother has profited from this whilst your self esteem appears to be in minus figures. Your passivity which results from this is then allowing them to do this again and again.
But it’s wrong! Fight back! Get yourself an ally. Neither of your parents deserves your kindness.

Your mother's favouritism and your father's passivity have really done a number on you, OP. If you're not prepared to make some noise about this, at least don't run around after your father. What care and concern have any of them shown to you? I am sorry, you sound like a kind person but also something of a martyr.

I'm not really sure how anyone where xns help you if your father has decided to give everything to his son because your mother wants him to have the house and he worked on the business, and you don't seem to have any issues with it because you're not driven by money, and you're unwilling to speak to your father about it because you don't want to upset him.

Given you've already accepted the fact that your brother will get the house because that's what your mother wants I don't see why you're concerned if he bringing in architects now. That's your father's cross to bear since he doesn't see anything wrong with such a one sided split of assets between his children.

Then again this story doesn't make sense and I think there's more to it or it's made up. You seem to be very blase about the fact that your father is leaving all his assets, the house and multi million pound business to your brother and nothing to you, yet you're concerned that your brother is bringing in architects to start making plans about the house you admit will be his at some point because that's what your mother wants.

Are their cultural issues? 🙄As if white, British, Christian people/families don't behave like absolute fucking wankers all the time, as evidenced by the plethora of threads on these boards.

@SadANDupsetGirl Your late mother and brother sound like hideous human beings. Your father is an enabler. You are not prepared to fight any of this injustice within your family. And your daughter sounds scared of your niece. You will end up being used by your father/brother/DIL/niece for whatever care and support your father needs, as evidenced by his asking you to help with planting in the house that you have been disinherited from. Do yourself a big favour and walk away from the lot of them. If you don't want to lose contact with your father, find your voice. Tell him how you feel and that you will not be running yourself ragged when your rich, lazy brother gets away with doing nothing for him. Lay down some boundaries and please stop being so passive - this is not a healthy model for your children.

Why do you care? Your parents have both made it clear they favour your brother over you, so I’d leave them all to it.

I’m sorry this is happening to you, completely awful parenting really. As a pp said I do think you need to ask your dad why there has been such a difference and why your brother gets everything and you and your dc nothing. See what is answer is and rest from there.

I can’t see how he is a good dad if treating you so differently to your brother. How was life for you when you were younger? Christmas, birthdays etc? I always spend exactly the same on both dc and am very conscious of treating them equally.

Also, how is your relationship with your brother? Has he shared anything so far or commented on the disparity?

God what a horrible horrible thread. I’m so sorry OP

Are your brother, wife and niece generally unpleasant people in other regards? What a truly horrendous set of actions from them

i think some people on here are being a bit unfair (possibly) about your Dad. It sounds like he has become completely conditioned to do what he is told by wife and your brother over the years. If the genders were reversed I think this would be seen as a much more normal situation regards coercive control.

Is this a family farm business OP?

Don’t put anything in any form of writing, anywhere, without legal advice first. Your brother will get hold of it and, if possible, use it against you. Write it for yourself, don’t deliver it, then destroy it.

I’m not sure what you are getting from this thread if you don’t want to speak to your Dad ? What can anyone else do for you ? You’re lying back and taking this and having your Dad dump his jobs on you whilst handing his money over to your Brother and he has to do nothing … You need to stand up for yourself or walk away and leave them too it .

Fully expecting my manipulative brother to do something similar re financial abuse re mum. He has form but he lives closer and I'm 6 hours away😔

My father in law has signed a million pound hose to my sister in law. It hurts my husband but what can we do? We are very low contact now.

If there has been an element of coercion there could be legal ramifications

You’re so kind about your dad, when it sounds like he’s done very little to deserve it. Usually my first thought when it comes to inheritances etc. is that people come off really grabby, and you are the exact opposite of that. It sounds like your brother gives very few shits about your dad so I’m not surprised you’re feeling so hurt, I’d be furious! It’s not even the money, even if it would benefit you greatly it’s the principle - your brother has millions in the bank after selling a business from under your dad’s feet, is already planning how he’s going to cash in on the house he’s ALIVE AND LIVING IN. Who does that? And him also getting half of the £300k is just obscene on top of it all.

I’m quite a passive person but I’d have to say something. I know you said it’ll upset your dad, but he has no problem upsetting you by making it clear you’re good enough to come and do shit jobs around the house for him while working full time, while his millionaire son pisses about doing nothing, but not good enough to deserve a fair share of inheritance.

It would be a life-changing amount for you, because you didn’t already skank millions off his business because you’re not a scumbag.

Sorry your family are like this. I’d want to speak to my brother again and reiterate that it’s so rude to be planning what he’s doing to maximise his profit on the house when his own dad dies, and what the fuck is he playing at. Make it clear, too, to your dad that you can’t do plants or odd jobs because you have to work. Because you weren’t given millions to live off. He’s got a lovely great son who surely could make time to do that shit!

You say your dad is kind but his actions say different. Fair enough your mum was wrong to promise the house to your brother as well, but your dad could have used his brain and reconsidered when your brother landed up with so much money from the business. Situations change and I find it abhorrent your parents would see you struggle and work hard when they could be supporting you, rather than giving your brother more money to squirrel away.

sorry you’re going through this. It’s not even about the money is it, it’s the way it just makes you feel like your dad doesn’t value you at all enough to grow a backbone.